Mother hates to communicate with me on shared tasks

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:yes, you are correct I need more of a stop gap. I do have frozen meals in the freezer. I have to stock up on snacks for when we are out. I'll just do this. I just thought perhaps someone had gotten through to a person who didn't regularly communicate these things.

The question was about communication, not about setting up a different system. DCUMers have trouble answering the actual questions regularly I've noticed.

Wow you sound so easy to get along with I’m shocked you’re having trouble w your mom!

She's over at our house every day and we spend weekends with her. We love her and she loves us. I just wanted some communication tactics for someone who has been a housewife and has never had to coordinate with another person.

NP. OP, here’s your answer, “ hey Mom. I appreciate all that you’re doing but it stresses me out when I don’t know whether you’ve prepared dinner on any given night. It makes it hard for me to plan ahead and the uncertainty is stressful. It would be a huge help if you give me a heads up in advance so i can plan ahead. Thanks, Mom. Love you.” Is this really so complicated for you?

Gosh if only I knew how to do that. This thread was finished pages ago. People do not post here for everyone's feels and vibes. Either help out or find another hobby.

The thread is not over because you hysterically defensively continue to respond to EVERY post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm merely posting because it's frustrating that no one can post here anymore without someone just going off their vibe or feel to post some dislike about a topic. Now I was reading people want to start an in-law page here because there is too much in-law hate and it's clogging up this category. Get off the hate and find something productive to do. If you are a married spouse who does all the shopping for their kids and doesn't need to coordinate on food with anyone much less Grandma who lives 2 states over, is it really necessary to post your hate about some single person's food choices or coordination with others? Or like the single mom who feels this need to tell everyone else how awful their food purchases are and express how put-together she is. Why? It's just plain old hate disguised in different ways. It's not helpful. It's not kind.

Take your own advice.

[Anonymous]

OPs problem is she has champagne tastes on a beer budget. She expects her elderly mom who has her own issues to serve as maid, chef, and stand in spouse for no pay. She also expects free advice from internet strangers to meet her exact specifications, no more no less, and be delivered as kindly as her dedicate sensibilities can handle. She could have just saved herself some hassle and used google since she thought a short YouTube would be the obvious simple solution to her not so simple problem. OP is all take and no give.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm merely posting because it's frustrating that no one can post here anymore without someone just going off their vibe or feel to post some dislike about a topic. Now I was reading people want to start an in-law page here because there is too much in-law hate and it's clogging up this category. Get off the hate and find something productive to do. If you are a married spouse who does all the shopping for their kids and doesn't need to coordinate on food with anyone much less Grandma who lives 2 states over, is it really necessary to post your hate about some single person's food choices or coordination with others? Or like the single mom who feels this need to tell everyone else how awful their food purchases are and express how put-together she is. Why? It's just plain old hate disguised in different ways. It's not helpful. It's not kind.

In all the time you're wasting here you could have done your own laundry and shopping instead of berating your poor mom with cognitive issues to hop to it and send her lazy daughter a text because she can't tell if the laundry is done. Your communication and time management skills need work.

Seriously. Its 4:36 pm. Go cook your kids dinner instead of trolling!

Cognitively impaired grandma is furiously whipping up a gourmet (but healthy!) meal for OP’s teenagers while she complains to DCUM about… DCUM (and vibes?).

[Anonymous]

She is doing no cooking. You people are nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm merely posting because it's frustrating that no one can post here anymore without someone just going off their vibe or feel to post some dislike about a topic. Now I was reading people want to start an in-law page here because there is too much in-law hate and it's clogging up this category. Get off the hate and find something productive to do. If you are a married spouse who does all the shopping for their kids and doesn't need to coordinate on food with anyone much less Grandma who lives 2 states over, is it really necessary to post your hate about some single person's food choices or coordination with others? Or like the single mom who feels this need to tell everyone else how awful their food purchases are and express how put-together she is. Why? It's just plain old hate disguised in different ways. It's not helpful. It's not kind.

Take your own advice.

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is doing no cooking. You people are nuts.

I hope she stops cooking for you. You seem totally ungrateful. And nuts.