Mother hates to communicate with me on shared tasks

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m a single mother and you’re ridiculous. You’re acting like a toddler so I’ll treat you like one, you get what you get and don’t pitch a fit.

We have no relations. This is all in your head.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

I have said thank you to everyone that has been helpful. You specifically came on here to berate and have no experience and no helpful suggestions. You've been a jerk from the start and came on here to be one. There are people like you all over dcum and it takes five pages just to get one helpful suggestion these days because of people like you. You can't even ask where is a good church without someone commenting on your religion or ask whether to go on vacation somewhere without someone telling you how wasteful spending is to do that activity. You like to hate. It is obvious.

Sweets, more than one person has leveled with you here. I thought you were done? Why do you keep coming back to continue showing everyone what an ass you are? Don't you have a mom to abuse?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m a single mother and you’re ridiculous. You’re acting like a toddler so I’ll treat you like one, you get what you get and don’t pitch a fit.

We have no relations. This is all in your head.

Not quite sure what you mean, but you are responsible for your children, not your mom. It’s nice that she helps but you either graciously accept or refuse what she gives you. You don’t get to manage her like an employee.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

You just said you take them to McDonalds at least once a week and are open to taking them three times a week. So which is it? That, or the bolded where you said they're not eating fast food very often at all?

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

That is concerning for a caretaker.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

You just said you take them to McDonalds at least once a week and are open to taking them three times a week. So which is it? That, or the bolded where you said they're not eating fast food very often at all?

Once a week they have some fast food. Often not McDonalds but fast food. I didn't say I was open to it. I said I'd have to take them out three times a week if I didn't get help or cut back on something else in their lives. The kids are thriving. We are good. I don't need or want your help on nutrition and this wasn't a post about nutrition. It was about communication.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

That is concerning for a caretaker.

She's not a caretaker. She buys food and does laundry. It's amazing how many people can't stay on topic. She can think well but can't handle a lot of newness. It's like that family that only goes to The Beach in the other thread running right now. She likes to think about what she can provide without involving others is all.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

That is concerning for a caretaker.

She's not a caretaker. She buys food and does laundry. It's amazing how many people can't stay on topic. She can think well but can't handle a lot of newness. It's like that family that only goes to The Beach in the other thread running right now. She likes to think about what she can provide without involving others is all.

Ok it’s concerning for any aging person.
It is fun to see how you spin things to your liking though. Buying food and cooking for someone else actually is caretaking. Taking care of others.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

That is concerning for a caretaker.

She's not a caretaker. She buys food and does laundry. It's amazing how many people can't stay on topic. She can think well but can't handle a lot of newness. It's like that family that only goes to The Beach in the other thread running right now. She likes to think about what she can provide without involving others is all.

Ok it’s concerning for any aging person.
It is fun to see how you spin things to your liking though. Buying food and cooking for someone else actually is caretaking. Taking care of others.

No, this is called projection. You are projecting your concern. I wasn't concerned about her buying food or doing laundry. You brought up the term being concerned yourself and now you are concerned about the term. Really you aren't concerned at all for me or her. You are just using that word to dislike something.

Really there are so many dysfunctional people just trying to bring their hate on others. I think DCUM is what reddit is for men. They just like to come on and henpick other women. My mother wouldn't be over all the time if she didn't love us and we didn't get along. Just that basic fact says we get along. Secondly your issue that you have with my mother is not one I brought up or that I have as an issue with the tasks she's doing. She does them for herself without help and enjoys doing them for us.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

You just said you take them to McDonalds at least once a week and are open to taking them three times a week. So which is it? That, or the bolded where you said they're not eating fast food very often at all?

Once a week they have some fast food. Often not McDonalds but fast food. I didn't say I was open to it. I said I'd have to take them out three times a week if I didn't get help or cut back on something else in their lives. The kids are thriving. We are good. I don't need or want your help on nutrition and this wasn't a post about nutrition. It was about communication.

No honey. You're NOT good. An adult who is thriving and doing well doesn't need their senior citizen mommy to do their laundry, pay for their groceries and cook them dinner. Older people should be taken care of. They shouldn't be responsible for taking care of others. You should be cooking your mom meals and doing HER laundry and making HER life easier.

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^^ you don’t disappoint. You are such a wonderful daughter to let her serve you.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

You just said you take them to McDonalds at least once a week and are open to taking them three times a week. So which is it? That, or the bolded where you said they're not eating fast food very often at all?

Once a week they have some fast food. Often not McDonalds but fast food. I didn't say I was open to it. I said I'd have to take them out three times a week if I didn't get help or cut back on something else in their lives. The kids are thriving. We are good. I don't need or want your help on nutrition and this wasn't a post about nutrition. It was about communication.

No honey. You're NOT good. An adult who is thriving and doing well doesn't need their senior citizen mommy to do their laundry, pay for their groceries and cook them dinner. Older people should be taken care of. They shouldn't be responsible for taking care of others. You should be cooking your mom meals and doing HER laundry and making HER life easier.

She gets help on other things. We don't have an issue with each other other than talking through tasks. Sorry you have to do so much for your mom.

I've literally never posted on this forum before. Never again. Miserable people.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop relying on her for such a basic thing as food. Buy and cook your own food. Let Grandma be a grandma.

My husband is no longer with us and she's happy to do it. She's the one who suggested helping out this way and she's doing it so I'm not going to complain or buy and cook my own food when I have someone else to do it and the kids are thriving and I'm busy from morning to night with them and work. But thanks for not helping and being snarky.

Wow, you're sure defensive. I wasn't being snarky at all. What she's doing isn't helping. She's happy to do something that's not helpful. I am also a single mom, and feeding my kids fast food on any sort of regular (weekly/monthly) basis is unacceptable to me. I make time to buy food for myself and my kids. That's my responsibility as an adult and a parent to minor children. I take time to cook food and prep so we have things we can eat semi-quickly. If you're so hard up for money that you need this from your mom, maybe flip it and buy the food and let her reimburse you for it. But overall, her "help" is not "helping".

Well good for you, but most single moms would gladly welcome the money and help for food and I'm not going to give it up simply because I don't get a text from her saying she brought the food over. Pat yourself on the back. You seem good at it. I don't need your help since you already do everything yourself and aren't in my situation where you actually need the help.

NP. You sound like an entitled b*, OP. It's not wonder you're single. Btw, you can feed your kids' better food than McDonald's and 7-11 (ugh!) on a budget. How about think on it a bit and stop depending on mommy. I've been a single parent, too, and I put on my big girl pants and did the hard work.

You just seem like a b*

Lol! Thanks, OP! At least I'm a b* that can take care of my own kids!

I'm glad you have a positive trait to make up for the lack of kindness and any ability to help another person.

You're a user and taking advantage of your elderly mother. You're not kind nor nice and have been rude to everyone here. Take care of your own kids, they are your responsibility and you're seriously lacking in that area while you are bending over backwards to pat yourself on the back.

My kids are thriving. They are doing great and are not eating at McDonalds very often at all. My mom and I get along. She can't handle coordination with others these days. Even when the boys and I talk to her often the responses are just from her head because she can't process as well. I was just trying to make things easier for both of us. It wasn't using. It was trying to be helpful. Just because other people on this board hate on others doesn't make what you say true.

You just said you take them to McDonalds at least once a week and are open to taking them three times a week. So which is it? That, or the bolded where you said they're not eating fast food very often at all?

Once a week they have some fast food. Often not McDonalds but fast food. I didn't say I was open to it. I said I'd have to take them out three times a week if I didn't get help or cut back on something else in their lives. The kids are thriving. We are good. I don't need or want your help on nutrition and this wasn't a post about nutrition. It was about communication.

No honey. You're NOT good. An adult who is thriving and doing well doesn't need their senior citizen mommy to do their laundry, pay for their groceries and cook them dinner. Older people should be taken care of. They shouldn't be responsible for taking care of others. You should be cooking your mom meals and doing HER laundry and making HER life easier.

She gets help on other things. We don't have an issue with each other other than talking through tasks. Sorry you have to do so much for your mom.

I've literally never posted on this forum before. Never again. Miserable people.

No, I don't have to do so much for my mom, but if I did, I'd do it with pleasure after she spent almost 20 years doing for me. It'll be nice to do for her when the time comes.

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Honestly I found your OP hard to follow. I think you should consider whether you are communicating clearly. I think the communication issue could be on your end