I am so sick of talking about sexuality, gender, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:In my day it was interracial dating. My parents didn't want to hear about that either.

Why? As a white-Asian 40 year old, what about interracial dating was strange to your parents? My parents clearly had no trouble with it

Interracial marriage was banned in many states up until the 1967 “Loving vs Virginia” Supreme ruling. Unfortunately it is still frowned upon by many white supremacists.

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This is completely cultural and a result of our “woke” world where it’s cool to be non-traditional. I’m I have a rising 9th and 8th grader. In our middle school in another state, we have known of exactly two kids who announced they were gay and pansexual. The kids are accepting of these two but not obsessed or overly interested in their sexuality. However, there is a lot of old-fashioned chatter about who likes whom (mostly the girls liking the boys but sometimes the reverse).

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, we're supposed to say "people who can become pregnant" instead of "women" so as not to offend trans men, even though it means implying that infertile women are not women?
How is that progress?

Yes you are supposed to WHEN TALKING TO YOUR TRANS F2M CHILD!

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, we're supposed to say "people who can become pregnant" instead of "women" so as not to offend trans men, even though it means implying that infertile women are not women?
How is that progress?

You can say women. You might get some flack in chronically online spaces where they use language like “people with uteruses” etc but this isn’t actually a huge movement in real life like some people make it out to be. It’s just another boogeyman designed to rile you up.

Ironic since pp was reacting to someone who had to deal with it “in real life.”

It was her trans child

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Anonymous wrote:This is completely cultural and a result of our “woke” world where it’s cool to be non-traditional. I’m I have a rising 9th and 8th grader. In our middle school in another state, we have known of exactly two kids who announced they were gay and pansexual. The kids are accepting of these two but not obsessed or overly interested in their sexuality. However, there is a lot of old-fashioned chatter about who likes whom (mostly the girls liking the boys but sometimes the reverse).

Why is there a lot of heterosexual chatter!?!

Why can’t they keep that to themselves? Little slut!

/s

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Anonymous wrote:My son is a rising 7th grader and luckily not quite there yet. He does inundate me with all the videogame and YouTube talk though!
He seems to think it’s stupid to have so many genders - he was talking about the latest Wings of Fire book and how “they now have pronouns, oh no!” I just tell him to be very careful when discussing it with friends for fear to be labeled a bigot or whatnot. But I secretly agree with him lol

To add: I actually went so far as to tell him that it’s a fad for 99% of people talking about it. If he is the 1% who is serious about it he should come to me and I will support him. But if he just wants to fit in - fine but I won’t be going out of my way to support him, just not disparage. And he shouldn’t dismiss other people who think it’s serious for them even if he thinks it’s not. And he shouldn’t question others, except at home with me we can roll eyes together
He knows society is not too tolerant to all the homophobic and transphobic stuff, at least not where we live.

Do you think that society should tolerate homophobia and transphobia, when it literally leads to violence, murder, bullying and keeping people from getting jobs and housing, etc.? Serious question. I genuinely want to know your answer.

I am not sure I understand your question? There should be no “phobias” ideally. And definitely no violence. What I meant was - he shouldn’t say things that can be interpreted as phobic, such as “you are just falling for the fad”, even though it may be true. He should NOT say it, period.

Thank you for clarifying. I did not mean to put you on the spot, I genuinely could not tell if you wanted homophobia and transphobia to be "tolerated," even though they cause people to be directly harmed.

No, I am just against labeling any thought dissenting from “it’s so cool to talk about genders and pronouns every time, everywhere” as trans- or whatever phobia.

Shouldn't an individual who wants their name and pronouns to be used and respected be free to say so anytime, anywhere? Where and when is it "not OK" for them to do so? Should they not feel welcome and safe and respected in church, in school, in your neighborhood--where/when is it not OK? Genuine question.

nobody is respected everywhere. nobody feels safe and welcome everywhere. but you already know this.

But they should be, and that is the world we’re supposed to be creating. But hopefully you already know this…?

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Anonymous wrote:My son is a rising 7th grader and luckily not quite there yet. He does inundate me with all the videogame and YouTube talk though!
He seems to think it’s stupid to have so many genders - he was talking about the latest Wings of Fire book and how “they now have pronouns, oh no!” I just tell him to be very careful when discussing it with friends for fear to be labeled a bigot or whatnot. But I secretly agree with him lol

To add: I actually went so far as to tell him that it’s a fad for 99% of people talking about it. If he is the 1% who is serious about it he should come to me and I will support him. But if he just wants to fit in - fine but I won’t be going out of my way to support him, just not disparage. And he shouldn’t dismiss other people who think it’s serious for them even if he thinks it’s not. And he shouldn’t question others, except at home with me we can roll eyes together
He knows society is not too tolerant to all the homophobic and transphobic stuff, at least not where we live.

Do you think that society should tolerate homophobia and transphobia, when it literally leads to violence, murder, bullying and keeping people from getting jobs and housing, etc.? Serious question. I genuinely want to know your answer.

I am not sure I understand your question? There should be no “phobias” ideally. And definitely no violence. What I meant was - he shouldn’t say things that can be interpreted as phobic, such as “you are just falling for the fad”, even though it may be true. He should NOT say it, period.

Thank you for clarifying. I did not mean to put you on the spot, I genuinely could not tell if you wanted homophobia and transphobia to be "tolerated," even though they cause people to be directly harmed.

No, I am just against labeling any thought dissenting from “it’s so cool to talk about genders and pronouns every time, everywhere” as trans- or whatever phobia.

Shouldn't an individual who wants their name and pronouns to be used and respected be free to say so anytime, anywhere? Where and when is it "not OK" for them to do so? Should they not feel welcome and safe and respected in church, in school, in your neighborhood--where/when is it not OK? Genuine question.

They are not safe from eye rolls! Genuine answer.

Got it, so you’re teaching your kid to be a jerk. Because when a person says, “Hi, I’m Kevin,” and you roll your eyes, you’re a jerk, and there’s no other word for it.

If a person doesn’t look like Kevin at all, yes, I will roll my eyes later in private. Not to “his” face of course.

Nobody said you couldn’t privately think your thoughts. It is how you treat people that matters. But you’re contradicting yourself, because you are saying “they’re not safe from eye rolls,” meaning your kids would roll your eyes at someone.

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Anonymous wrote:My MS DD declared that she liked girls to me, but a few months later I overheard her talking to a friend of hers that she liked a boy in their class. So... I guess she's Bi? Or still figuring it out? Honestly, it makes no difference to me, I just love getting to know her better as she's figuring out who she is.

You overhearing her is not the same as her deciding to confide in you. I hope you get that.

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Anonymous wrote:mail delivery person is still stupid

Nobody says that. It's "mail carrier".

It's mail man or mail lady for me.

OK? And?

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Anonymous wrote:mail delivery person is still stupid

Nobody says that, they say mail carrier.

I actually call her Mimi. When people ask how I know her I say she delivers my mail.

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Anonymous wrote:mail delivery person is still stupid

Nobody says that, they say mail carrier.

I actually call her Mimi. When people ask how I know her I say she delivers my mail.

And then everyone starts clapping, because you are such an amazing human being for condescending to know the name of a service worker.

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Anonymous wrote:mail delivery person is still stupid

Nobody says that, they say mail carrier.

I actually call her Mimi. When people ask how I know her I say she delivers my mail.

And then everyone starts clapping, because you are such an amazing human being for condescending to know the name of a service worker.

Wow! Everything offends you even me being friends with the person that delivers my mail. #urelitist

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Anonymous wrote:In my day it was interracial dating. My parents didn't want to hear about that either.

Why? As a white-Asian 40 year old, what about interracial dating was strange to your parents? My parents clearly had no trouble with it

Interracial marriage was banned in many states up until the 1967 “Loving vs Virginia” Supreme ruling. Unfortunately it is still frowned upon by many white supremacists.

Also frowned upon by other people who are not white supremacists, for better or worse reasons. Everyone is not just like you.

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Anonymous wrote:mail delivery person is still stupid

Nobody says that, they say mail carrier.

I actually call her Mimi. When people ask how I know her I say she delivers my mail.

And then everyone starts clapping, because you are such an amazing human being for condescending to know the name of a service worker.

Wow! Everything offends you even me being friends with the person that delivers my mail. #urelitist

You acting like you knowing the name of your mail carrier is some big deal makes you elitist.

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Anonymous wrote:mail delivery person is still stupid

Nobody says that, they say mail carrier.

I actually call her Mimi. When people ask how I know her I say she delivers my mail.

And then everyone starts clapping, because you are such an amazing human being for condescending to know the name of a service worker.

Wow! Everything offends you even me being friends with the person that delivers my mail. #urelitist

You acting like you knowing the name of your mail carrier is some big deal makes you elitist.

You’re insane