stop addressing cards to Mr and Mrs husband's first name!

[Anonymous]

I didn't even take his last name let alone his first name. Just send it to him alone if you don't care to know or acknowledge that.

ANYWAY

[Anonymous]

Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you.

Except it's close family and we've brought it up with them a couple of times in years past already because I do not like it. I don't think it's MEANT to offend me. And I'm not offended. I'm irritated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you.

Except it's close family and we've brought it up with them a couple of times in years past already because I do not like it. I don't think it's MEANT to offend me. And I'm not offended. I'm irritated.

OP your title is not going to generate productive responses here.

But I get it - I don't really care for one-off interactions or my DH's elderly relatives who are not going to change. But there are a couple peer-age ppl who have been told multiple times and should know and at some point it is just rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you.

Except it's close family and we've brought it up with them a couple of times in years past already because I do not like it. I don't think it's MEANT to offend me. And I'm not offended. I'm irritated.

I'm sorry they intend to irritate you. But I don't think that's typical behavior.

I address my cards to however the person prefers to be addressed. My aunt didn't take my uncle's last name, but they like being Mr. and Mrs. <Husband's Last>-<Wife's Last> even though that's not actually either of their names. It's how they sign their own letters/cards.

Most people do the same.

[Anonymous]

I cannot care less what people call me, OP. I kept my name, and my kids have hyphenated names, but if people want to call all of us by my husband's last name, IT'S FINE. There are worse things in the world.

[Anonymous]

I typically think people overreact, but I agree with the OP. Would these people write to Mr. and Mrs. Douglas Emhoff, if they were sending a card to VP and her husband? Mr. and Mrs. Smith is bad, if they've been told that it's still Ms. Jones, but Mrs. John Smith? This isn't 1937. (I'm male and my wife kept her name, if it matters.)

[Anonymous]

It doesn't really bother me, but I find that the only people who still address cards like this are elderly so I give it a pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you.

Except it's close family and we've brought it up with them a couple of times in years past already because I do not like it. I don't think it's MEANT to offend me. And I'm not offended. I'm irritated.

OP your title is not going to generate productive responses here.

But I get it - I don't really care for one-off interactions or my DH's elderly relatives who are not going to change. But there are a couple peer-age ppl who have been told multiple times and should know and at some point it is just rude.

This is OP - and for sure, I would not give this two thoughts if it were elderly relatives. These people are younger than we are!

I was annoyed for a moment, vented for a moment, now I'm over it - till next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you.

Except it's close family and we've brought it up with them a couple of times in years past already because I do not like it. I don't think it's MEANT to offend me. And I'm not offended. I'm irritated.

I'm sorry they intend to irritate you. But I don't think that's typical behavior.

I address my cards to however the person prefers to be addressed. My aunt didn't take my uncle's last name, but they like being Mr. and Mrs. <Husband's Last>-<Wife's Last> even though that's not actually either of their names. It's how they sign their own letters/cards.

Most people do the same.

"I address my cards to however the person prefers to be addressed."

I have told them multiple times I like to be addressed by my own name

And first of all, in this year of the lord no most people are not preferring to be called Mrs husband's first name. And second of all, that is specifically not how I like to be addressed. Which they know. And just don't bother updating in their little spreadsheet. It would take exactly 30 seconds to fix this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot care less what people call me, OP. I kept my name, and my kids have hyphenated names, but if people want to call all of us by my husband's last name, IT'S FINE. There are worse things in the world.

they are calling me by my husband's FIRST name

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you.

Except it's close family and we've brought it up with them a couple of times in years past already because I do not like it. I don't think it's MEANT to offend me. And I'm not offended. I'm irritated.

I'm sorry they intend to irritate you. But I don't think that's typical behavior.

I address my cards to however the person prefers to be addressed. My aunt didn't take my uncle's last name, but they like being Mr. and Mrs. <Husband's Last>-<Wife's Last> even though that's not actually either of their names. It's how they sign their own letters/cards.

Most people do the same.

"I address my cards to however the person prefers to be addressed."

I have told them multiple times I like to be addressed by my own name

And first of all, in this year of the lord no most people are not preferring to be called Mrs husband's first name. And second of all, that is specifically not how I like to be addressed. Which they know. And just don't bother updating in their little spreadsheet. It would take exactly 30 seconds to fix this.

It would probably take even less time for them to remove you from the spreadsheet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you.

Except it's close family and we've brought it up with them a couple of times in years past already because I do not like it. I don't think it's MEANT to offend me. And I'm not offended. I'm irritated.

I'm sorry they intend to irritate you. But I don't think that's typical behavior.

I address my cards to however the person prefers to be addressed. My aunt didn't take my uncle's last name, but they like being Mr. and Mrs. <Husband's Last>-<Wife's Last> even though that's not actually either of their names. It's how they sign their own letters/cards.

Most people do the same.

"I address my cards to however the person prefers to be addressed."

I have told them multiple times I like to be addressed by my own name

And first of all, in this year of the lord no most people are not preferring to be called Mrs husband's first name. And second of all, that is specifically not how I like to be addressed. Which they know. And just don't bother updating in their little spreadsheet. It would take exactly 30 seconds to fix this.

It would probably take even less time for them to remove you from the spreadsheet.

That's fine, too! You want to punish me for liking to have my own name? I can live with that!

[Anonymous]

Return to Sender. No such name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot care less what people call me, OP. I kept my name, and my kids have hyphenated names, but if people want to call all of us by my husband's last name, IT'S FINE. There are worse things in the world.

they are calling me by my husband's FIRST name

It is the job of family members to irritate each other. I would chuckle and move on. You have bigger fish to fry. Or if you don’t, then thank your good fortune.