stop addressing cards to Mr and Mrs husband's first name!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women that keep their last name are obnoxious

Hi there! This is new for me. I don’t think I have ever been called obnoxious for keeping my name. Who knew that’s what some people think? Ah well, you can’t please everyone and it’s not worth trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't wait until OP has to address wedding invitations and has to
learn etiquette.

Perhaps the people who didn't bother to get her name right will learn proper ettiquette. Actually, here's a PSA to you - proper ettiquette IS addressing people correctly. Mr and Mrs Man Name is not correct if there is no Mrs Man Name. I'm Dr Woman Name and my husband is Dr Man Name. The correct address is Drs Woman Name and Man Name. Anyone with any sort of ettiquette knowledge would care to do that properly. And when you don't, I judge you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have my doctorate. My husband does not. I had a major laugh when a private school sent us a letter to Mr. and Dr. John Doe. Sorry, but no. My degree doesn’t transfer to my husband by virtue of marriage….

Yeah, I would have chuckled at that too. I hope it wasn't the invite to the fundraising gala.....

.....because when they get this wrong and turn around and ask for money, it's just hilariously inappropriate all the way around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women that keep their last name are obnoxious

The two part last name are kinda’ obnoxious too.

My sister did that and still does as a divorced woman

What are the rules on that ?
Anyone know?

Ha! Why must the two hyphenated names to be nearly impossible to spell and or pronounce? Examples:

Rajakowski-Ptolemaicfeldszein

Settlemejeirdotter-Itbanisk

+1
If I had this name, I'd definitely change it. I'd change it to Wells or Jones or something.

[Anonymous]

I am really finding this thread appalling. People really feel that they shouldn’t have to be bothered to know your name, you should be SO thankful for their mass printed card that you just humbly give thanks being recognized at all? How bizarre! I took my husband’s last name but have a doctorate and I really don’t care what people call me. Like at all. Mr.T-Rex’s cool aunt would be fine with me, truly. But some people do care and want to be called by the name they have thoughtfully chosen. The principal of our school got her doctorate a few years ago and she is VERY explicit about wanting to be called Dr. Principal. Fine! Who cares. I can’t believe people are giving OP a hard time about this and calling someone wanting to be called by *their* name DEI crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot care less what people call me, OP. I kept my name, and my kids have hyphenated names, but if people want to call all of us by my husband's last name, IT'S FINE. There are worse things in the world.

Do u like to be known as Mrs. John Smith? That's what she is talking about.

[Anonymous]

I completely agree. I don't want to be called Mrs. [Husband's First Name, Last Name]. I did take my husband's last name but I did not take his first name. I have my own.

[Anonymous]

It’s 2024. My name is not Mrs. John Doe. Only my MIL addresses mail to me in that way, and I’m certain she does it out of spite. Otherwise, people, get with the program. We are not chattel. Mrs is silly. How ridiculous to walk around using a title that announces that we are married. How archaic. Titles are stupid anyway but if they must be used, use Ms!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Return to Sender. No such name.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'm amazed that younger people would do that!

Dh's Grandma used to write "Mr & Mrs John Doe". She was very traditional. Everyone else just writes "Jon and Jane Doe." Or vice versa.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many of you who explain your actions as "tradition" believe in equality between men and women?

Explain your actions? I don’t think any of us are advocating to ignore OP’s preferences like her relatives did. I’m a traditionalist though in how I like to be addressed. I believe in equal rights and that the sexes are equally valuable, but I also recognize that men and women are different.

Are we reading the same thread? It sounds like you don't have a problem calling women by their preferred name. Yet, there are many people chastising OP for being annoyed that she is regularly addressed by a name that's not hers. I have to ask, though, as a "traditionalist" if a man you knew took his DW's name upon marriage, would you address him by his new name?

[Anonymous]

Older people were taught that is proper.

It really is not about you.

Just let it go.

That generation is on the way out.

[Anonymous]

You people are lucky you have no real problems.