Staying Together After Horrible Comments

[Anonymous]

This was a car with at least 3 people in it. She says that ONE of their fry orders were missing, which means that other fry orders were in the bag. Seems that she was suggesting that they just split the orders of fries among themselves. So, you get a few fries less, but that doesn't mean you're missing out entirely on the fries you were craving. This wasn't a situation where he'd get no fries. For all we know, she'd be the one to get zero fries. Drop the pity for the poor husband with no fries since he was going to get some no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Do people really do that - pay for items in a drive through and then just drive off without the items if they aren't ready immediately?

I am surprised by how many people seem to think that is the right option.

In a drive through I expect there to be brief delays sometimes for myself and the people ahead of me. I have zero expectation that everything be available immediately everytime. Probably 50% of the time I go through a drive through there is some kind of wait when I reach the window and often as I sit in line, I see the cars in front of me waiting. I have never thought to be annoyed at them or to just drive away. That is how drive throughs work. Sometimes it takes an extra minute to get the right order to the car.

Who are you people who just drive off? What a waste of food / drink! Learn to slow down. An extra minute or two for you or the people two cars up is nothing. Your life isn't that important that you can't wait a minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was a car with at least 3 people in it. She says that ONE of their fry orders were missing, which means that other fry orders were in the bag. Seems that she was suggesting that they just split the orders of fries among themselves. So, you get a few fries less, but that doesn't mean you're missing out entirely on the fries you were craving. This wasn't a situation where he'd get no fries. For all we know, she'd be the one to get zero fries. Drop the pity for the poor husband with no fries since he was going to get some no matter what.

You’re a moron. Yeah let’s try to divvy up three orders of fries among four people in a vehicle when one of the people is the driver. Are you OP? Get a life.

[Anonymous]

This thread should go down the history of DCUM as "The Great Fries War"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was a car with at least 3 people in it. She says that ONE of their fry orders were missing, which means that other fry orders were in the bag. Seems that she was suggesting that they just split the orders of fries among themselves. So, you get a few fries less, but that doesn't mean you're missing out entirely on the fries you were craving. This wasn't a situation where he'd get no fries. For all we know, she'd be the one to get zero fries. Drop the pity for the poor husband with no fries since he was going to get some no matter what.

They ordered three fries.

They paid for three fries.

It would take a few moments and making a simple request to an employee to get the missing order. The employee likely would have had them pull into a space to wait; fine.

OP was more concerned with how she would be perceived by members of the team behind them than making a simple request of an employee whose job it is to help customers; it would have taken mere moments to make this totally reasonable request. And then she has the nerve to call him "deranged" for simply wanting to ask an employee for something he already ordered and paid for? Wow.

[Anonymous]

Unbelievable, so much bad energy in one thread... The best bits of the threads so far for those who just tuned in:


10/20/2019 10:32 I can only imagine how miserable it must be being married to you.

10/20/2019 10:42 You need to be in therapy

10/20/2019 11:49 WTF is wrong with you two?!

10/20/2019 12:06 You're ridiculous, OP.

10/20/2019 12:49 “I’ve thought about our McDonalds fight and I realize I was totally in the wrong. It was way out of line for me to call you deranged. And I guess this must be a pattern of me being unreasonable and abusive that I never noticed. I’m sorry I am making you feel trapped in misery. I don’t want you to be miserable. I’m goi g to find a therapist and seriously work on my shit. When you’re up for dinner t and see a change in my behavior, maybe you would be willing to go to marriage counseling w Th me?”

10/20/2019 12:49 OP, ignore the other posters. My guess is that your husband has a temper and has no sense of when it's appropriate to let something go.

10/20/2019 14:12 Feminazi finally made it! We were getting worried. Did church just let out?

10/20/2019 14:14 OP you are abusive.

10/20/2019 14:24 You're unhinged.


10/20/2019 14:46 I think calling a spouse “deranged” is the nuclear reaction. The fact that it comes in response to the spouse’s total innocence (waiting on McD fries?!)? She’s gaslighting him

10/20/2019 15:46 Dear God.....

10/20/2019 17:40 You’re stupid. I hope you’re not a psychologist or doctor.

10/20/2019 17:51 Any possibility he’s having an affair?

10/20/2019 18:00Yup, fries are the best part. You never want to be shorted on fries

10/20/2019 18:25 This whole incident is stupid IMHO.

10/20/2019 18:25 She said he got angry first then she called him deranged but most posters are ignoring his anger.

10/20/2019 19:38 Not exactly. She got embarrassed and wanted him to drive off without his purchased fries, THEN he got angry.

10/20/2019 19:57 Sure, issues may run deep with this couple, but in this case, OP's gaslighting.

10/20/2019 20:49 His comment the next day was definitely Aspie. that or he is a bonafide A-hole or half out the door. Aspie's say cutdown stuff like that weekly.

10/20/2019 22:51 I can’t believe how many people think his anger over her anxiety is reasonable. She needs help for her anxiety and he needs help for anger.


10/20/2019 23:40 Who has anxiety at the McD drive thru? That is irrational.


10/21/2019 06:31 This is an off the rails thread.

10/21/2019 07:12 It’s fries. That’s what $3? Divorce costs 10,000x that.

10/21/2019 07:24 OP, this is a bad forum for advice. See a professional.


10/21/2019 11:18 Look, it doesn't really matter who is 'at fault'.


10/21/2019 11:22 People who are having affairs often use the slightest opportunity to pick a fight to prove how horrible the victim spouse is.


10/21/2019 16:55 He said a cruel marital comment the next day after stewing over the above. Is he a real jerk Wtf knows.


10/23/2019 02:37 You’re a moron.

10/21/2019 17:08 I have now read through all 8 pages of this thread, and I just want to know if anyone else now shares my overwhelming craving for McDonald's French fries?!


One can not help but wonder if McD sponsored the thread. But seriously, good luck to OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable, so much bad energy in one thread... The best bits of the threads so far for those who just tuned in:


10/20/2019 10:32 I can only imagine how miserable it must be being married to you.

10/20/2019 10:42 You need to be in therapy

10/20/2019 11:49 WTF is wrong with you two?!

10/20/2019 12:06 You're ridiculous, OP.

10/20/2019 12:49 “I’ve thought about our McDonalds fight and I realize I was totally in the wrong. It was way out of line for me to call you deranged. And I guess this must be a pattern of me being unreasonable and abusive that I never noticed. I’m sorry I am making you feel trapped in misery. I don’t want you to be miserable. I’m goi g to find a therapist and seriously work on my shit. When you’re up for dinner t and see a change in my behavior, maybe you would be willing to go to marriage counseling w Th me?”

10/20/2019 12:49 OP, ignore the other posters. My guess is that your husband has a temper and has no sense of when it's appropriate to let something go.

10/20/2019 14:12 Feminazi finally made it! We were getting worried. Did church just let out?

10/20/2019 14:14 OP you are abusive.

10/20/2019 14:24 You're unhinged.


10/20/2019 14:46 I think calling a spouse “deranged” is the nuclear reaction. The fact that it comes in response to the spouse’s total innocence (waiting on McD fries?!)? She’s gaslighting him

10/20/2019 15:46 Dear God.....

10/20/2019 17:40 You’re stupid. I hope you’re not a psychologist or doctor.

10/20/2019 17:51 Any possibility he’s having an affair?

10/20/2019 18:00Yup, fries are the best part. You never want to be shorted on fries

10/20/2019 18:25 This whole incident is stupid IMHO.

10/20/2019 18:25 She said he got angry first then she called him deranged but most posters are ignoring his anger.

10/20/2019 19:38 Not exactly. She got embarrassed and wanted him to drive off without his purchased fries, THEN he got angry.

10/20/2019 19:57 Sure, issues may run deep with this couple, but in this case, OP's gaslighting.

10/20/2019 20:49 His comment the next day was definitely Aspie. that or he is a bonafide A-hole or half out the door. Aspie's say cutdown stuff like that weekly.

10/20/2019 22:51 I can’t believe how many people think his anger over her anxiety is reasonable. She needs help for her anxiety and he needs help for anger.


10/20/2019 23:40 Who has anxiety at the McD drive thru? That is irrational.


10/21/2019 06:31 This is an off the rails thread.

10/21/2019 07:12 It’s fries. That’s what $3? Divorce costs 10,000x that.

10/21/2019 07:24 OP, this is a bad forum for advice. See a professional.


10/21/2019 11:18 Look, it doesn't really matter who is 'at fault'.


10/21/2019 11:22 People who are having affairs often use the slightest opportunity to pick a fight to prove how horrible the victim spouse is.


10/21/2019 16:55 He said a cruel marital comment the next day after stewing over the above. Is he a real jerk Wtf knows.


10/23/2019 02:37 You’re a moron.

10/21/2019 17:08 I have now read through all 8 pages of this thread, and I just want to know if anyone else now shares my overwhelming craving for McDonald's French fries?!


One can not help but wonder if McD sponsored the thread. But seriously, good luck to OP!

I can't believe you bothered to collate all this crap. But I guess at 3 in the morning, you've got nothing better to do.

[Anonymous]

Anyone claiming they would drive off without getting what they paid for is trolling. Report comment and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable, so much bad energy in one thread... The best bits of the threads so far for those who just tuned in:


10/20/2019 10:32 I can only imagine how miserable it must be being married to you.

10/20/2019 10:42 You need to be in therapy

10/20/2019 11:49 WTF is wrong with you two?!

10/20/2019 12:06 You're ridiculous, OP.

10/20/2019 12:49 “I’ve thought about our McDonalds fight and I realize I was totally in the wrong. It was way out of line for me to call you deranged. And I guess this must be a pattern of me being unreasonable and abusive that I never noticed. I’m sorry I am making you feel trapped in misery. I don’t want you to be miserable. I’m goi g to find a therapist and seriously work on my shit. When you’re up for dinner t and see a change in my behavior, maybe you would be willing to go to marriage counseling w Th me?”

10/20/2019 12:49 OP, ignore the other posters. My guess is that your husband has a temper and has no sense of when it's appropriate to let something go.

10/20/2019 14:12 Feminazi finally made it! We were getting worried. Did church just let out?

10/20/2019 14:14 OP you are abusive.

10/20/2019 14:24 You're unhinged.


10/20/2019 14:46 I think calling a spouse “deranged” is the nuclear reaction. The fact that it comes in response to the spouse’s total innocence (waiting on McD fries?!)? She’s gaslighting him

10/20/2019 15:46 Dear God.....

10/20/2019 17:40 You’re stupid. I hope you’re not a psychologist or doctor.

10/20/2019 17:51 Any possibility he’s having an affair?

10/20/2019 18:00Yup, fries are the best part. You never want to be shorted on fries

10/20/2019 18:25 This whole incident is stupid IMHO.

10/20/2019 18:25 She said he got angry first then she called him deranged but most posters are ignoring his anger.

10/20/2019 19:38 Not exactly. She got embarrassed and wanted him to drive off without his purchased fries, THEN he got angry.

10/20/2019 19:57 Sure, issues may run deep with this couple, but in this case, OP's gaslighting.

10/20/2019 20:49 His comment the next day was definitely Aspie. that or he is a bonafide A-hole or half out the door. Aspie's say cutdown stuff like that weekly.

10/20/2019 22:51 I can’t believe how many people think his anger over her anxiety is reasonable. She needs help for her anxiety and he needs help for anger.


10/20/2019 23:40 Who has anxiety at the McD drive thru? That is irrational.


10/21/2019 06:31 This is an off the rails thread.

10/21/2019 07:12 It’s fries. That’s what $3? Divorce costs 10,000x that.

10/21/2019 07:24 OP, this is a bad forum for advice. See a professional.


10/21/2019 11:18 Look, it doesn't really matter who is 'at fault'.


10/21/2019 11:22 People who are having affairs often use the slightest opportunity to pick a fight to prove how horrible the victim spouse is.


10/21/2019 16:55 He said a cruel marital comment the next day after stewing over the above. Is he a real jerk Wtf knows.


10/23/2019 02:37 You’re a moron.

10/21/2019 17:08 I have now read through all 8 pages of this thread, and I just want to know if anyone else now shares my overwhelming craving for McDonald's French fries?!


One can not help but wonder if McD sponsored the thread. But seriously, good luck to OP!

You sure have a lot of time on your hands to make this long of a pointless post. SAHM?

[Anonymous]

The whole thing was stupid, shouldn't have escalated to the comments her DH made.

OP I wouldn't trust him after what he said. Whatever happens that would be in the corner of my mind. Be prepared, and get your ducks in a row in case he does file divorce. While you shouldn't have called him Deranged for wanting to wait for fries... it's not to the level of his horrible comment. I'd be socking money away after that one.

[Anonymous]

There could have been a line of cars a mile long, filled with every person we know, and my wife would have lost her mind if I had driven off without that order of fries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It was a ridiculous tiff but one of 10 in the last month.

We were leaving our son's late baseball game Friday and stopped at McDs drive through. There were a bunch of his team mates families in line behind us. The person at the drive through window forgot to include one order of fries we'd paid for. Husband insisted on staying put until we got what we paid for. I was embarrassed that we were holding up the line and just wanted to drive off. He got angry and I told him he was acting "deranged" about some fries. He said I was ridiculous and it spiraled into a fight that lasted the drive home.

I slept on the couch and this was his comment the next day.

You were wrong and he was right. I understand his problem.

He was right in the moment, but then he escalated the situation by telling her he didn't want to be married to her anymore and was only staying for the kids. Now those words will linger between them even if they stay together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable, so much bad energy in one thread... The best bits of the threads so far for those who just tuned in:


10/20/2019 10:32 I can only imagine how miserable it must be being married to you.

10/20/2019 10:42 You need to be in therapy

10/20/2019 11:49 WTF is wrong with you two?!

10/20/2019 12:06 You're ridiculous, OP.

10/20/2019 12:49 “I’ve thought about our McDonalds fight and I realize I was totally in the wrong. It was way out of line for me to call you deranged. And I guess this must be a pattern of me being unreasonable and abusive that I never noticed. I’m sorry I am making you feel trapped in misery. I don’t want you to be miserable. I’m goi g to find a therapist and seriously work on my shit. When you’re up for dinner t and see a change in my behavior, maybe you would be willing to go to marriage counseling w Th me?”

10/20/2019 12:49 OP, ignore the other posters. My guess is that your husband has a temper and has no sense of when it's appropriate to let something go.

10/20/2019 14:12 Feminazi finally made it! We were getting worried. Did church just let out?

10/20/2019 14:14 OP you are abusive.

10/20/2019 14:24 You're unhinged.


10/20/2019 14:46 I think calling a spouse “deranged” is the nuclear reaction. The fact that it comes in response to the spouse’s total innocence (waiting on McD fries?!)? She’s gaslighting him

10/20/2019 15:46 Dear God.....

10/20/2019 17:40 You’re stupid. I hope you’re not a psychologist or doctor.

10/20/2019 17:51 Any possibility he’s having an affair?

10/20/2019 18:00Yup, fries are the best part. You never want to be shorted on fries

10/20/2019 18:25 This whole incident is stupid IMHO.

10/20/2019 18:25 She said he got angry first then she called him deranged but most posters are ignoring his anger.

10/20/2019 19:38 Not exactly. She got embarrassed and wanted him to drive off without his purchased fries, THEN he got angry.

10/20/2019 19:57 Sure, issues may run deep with this couple, but in this case, OP's gaslighting.

10/20/2019 20:49 His comment the next day was definitely Aspie. that or he is a bonafide A-hole or half out the door. Aspie's say cutdown stuff like that weekly.

10/20/2019 22:51 I can’t believe how many people think his anger over her anxiety is reasonable. She needs help for her anxiety and he needs help for anger.


10/20/2019 23:40 Who has anxiety at the McD drive thru? That is irrational.


10/21/2019 06:31 This is an off the rails thread.

10/21/2019 07:12 It’s fries. That’s what $3? Divorce costs 10,000x that.

10/21/2019 07:24 OP, this is a bad forum for advice. See a professional.


10/21/2019 11:18 Look, it doesn't really matter who is 'at fault'.


10/21/2019 11:22 People who are having affairs often use the slightest opportunity to pick a fight to prove how horrible the victim spouse is.


10/21/2019 16:55 He said a cruel marital comment the next day after stewing over the above. Is he a real jerk Wtf knows.


10/23/2019 02:37 You’re a moron.

10/21/2019 17:08 I have now read through all 8 pages of this thread, and I just want to know if anyone else now shares my overwhelming craving for McDonald's French fries?!


One can not help but wonder if McD sponsored the thread. But seriously, good luck to OP!

You sure have a lot of time on your hands to make this long of a pointless post. SAHM?

Hahaha! You are the troll queen!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And all this was done in front of your DS!? WTF is wrong with you two?!

Both of you need to get your asses to counseling. With luck, you'll work through your serious communication and respect issues but you both damn well better learn how not to make your kids feel like shit while engaging in petty, yet damaging, interactions. How the f*ck do you think your DS feels about this? McDonald's was supposed to be a treat after a ball game and you two totally ruined. Bet he never wants to do THAT again. Shame on you.

+1

Your poor child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread should go down the history of DCUM as "The Great Fries War"

"The Deranged Fries War of 2019"