MIL is always telling us to dress our 10 month old "as a girl" ... when do we say something?

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Anonymous wrote:Op sounds insufferable. Would hate to have her for a DIL.

Idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:Op I'm sorry there are so many idiots in this thread. I dress my daughter in a variety of clothes. Sometimes it's dresses or skirts and sometimes it's t shirts with sharks or dinosaurs. There is no wrong way to be a woman.

OP here -- thank you. I'm disappointed, but not surprised, to see so much intolerance on this thread. My only motivation in buying my daughter a variety of clothing is to ensure she feels that she has a choice. Even though she doesn't know what's going on right now, I figure it's never too early to start.

I think many of us could not care less what you dress your daughter in, it's the weird issue warrior approach and offense you take at relatively innocuous things poor grandma has said. When I see a little girl in boy's clothes, I assume they are hand me downs and she has an older brother. And would think the better of you for not wasting money.

THIS. But it keeps going right over OP's head.

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Anonymous wrote:Op sounds insufferable. Would hate to have her for a DIL.

yep

Gosh, someone is married to that. I'd hate to wish such misery on anybody's son

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, the DCUM troll who lives in his mother's basement and comes here to spread his misogyny has arrived.

Pretty much.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound pretentious OP and like one of those try hard moms who *wants* a trans child so that you look cool.

LOL. Wow. Congrats -- you figured me out. I am just DYING for a trans kid. You know what would really tickle me about having a trans kid? Knowing that douchebags like you would make my kid feel like shit for it.

DP. I think you missed the point. You are just DYING to look cool. It is so bad, you're not beneath using your child for this purpose.

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Anonymous wrote:Op I'm sorry there are so many idiots in this thread. I dress my daughter in a variety of clothes. Sometimes it's dresses or skirts and sometimes it's t shirts with sharks or dinosaurs. There is no wrong way to be a woman.

Oh yes, there is. Anyone who's lived abroad can attest to that. Too many American females are nowhere near being women despite having ovaries

Idiot.

Aww, is the kitty-cat ill? I'm sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound pretentious OP and like one of those try hard moms who *wants* a trans child so that you look cool.

LOL. Wow. Congrats -- you figured me out. I am just DYING for a trans kid. You know what would really tickle me about having a trans kid? Knowing that douchebags like you would make my kid feel like shit for it.

DP. I think you missed the point. You are just DYING to look cool. It is so bad, you're not beneath using your child for this purpose.

Idiot.

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This is really obnoxious. OP- Sorry you have to deal with the comments from your MIL and the sad humans who troll on these posts.

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Anonymous wrote:This is really obnoxious. OP- Sorry you have to deal with the comments from your MIL and the sad humans who troll on these posts.

Thanks

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Anonymous wrote:Does MIL object to anything that isn't a dress or does she just think that dressing your girl in a "TRUCKS ROCK!" shirt and pants makes her look like a boy? How "boylike" was the T shirt?

Honestly I can't tell if most babies are boys or girls and do rely on the clothing. baby hair rarely helps, assuming they even have hair.

DD was once dressed in a pink dress covered in a flower pattern, and I was asked if she was a boy or girl.

OP, your MIL sounds annoying, but at this point her comments are harmless. They won't be when she is older, and that's the conversation that your DH needs to have with her. My MIL says stuff about our niece and nephew, mostly it's excusing horrible behavior in nephew as "oh, he's just a boy". And once going off on some ridiculous discussion about how nephew is "a genius", but niece is "a sweet girl". I LMAO when about a week later it turned out that niece had tested as the top math student in her class. At the same time, I put DH on notice that if MIL ever says anything like that near our kids she would not be welcome back unless she corrected her attitude. To me, your MIL's comments are only harmful if they are harbingers of future comments like the above.

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Anonymous wrote:Does MIL object to anything that isn't a dress or does she just think that dressing your girl in a "TRUCKS ROCK!" shirt and pants makes her look like a boy? How "boylike" was the T shirt?

Honestly I can't tell if most babies are boys or girls and do rely on the clothing. baby hair rarely helps, assuming they even have hair.

DD was once dressed in a pink dress covered in a flower pattern, and I was asked if she was a boy or girl.

OP, your MIL sounds annoying, but at this point her comments are harmless. They won't be when she is older, and that's the conversation that your DH needs to have with her. My MIL says stuff about our niece and nephew, mostly it's excusing horrible behavior in nephew as "oh, he's just a boy". And once going off on some ridiculous discussion about how nephew is "a genius", but niece is "a sweet girl". I LMAO when about a week later it turned out that niece had tested as the top math student in her class. At the same time, I put DH on notice that if MIL ever says anything like that near our kids she would not be welcome back unless she corrected her attitude. To me, your MIL's comments are only harmful if they are harbingers of future comments like the above.

You sound as insufferable as OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Does MIL object to anything that isn't a dress or does she just think that dressing your girl in a "TRUCKS ROCK!" shirt and pants makes her look like a boy? How "boylike" was the T shirt?
Honestly I can't tell if most babies are boys or girls and do rely on the clothing. baby hair rarely helps, assuming they even have hair.

DD was once dressed in a pink dress covered in a flower pattern, and I was asked if she was a boy or girl.

OP, your MIL sounds annoying, but at this point her comments are harmless. They won't be when she is older, and that's the conversation that your DH needs to have with her. My MIL says stuff about our niece and nephew, mostly it's excusing horrible behavior in nephew as "oh, he's just a boy". And once going off on some ridiculous discussion about how nephew is "a genius", but niece is "a sweet girl". I LMAO when about a week later it turned out that niece had tested as the top math student in her class. At the same time, I put DH on notice that if MIL ever says anything like that near our kids she would not be welcome back unless she corrected her attitude. To me, your MIL's comments are only harmful if they are harbingers of future comments like the above.

You sound as insufferable as OP.

If not wanting to have my kids hear their grandma compare their relative intelligence and then suggest it's okay that my DD is less smart since at least she's a "nice girl" makes me insufferable, then that's fine. I grew up with a grandma who did exactly that, and it can be damaging.

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Anonymous wrote:Does MIL object to anything that isn't a dress or does she just think that dressing your girl in a "TRUCKS ROCK!" shirt and pants makes her look like a boy? How "boylike" was the T shirt?
Honestly I can't tell if most babies are boys or girls and do rely on the clothing. baby hair rarely helps, assuming they even have hair.

DD was once dressed in a pink dress covered in a flower pattern, and I was asked if she was a boy or girl.

OP, your MIL sounds annoying, but at this point her comments are harmless. They won't be when she is older, and that's the conversation that your DH needs to have with her. My MIL says stuff about our niece and nephew, mostly it's excusing horrible behavior in nephew as "oh, he's just a boy". And once going off on some ridiculous discussion about how nephew is "a genius", but niece is "a sweet girl". I LMAO when about a week later it turned out that niece had tested as the top math student in her class. At the same time, I put DH on notice that if MIL ever says anything like that near our kids she would not be welcome back unless she corrected her attitude. To me, your MIL's comments are only harmful if they are harbingers of future comments like the above.

You sound as insufferable as OP.

If not wanting to have my kids hear their grandma compare their relative intelligence and then suggest it's okay that my DD is less smart since at least she's a "nice girl" makes me insufferable, then that's fine. I grew up with a grandma who did exactly that, and it can be damaging.

Also petulant and passive aggressive.

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Anonymous wrote:Does MIL object to anything that isn't a dress or does she just think that dressing your girl in a "TRUCKS ROCK!" shirt and pants makes her look like a boy? How "boylike" was the T shirt?

Honestly I can't tell if most babies are boys or girls and do rely on the clothing. baby hair rarely helps, assuming they even have hair.

DD was once dressed in a pink dress covered in a flower pattern, and I was asked if she was a boy or girl.

OP, your MIL sounds annoying, but at this point her comments are harmless. They won't be when she is older, and that's the conversation that your DH needs to have with her. My MIL says stuff about our niece and nephew, mostly it's excusing horrible behavior in nephew as "oh, he's just a boy". And once going off on some ridiculous discussion about how nephew is "a genius", but niece is "a sweet girl". I LMAO when about a week later it turned out that niece had tested as the top math student in her class. At the same time, I put DH on notice that if MIL ever says anything like that near our kids she would not be welcome back unless she corrected her attitude. To me, your MIL's comments are only harmful if they are harbingers of future comments like the above.

You sound as insufferable as OP.

PP -- I agree. They're not inherently harmful now because the kid is 10 months old and has no idea what's going on. They're only harmful if they continue into the future and impact the girl as she gets older.

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Anonymous wrote:Op I'm sorry there are so many idiots in this thread. I dress my daughter in a variety of clothes. Sometimes it's dresses or skirts and sometimes it's t shirts with sharks or dinosaurs. There is no wrong way to be a woman.

Oh yes, there is. Anyone who's lived abroad can attest to that. Too many American females are nowhere near being women despite having ovaries

Idiot.

Aww, is the kitty-cat ill? I'm sorry.

Plus one and I'm American. So many frumpy manly looking women around here. Lots of them talk like men too.