DS is dating a stripper

[Anonymous]

oops, I meant "strippers who think they need to pretend to be something than they actually aren't in order to feel legitimate."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op rule is not weird at all. My mom told me the same thing, she said she was tired of cooking dinners for multiple boyfriends and to only bring home the ones I was serious about. It's just like you don't bring home random partners to meet your you children, maybe your family does not want to make an effort to get to know Tom sick and Harry or the female equivalent.

Agreed. I have no idea what kind of families the other PPs belong to, but it's like we don't even live on the same planet. Half of these PPs are just bizarre people.

I guess you all don't value your parents' time, energy and their emotional investment in your random, casual boyfriends/girlfriends? You don't respect them enough to keep away people who aren't at least 70% likely to become a real part of your parents' life? Ok. Glad I wasn't raise in a family like the rest of the PPs then!

And seriously those saying dating a stripper is ok are full of it, including the stripper who ama. Emotionally damaged people may be good people but does not mean they are ideal or one has to be happy if your child is dating them. Think about it, strippers rub their bodies over strange men for a living, how proud for one to be part of your family.i stead of listening to one stripper gloss over her experiences, why don't you check out this forum called hustle hit where strippers swap tips how to get as much money as possible by leading men along. Op has a right to be worried, for those condemning her hope your kids date strippers somesay. The next thing people will be saying bringing back a hooker is ok.

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/forumdisplay.php...d39d0105b3501c758d7030123b4da3

+100000

All the bleeding hearts and angry strippers in this thread are taking the lazy way out and accusing us of being close-minded, judgmental or somehow unfair. Nobody is saying strippers are evil people. All people are inherently good and worthy of living a happy life. I hope all strippers find happiness. However, that doesn't mean I'm going to risk the well-being of my own family member. I am not blind to statistics. Strippers may not be evil. They ARE, however, significantly more likely to be very damaged people. By the exemplary logic exhibited in this thread, I guess all of you PPs wouldn't mind your daughters dating narcoterrorists from Honduras because why judge the young man on the basis of hundreds of other violent drug-dealers in his position? Keep an open mind! He might not belong to a gang like MS-13 or eventually destroy your precious daughter's life! Why not risk her happiness for the sake of being politically correct and open-minded?

Again, I am SO THANKFUL I was not raised in a family like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op rule is not weird at all. My mom told me the same thing, she said she was tired of cooking dinners for multiple boyfriends and to only bring home the ones I was serious about. It's just like you don't bring home random partners to meet your you children, maybe your family does not want to make an effort to get to know Tom sick and Harry or the female equivalent.

Agreed. I have no idea what kind of families the other PPs belong to, but it's like we don't even live on the same planet. Half of these PPs are just bizarre people.

I guess you all don't value your parents' time, energy and their emotional investment in your random, casual boyfriends/girlfriends? You don't respect them enough to keep away people who aren't at least 70% likely to become a real part of your parents' life? Ok. Glad I wasn't raise in a family like the rest of the PPs then!

And seriously those saying dating a stripper is ok are full of it, including the stripper who ama. Emotionally damaged people may be good people but does not mean they are ideal or one has to be happy if your child is dating them. Think about it, strippers rub their bodies over strange men for a living, how proud for one to be part of your family.i stead of listening to one stripper gloss over her experiences, why don't you check out this forum called hustle hit where strippers swap tips how to get as much money as possible by leading men along. Op has a right to be worried, for those condemning her hope your kids date strippers somesay. The next thing people will be saying bringing back a hooker is ok.

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/forumdisplay.php...d39d0105b3501c758d7030123b4da3

+100000

All the bleeding hearts and angry strippers in this thread are taking the lazy way out and accusing us of being close-minded, judgmental or somehow unfair. Nobody is saying strippers are evil people. All people are inherently good and worthy of living a happy life. I hope all strippers find happiness. However, that doesn't mean I'm going to risk the well-being of my own family member. I am not blind to statistics. Strippers may not be evil. They ARE, however, significantly more likely to be very damaged people. By the exemplary logic exhibited in this thread, I guess all of you PPs wouldn't mind your daughters dating narcoterrorists from Honduras because why judge the young man on the basis of hundreds of other violent drug-dealers in his position? Keep an open mind! He might not belong to a gang like MS-13 or eventually destroy your precious daughter's life! Why not risk her happiness for the sake of being politically correct and open-minded?

Again, I am SO THANKFUL I was not raised in a family like this.

Find a better analogy. Stripping is not violent. Fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I think a lot of pps are getting distracted by the profession of the gf here. the issue is not which people are and aren't acceptable. replace "stripper" with "lawyer" and reread the OP and her followup--it's F*CKED UP to think you have the right to control your kids that much for any reason. he has to make his own mistakes. if OP's only tool for dealing with that is setting silly rules about who she will/won't allow to cross her house's threshold, she is in for a tough few decades' relationship with her adult child.


it's fu**ed up that you think parent should play along with every idiotic idea their child has.


OP's son is in his late 20s. He isn't a child. He's a man. OP is delusional is she thinks she has any control over who "joins her family".

As for the stereotypical judgmental attitudes here about strippers, I can only conclude that none of you know any actual dancers in real life.

The stupid on this thread is surprising, even for DCUM.


Yes and I have no wish to know any real dancers... Don't give it a euphemism, you mean strippers in real life.


It isn't a euphemism. It is a pretty common term when referring to strippers.


They're strippers. And I'm an NP. Not dancers. S-T-R-I-P-P-E-R-S.

And before you get all defensive, no I don't have a problem with women who strip. Fine by me, no shame in it, you're talking to a pretty wild ex-party girl who had the time of her life in college. I don't give a shit about stripping from a moral standpoint. What I do have a problem with is strippers who think they need to pretend to be something than they actually are in order to feel legitimate. It's like Sasha Grey insisting that her porn is "art" and that she's a porn star for intellectual men because she reads Sartre during sex or some nonsense. Um, no honey, you're a porn star and sex isn't art or an intellectual pursuit, it's just a fun human activity.

Same way, strippers may dance but we all know they are not being watched for the grace of their form, their precision, or the beautiful art of their dance, like a ballerina in Swan Lake or even a sophisticated geisha dancing to the shamisen for her gentlemen customers. They're being watched for their raw sex appeal and the slowly-getting-almost-naked part. So let's not call them dancers. They are strippers.

I have no reason to get defensive, PP, but you certainly have some problems with defensiveness and a weirdly vicious judgmental stance about exotic dancers and your big opinions on what they should be called.

The fact remains that strippers are commonly called dancers, sometimes exotic dancers. You can feel free to call them whatever you like, but I'm not going to capitulate to you.

As for you knowing what dancers are thinking or what motivates them, you really don't know so your problem is just that. Your small minded problem.

[Anonymous]

Exotic dancer has an incredibly different negative connotation from dancer

Everyone loves ballerinas, modern act dance.

Exotic dancer = stripper. I note the previous poster talking about "real dancers" didn't put the exotic part in. Stop defending the social stigma of being a stripper. Just because you protest we don't know another real dancers does not make the reality that being a stripper is shameful. I would be proud if my son brought a ballerina back, a stripper not to much.

[Anonymous]

This entire thread is an example of how political correct and extreme left DCUM has become...that they defend kids dating strippers and call a perfectly ordinary concerned mom weird and controlling.

[Anonymous]

"I guess all of you PPs wouldn't mind your daughters dating narcoterrorists from Honduras because why judge the young man on the basis of hundreds of other violent drug-dealers in his position?"

You are comparing a woman who is DANCING, legally, with a drug dealer?

Thread. Over. There is no hope for you or your son, and certainly not your future DIL.

I am so glad I was not raised by a person like you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exotic dancer has an incredibly different negative connotation from dancer

Everyone loves ballerinas, modern act dance.

Exotic dancer = stripper. I note the previous poster talking about "real dancers" didn't put the exotic part in. Stop defending the social stigma of being a stripper. Just because you protest we don't know another real dancers does not make the reality that being a stripper is shameful. I would be proud if my son brought a ballerina back, a stripper not to much.

+1

I mean, I'm not sure why this thread is still going on since the OP disappeared, and I guess I probably shouldn't be contributing to such a heated, negative discussion. But I think the some of the stripper apologists here are pretty weird people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This entire thread is an example of how political correct and extreme left DCUM has become...that they defend kids dating strippers and call a perfectly ordinary concerned mom weird and controlling.

Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This entire thread is an example of how political correct and extreme left DCUM has become...that they defend kids dating strippers and call a perfectly ordinary concerned mom weird and controlling.

Seriously.

No. It's fine to be concerned. But don't judge the woman *solely* on her stripping career. Just meet her FFS. If she seems like a low life, all objections are understandable. But to just assume the girl is a hot mess because she's a stripper is very narrow minded.

[Anonymous]

Exotic dancer has an incredibly different negative connotation from dancer

Everyone loves ballerinas, modern act dance.

Exotic dancer = stripper. I note the previous poster talking about "real dancers" didn't put the exotic part in. Stop defending the social stigma of being a stripper. Just because you protest we don't know another real dancers does not make the reality that being a stripper is shameful. I would be proud if my son brought a ballerina back, a stripper not to much.

Except that being a dancer/exotic dancer/stripper is not shameful. You disapprove of it. That's fine. I think you are small minded and silly for being judgmental about people you know nothing about. That's fine, too.

What is perplexing is why you think your opinion should be elevated to "reality". That kind of delusion will not serve you well in a world of people different than you.

[Anonymous]

Apparently your DS enjoys strip clubs.

[Anonymous]

No matter what name you put on it, stripper, exotic dancer, nude dancer...it's all about sexual stimulation for financial gain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This entire thread is an example of how political correct and extreme left DCUM has become...that they defend kids dating strippers and call a perfectly ordinary concerned mom weird and controlling.

Seriously.

I'm pretty far to the left on social issues and I think this thread is nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other PPs in this thread are ok with their children (of either sex) dating strippers?

Really?

Wow.

He's a GROWN-ASS MAN! You sound like a future monster-in-law.