DS is dating a stripper

[Anonymous]

He's in his late 20s - let it go and invite her in. You have no other choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All right, I'm the OP and I came back to address a few things:

Yes I agree I have no authority over who my son dates. But I do have more invested in his happiness, well-being and success in life than a girlfriend who might leave him at any time, or divorce him after she gets married.

The naivete about strippers in this thread is hysterical. The majority of them have histories of abuse, drug problems, and eventually they start escorting on the side to make more cash. It's well-documented. None of this is news. It's not a "female-empowering" profession, although yes as a feminist we should allow all women to make their own choices. DS's girlfriend is obviously free to make her own choices, I'm not going to police her. But I do have a say over who joins my family.

Every now and then one happy stripper will trot along and do a DCUM AMA or an interview onTV, just like you'll see the PR-friends happy porn star and happy hooker doing the same things. These women DO NOT accurately represent their industry and very often they aren't accurately. It's incredibly naive and delusional to think otherwise.

However, thanks again for your replies, and this thread can end now.

Translation: OP is surprised that no one agrees that she should go out of her way to alienate her son by being overly involved and judgmental. She does not want to talk about why she has a rule that he can't bring anyone home for dinner unless the relationship is serious. Since she did not get a lot of support for her controlling tendencies, she would like people to stop discussing them now, because the OP is the boss of everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin was a stripper, and she was married and windowed twice to wealthy men who were crazy about her, long after she quit work. Let your son be happy, I know that is what you want.

Soooo what you're saying is that your cousin was a lesser version of Anna Nicole Smith who couldn't or didn't want to find love among young men of her own age group, and instead went after grandfathers with money and was their little twenty-something arm candy until each of them croaked?

Yep. Your cousin sounds like a winner!

[Anonymous]

My brother was in love with a stripper around that age and brought her over on Xmas morning. I still have nightmares of her on her knees under the Xmas tree with her thong hanging out. They lived together for awhile and then she "turned crazy" (even though we always knew she was crazy) and then several years later my brother married a scientist triathlete. She is perfect. My mom just kind of accepted the stripped until it inevitably ended. If you push back you will only push them together.

[Anonymous]

urghed people have no standards here. I wonder what you would say if your child brought a stripper back.

OP, I would be disappointed just as you are. However you can't alienate your son by being outwardly harsh. Flies are caught with honey rather than vinegar. I would gently say something to him and then drop it.

[Anonymous]

By the way there's a forum called strippernet.

They give out all sorts of tips on how to get more money from men and how to string them along and where the best clubs are to dance at. I went there out of curiosity, and I can tell you its pretty sordid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All right, I'm the OP and I came back to address a few things:

Yes I agree I have no authority over who my son dates. But I do have more invested in his happiness, well-being and success in life than a girlfriend who might leave him at any time, or divorce him after she gets married.

The naivete about strippers in this thread is hysterical. The majority of them have histories of abuse, drug problems, and eventually they start escorting on the side to make more cash. It's well-documented. None of this is news. It's not a "female-empowering" profession, although yes as a feminist we should allow all women to make their own choices. DS's girlfriend is obviously free to make her own choices, I'm not going to police her. But I do have a say over who joins my family.

Every now and then one happy stripper will trot along and do a DCUM AMA or an interview onTV, just like you'll see the PR-friends happy porn star and happy hooker doing the same things. These women DO NOT accurately represent their industry and very often they aren't accurately. It's incredibly naive and delusional to think otherwise.

However, thanks again for your replies, and this thread can end now.

Faux.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the OP. Even in the stripper AMA, she mentioned that most of the girls were abused in some way or another and had problems. Strippernet has a cacophony of information on how to manipulate men. The naivete of oh your son is dating a stripper is astounding.

[Anonymous]

Has he seen her dance, they have good sense of rhythm and are very caring towards men similar to a nurse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has he seen her dance, they have good sense of rhythm and are very caring towards men similar to a nurse

you must be on crack. I've read a discussion where they discuss "the laws of power" and how to get as much money from an unsuspecting guy as far as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All right, I'm the OP and I came back to address a few things:

Yes I agree I have no authority over who my son dates. But I do have more invested in his happiness, well-being and success in life than a girlfriend who might leave him at any time, or divorce him after she gets married.

The naivete about strippers in this thread is hysterical. The majority of them have histories of abuse, drug problems, and eventually they start escorting on the side to make more cash. It's well-documented. None of this is news. It's not a "female-empowering" profession, although yes as a feminist we should allow all women to make their own choices. DS's girlfriend is obviously free to make her own choices, I'm not going to police her. But I do have a say over who joins my family.

Every now and then one happy stripper will trot along and do a DCUM AMA or an interview onTV, just like you'll see the PR-friends happy porn star and happy hooker doing the same things. These women DO NOT accurately represent their industry and very often they aren't accurately. It's incredibly naive and delusional to think otherwise.

However, thanks again for your replies, and this thread can end now.

You are insane. And how are you such an expert on strippers????

"I do have a say over who joins my family"??? Um actually, no you don't.

Go ahead and be a hater. You are the one who will lose. Your future DIL will be lucky if you ostracize her and she doesn't have to put up with your crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All right, I'm the OP and I came back to address a few things:

Yes I agree I have no authority over who my son dates. But I do have more invested in his happiness, well-being and success in life than a girlfriend who might leave him at any time, or divorce him after she gets married.

The naivete about strippers in this thread is hysterical. The majority of them have histories of abuse, drug problems, and eventually they start escorting on the side to make more cash. It's well-documented. None of this is news. It's not a "female-empowering" profession, although yes as a feminist we should allow all women to make their own choices. DS's girlfriend is obviously free to make her own choices, I'm not going to police her. But I do have a say over who joins my family.

Every now and then one happy stripper will trot along and do a DCUM AMA or an interview onTV, just like you'll see the PR-friends happy porn star and happy hooker doing the same things. These women DO NOT accurately represent their industry and very often they aren't accurately. It's incredibly naive and delusional to think otherwise.

However, thanks again for your replies, and this thread can end now.

It's now clear this post was totally made up. OP offers no other info on this just a silly story with a couple of shocking points.

OP, this sucked, utterly. Get some seriously improved story telling skills. And an improved agenda that maybe lets you stop clutching your pearls and ssee the complexity of the world.

You suck.

[Anonymous]

"These women DO NOT accurately represent their industry and very often they aren't accurately. "

What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My cousin was a stripper, and she was married and windowed twice to wealthy men who were crazy about her, long after she quit work. Let your son be happy, I know that is what you want.

Soooo what you're saying is that your cousin was a lesser version of Anna Nicole Smith who couldn't or didn't want to find love among young men of her own age group, and instead went after grandfathers with money and was their little twenty-something arm candy until each of them croaked?

Yep. Your cousin sounds like a winner!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other PPs in this thread are ok with their children (of either sex) dating strippers?

Really?

Wow.

My grown child in his/her late 20's?

If she/he is a good person that treats my grown child well, sure.

My daughter's last boyfriend was an associate at BigLaw, he was an asshole to her.

My son's current girlfriend is a part time college student who works in a bar. She is a jewel.

If you think the jewel who works in a bar is like a stripper you are clueless!

I've never known a stripped who wasn't emotionally damaged with family issues. Invite her to dinner and ask her about her family. You'll see OP.

Emotionally damaged does not make her a bad person.