DS is dating a stripper

[Anonymous]

And for the people condemning the OP, may your kids date strippers someday.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you should disown your son for *wanting* to date a stripper. WTH is wrong with him??? Where are his values? This is not the way you raised him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And seriously those saying dating a stripper is ok are full of it, including the stripper who ama. Emotionally damaged people may be good people but does not mean they are ideal or one has to be happy if your child is dating them. Think about it, strippers rub their bodies over strange men for a living, how proud for one to be part of your family.i stead of listening to one stripper gloss over her experiences, why don't you check out this forum called hustle hit where strippers swap tips how to get as much money as possible by leading men along. Op has a right to be worried, for those condemning her hope your kids date strippers somesay. The next thing people will be saying bringing back a hooker is ok.

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?133-Hustle-Hut&s=6ed39d0105b3501c758d7030123b4da3

If someone linked to select threads on DCUM they could reasonably argue that no one should befriend, let alone date, a person from the DC area because they are all psychos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And seriously those saying dating a stripper is ok are full of it, including the stripper who ama. Emotionally damaged people may be good people but does not mean they are ideal or one has to be happy if your child is dating them. Think about it, strippers rub their bodies over strange men for a living, how proud for one to be part of your family.i stead of listening to one stripper gloss over her experiences, why don't you check out this forum called hustle hit where strippers swap tips how to get as much money as possible by leading men along. Op has a right to be worried, for those condemning her hope your kids date strippers somesay. The next thing people will be saying bringing back a hooker is ok.

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?133-Hustle-Hut&s=6ed39d0105b3501c758d7030123b4da3

If someone linked to select threads on DCUM they could reasonably argue that no one should befriend, let alone date, a person from the DC area because they are all psychos.

I linked to a few threads. The entire forum is called HUSTLE HUT for gods sake. Protest all your want but strippers are not socially acceptable and I would be ashamed to have one as my daughter in law. I feel for the OP.

[Anonymous]

As for the stripper who did the AMA, there are many ways to earn a living. She just chose the easiest one to show her body, tease people and let her tatas hang out. shame on her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All right, I'm the OP and I came back to address a few things:

Yes I agree I have no authority over who my son dates. But I do have more invested in his happiness, well-being and success in life than a girlfriend who might leave him at any time, or divorce him after she gets married.

The naivete about strippers in this thread is hysterical. The majority of them have histories of abuse, drug problems, and eventually they start escorting on the side to make more cash. It's well-documented. None of this is news. It's not a "female-empowering" profession, although yes as a feminist we should allow all women to make their own choices. DS's girlfriend is obviously free to make her own choices, I'm not going to police her. But I do have a say over who joins my family.

Every now and then one happy stripper will trot along and do a DCUM AMA or an interview onTV, just like you'll see the PR-friends happy porn star and happy hooker doing the same things. These women DO NOT accurately represent their industry and very often they aren't accurately. It's incredibly naive and delusional to think otherwise.

However, thanks again for your replies, and this thread can end now.

No. Actually you don't. When your children become adults they make their own choices. You can approve. You can disapprove. You can not dictate who joins your family. You can choose who you welcome though. But if that gets you where you want to be with your children...I highly doubt it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shot callers, Wasn't you a preacher?
You calling her a hooker? He without sin cast the first stone.
I met her on the subway, she gave me that VIP card
And told me if I ever have problems,
Don't hesitate to come by, yeah, yeah, yeah

Just 'cuz she dances go-go
It don't make her a ho, no
Maxine, put your dance shoes on
We going to the disco
We gonna eeeelope to Meeeexico
Called up my mama, said I'm in love with a stripper, yo.

Ten grand, let me see you shake it like you got no
bones in your body and you was made to be a celebrity
Twenty grand, know it's a sin, but before me you show
me a little more skin it would fulfill my fantasy
Thirty grand, to the highest bidder but Chris Rock
said, 'There's no sex in the champaigne room'
Forty grand, looked into her eyes, I saw tears falling
down, type of tears that money couldn't buy

MARRY ME !! Seriously! Who are you? I think I love you!

[Anonymous]

Not the OP, but frankly if my child ends up marrying a stripper I will be highly disappointed. Sure, he can do whatever he wants with his life. However it would be a failing on my part not to have brought him up with the good sense to not date a stripper. Also, he and his new fling will probably get less favors and inheritance from me than my other children. He can do whatever he wants, he's an adult.

[Anonymous]

OP, what does your son do for a profession?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All right, I'm the OP and I came back to address a few things:

Yes I agree I have no authority over who my son dates. But I do have more invested in his happiness, well-being and success in life than a girlfriend who might leave him at any time, or divorce him after she gets married.

The naivete about strippers in this thread is hysterical. The majority of them have histories of abuse, drug problems, and eventually they start escorting on the side to make more cash. It's well-documented. None of this is news. It's not a "female-empowering" profession, although yes as a feminist we should allow all women to make their own choices. DS's girlfriend is obviously free to make her own choices, I'm not going to police her. But I do have a say over who joins my family.

Every now and then one happy stripper will trot along and do a DCUM AMA or an interview onTV, just like you'll see the PR-friends happy porn star and happy hooker doing the same things. These women DO NOT accurately represent their industry and very often they aren't accurately. It's incredibly naive and delusional to think otherwise.

However, thanks again for your replies, and this thread can end now.

No. Actually you don't. When your children become adults they make their own choices. You can approve. You can disapprove. You can not dictate who joins your family. You can choose who you welcome though. But if that gets you where you want to be with your children...I highly doubt it.

You're right, OP can't control who her son is with but honestly everyone here is full of shit if they don't think strippers aren't usually damaged goods. Yes there are exceptions. Maybe her DS's girlfriend is one of those exceptions. But they have a certain reputation for a reason and I wouldn't be thrilled either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:By the way there's a forum called strippernet.

They give out all sorts of tips on how to get more money from men and how to string them along and where the best clubs are to dance at. I went there out of curiosity, and I can tell you its pretty sordid.

Right, just research.

yes..i went to a body building forum where the guys were discussing never to date strippers because they were train wrecks and they linked to this forum. So even amongst the men they think dating strippers are crazy. So give up berating the OP over what realistically when you look at it is a terrible thing. She is not weird or controlling, she is a concerned mom.

Read some of the posts: disgusting and taking men for your ride. OP should be concerned that her son is a sucker.
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?197969-After-7-years-and-1-1Million-this-is-what-I-have-learned

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?197116-how-do-you-gage-if-he-likes-the-aggressive-slutty-vs-the-classy-shy-type

Its all about the sale. Go there and ignore the stripper AMA bullshit.[/quot

Right. Ignore my perspective, thoughts, experience and insight - I'm just a stripper.

actually yes. you're just a stripper trying to glorify herself vs a whole community of strippers discussing the best ways to hustle money. If you think you're comparable to a surgeon, a nanny who takes care of kids, or a social worker who helps the elderly, or a teacher, you're kidding yourself. You dance naked and try to manipulate men for money. You're far from being empowered. You add less value to society than even a stay at home mom.

You don't even know me, jack. I contribute more value to society than an arrogant blowhard (like you) who thinks you know every damn thing. I: watch my child during the day, hold a part-time professional position, and take my top off 2-3 times a week for many thousands of dollars a month. But I don't need to prove anything to you, anyway.

[Anonymous]

I don't think anyone is saying you should be super happy about the stripper gf. Just that you don't get to be furious about it. You must be kind and polite to anyone your son dates. That's just how life works. If he ASKS for your opinion, you can share your reservations about her line of work. Other than that, keep your mouth shut. Or you'll lose your son.

What do you want people to say? March into his apt right now, grab him by the ear, and force him to break up with his stripper gf bc his mommy doesn't approve?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By the way there's a forum called strippernet.

They give out all sorts of tips on how to get more money from men and how to string them along and where the best clubs are to dance at. I went there out of curiosity, and I can tell you its pretty sordid.

Right, just research.

yes..i went to a body building forum where the guys were discussing never to date strippers because they were train wrecks and they linked to this forum. So even amongst the men they think dating strippers are crazy. So give up berating the OP over what realistically when you look at it is a terrible thing. She is not weird or controlling, she is a concerned mom.

Read some of the posts: disgusting and taking men for your ride. OP should be concerned that her son is a sucker.
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?197969-After-7-years-and-1-1Million-this-is-what-I-have-learned

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?197116-how-do-you-gage-if-he-likes-the-aggressive-slutty-vs-the-classy-shy-type

Its all about the sale. Go there and ignore the stripper AMA bullshit.[/quot

Right. Ignore my perspective, thoughts, experience and insight - I'm just a stripper.

actually yes. you're just a stripper trying to glorify herself vs a whole community of strippers discussing the best ways to hustle money. If you think you're comparable to a surgeon, a nanny who takes care of kids, or a social worker who helps the elderly, or a teacher, you're kidding yourself. You dance naked and try to manipulate men for money. You're far from being empowered. You add less value to society than even a stay at home mom.

You don't even know me, jack. I contribute more value to society than an arrogant blowhard (like you) who thinks you know every damn thing. I: watch my child during the day, hold a part-time professional position, and take my top off 2-3 times a week for many thousands of dollars a month. But I don't need to prove anything to you, anyway.

Take care of a child - socially acceptable
Hold a part-time professional position - socially acceptable
Take your top off 2 to 3 times a week for thousands of dollars - not socially acceptable. And face it, you're not just taking your top off.

No you don't need to prove anything to me. This conversation is inconsequential to me. Keep kidding yourself how you're more useful to society. In fact, let your friends and family know. Because you know you don't need to prove shit.

Just know no matter how much you protest, and how much some of the weird DCUM posters support this because they are so "enlightened", deep inside if most of society knew noone will want to hang out with you and shun you and your family. Thank god the US has not gotten to that low depth of immorality yet.

[Anonymous]

The idea that you would shun her family makes YOU the bad human here. So Jesus like of you.

[Anonymous]

If she expects me to celebrate her lifestyle and give her a pat on her back about how brave she is she is sorely mistaken.