Bisexual Husband

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

- cannot do that unless you have an “open marriage” (which is not a marriage) or a strange throuple or something.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

So a bisexual in a marriage has to repress half their desire, while a straight person does not.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

So a bisexual in a marriage has to repress half their desire, while a straight person does not.

- right like a nun or a Priest must repress all sexual desires.

Does not sound mentally healthy (outside the priesthood/ nunnery).

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Anonymous wrote:Men will stick their penis in any hole. I bet you if a man with a bubble but bend over and his face hidden, 5 out of 10 guys will stick their penis in. In that moment they can care less if that ass belongs to a man or woman.

To be fair, guys would stick it in a hole in a tree. We're not making ground breaking discoveries here.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

Agree.

Wouldn’t that be like killing off half of your sexual identity forever?

You and the PP who talked about being unable to see how "any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive non-open marriage" must both think that people simply are compelled to act out their sexual desires. Do you think that since bisexuals are attractd to a wider variety of potential partners, the pool of potential affair partners is larger for them? Yes, it surely is, but that does not mean they lack the love, respect, trust, self-control and morality to stay faithful to one person if they choose.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

So a bisexual in a marriage has to repress half their desire, while a straight person does not.

The pp was right that it’s experience sexual desire for both genders. Bisexual is a sexuality. Is someone not straight until they have straight sex? It’s the attraction, the desire that makes a person their sexuality and not the act itself. A man could have sexual with another man and realize he wasn’t into it and he’s straight. The fact that he had sex with another man once doesn’t make him forever gay. No gay person would consider him gay (or bi).

I’m bi and so is my partner. We are monogamous. We are comfortable and happy in a monogamous marriage just like most other people. We aren’t repressing any more than a straight person that sees someone they’re attracted to of the opposite gender but doesn’t act on it because they’re already married. It’s literally the same except for men and women. It’s not that complicated.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

So a bisexual in a marriage has to repress half their desire, while a straight person does not.

No, a straight married person has to repress their desire to have sex with more than one person for the rest of their life. That’s more than half for most people.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

So a bisexual in a marriage has to repress half their desire, while a straight person does not.

No, a straight married person has to repress their desire to have sex with more than one person for the rest of their life. That’s more than half for most people.

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I’ve known several straight people that cheated. All straight people are forced to repress their identities because they want to cheat.

All the straight people in this thread are repressing. All. The. Time.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

So a bisexual in a marriage has to repress half their desire, while a straight person does not.

No, a straight married person has to repress their desire to have sex with more than one person for the rest of their life. That’s more than half for most people.

As a bisexual myself, I'm going to disagree.

I'm married to an opposite sex spouse. With whom I have sex regularly. That satisfies my desires for heterosexual sex and for partners of the opposite gender.

My desire for homosexual sex and a partner of the same gender must be squashed...if I am to remain faithful.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

So a bisexual in a marriage has to repress half their desire, while a straight person does not.

No, a straight married person has to repress their desire to have sex with more than one person for the rest of their life. That’s more than half for most people.

As a bisexual myself, I'm going to disagree.

I'm married to an opposite sex spouse. With whom I have sex regularly. That satisfies my desires for heterosexual sex and for partners of the opposite gender.

My desire for homosexual sex and a partner of the same gender must be squashed...if I am to remain faithful.

Your desire for “homosexual sex”? What are you, a secret republican? Most of us just call it sex and certainly don’t use the term homosexual like that.

[Anonymous]

Hello fellow gays. Are you ready for homosexual sex?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

So a bisexual in a marriage has to repress half their desire, while a straight person does not.

No, a straight married person has to repress their desire to have sex with more than one person for the rest of their life. That’s more than half for most people.

As a bisexual myself, I'm going to disagree.

I'm married to an opposite sex spouse. With whom I have sex regularly. That satisfies my desires for heterosexual sex and for partners of the opposite gender.

My desire for homosexual sex and a partner of the same gender must be squashed...if I am to remain faithful.

Your desire for “homosexual sex”? What are you, a secret republican? Most of us just call it sex and certainly don’t use the term homosexual like that.

I am a lifelong Democrat in my 50's. I use the term to differentiate it from heterosexual sex. I enjoy both quite a bit. They are two different things, to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still confused at OP’s first post. How exactly is he bi? What actions is he taking to suggest that? Is he going to the gym and comparing himself to other guys? If so, that’s not bi lol that’s normal.

Or is he actively looking at gay porn and talking about wanting to get it on with another man? Because if so, yea that’s bi.

For the record, yes, bisexual men exist. Get out of here with the “if he likes men, he is 100% gay” homophobia.

I’m a heterosexual woman and I don’t doubt that bisexual men exist at all. I have known quite a few. The thing is, even if they like me and are attracted to me, they are still too gay for me. I do not want to expose myself to HIV or other diseases that are more common among men who have sex with men than they are with men who only have sex with women. It is very dangerous to be a woman married to a bisexual man who is secretly acting out in his desires for sex with other men.

If I were the OP, I would be very scared about my hunches and also very vigilant about protecting myself.

To me, it is not clear how any bisexual can stay married in an exclusive (non-open) marriage (to either gender).

How so? My DH is straight. I’m sure there are other women out there he finds attractive, but to the best of my knowledge he isn’t banging them.

I guess if someone is bi there are more people they will find attractive, but I don’t think that necessarily means they’re more likely to cheat.

The whole definition of bi is someone who has sex with both genders.

Nope, it’s someone who experiences sexual attraction to both sexes. You don’t need to act on those urges to be bi.

So a bisexual in a marriage has to repress half their desire, while a straight person does not.

Straight married people repress their desire for other straight people all the time. It can be done!