Bisexual Husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, well I don't have, I had - he didn't come out, I discovered that he was checking out gay porn sites and gay dating sites. Even though we are divorced, it's still something he can't quite bring himself to admit. After the divorce, a couple of friends asked me if he was gay or bi because they'd gotten those vibes from him all along. He's been dating women since we split though.

He may have a porn addiction. And to further feed his dopamine straight sex just won’t do for him.

And also someone could be bi (just for sexual relationship) but straight for dating. It’s complicated.

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The percentage of bisexual people is a lot higher than we may want to believe. We live in our private thoughts the most and many of these gay bashing “straight” men are probably fantasizing in their mind about an*l sex with other guys or get or*l from other guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The percentage of bisexual people is a lot higher than we may want to believe. We live in our private thoughts the most and many of these gay bashing “straight” men are probably fantasizing in their mind about an*l sex with other guys or get or*l from other guys.

Source?

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Anonymous wrote:The percentage of bisexual people is a lot higher than we may want to believe. We live in our private thoughts the most and many of these gay bashing “straight” men are probably fantasizing in their mind about an*l sex with other guys or get or*l from other guys.

Source?

https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2003631117

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Correct.

DH here. Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man. NO THANK YOU!

How exactly do you know what ALL straight guys like or don't like?

Guys talk. Not so much now that we are all married. But during my dating years, we talked, and often anal (with women) came up when guys talk about s*x. It is a lot more common than you might think and yes- there are many, many women who enjoy it (as in: they like it; they want to do it). Is it “all” straight guys or all women ? Of course no one can know everything. But it is quite common.

But I have never known a straight guy who even hinted he had done stuff with other guys, or even fantasized about that.

Straight women talk, too. Maybe they exist, I’m not saying they don’t, but I have yet to personally know even one woman who liked anal. (And yet every man seems to know so many women who love it, lol.)

I’d take those frat boy conversations you and your buddies used to have with a grain of salt. When my friends and I used to discuss sex with each other, we wanted advice, not a high five. I’m guessing you and your buddies wanted to show off while using porn as the high authority of sexual gratification.

Sooo many wrong assumptions on your part, PP. for starters, I was a GDI.

But whatever you choose to believe, you do you.

Beyond you talking to your friends and me talking to my friends, I also know what I know from personal experience.

I also know too many women who think like you do, who express revulsion at anything ana! related, and openly state how disgusted they are at even the thought of lovemaking that way.

You do realize just how homophobic you are when you express your disgust, right?

You sound super conservative or super old (possibly both).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

This would have automatically ended the marriage for me.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Correct.

DH here. Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man. NO THANK YOU!

How exactly do you know what ALL straight guys like or don't like?

Guys talk. Not so much now that we are all married. But during my dating years, we talked, and often anal (with women) came up when guys talk about s*x. It is a lot more common than you might think and yes- there are many, many women who enjoy it (as in: they like it; they want to do it). Is it “all” straight guys or all women ? Of course no one can know everything. But it is quite common.

But I have never known a straight guy who even hinted he had done stuff with other guys, or even fantasized about that.

Straight women talk, too. Maybe they exist, I’m not saying they don’t, but I have yet to personally know even one woman who liked anal. (And yet every man seems to know so many women who love it, lol.)

I’d take those frat boy conversations you and your buddies used to have with a grain of salt. When my friends and I used to discuss sex with each other, we wanted advice, not a high five. I’m guessing you and your buddies wanted to show off while using porn as the high authority of sexual gratification.

Sooo many wrong assumptions on your part, PP. for starters, I was a GDI.

But whatever you choose to believe, you do you.

Beyond you talking to your friends and me talking to my friends, I also know what I know from personal experience.

I also know too many women who think like you do, who express revulsion at anything ana! related, and openly state how disgusted they are at even the thought of lovemaking that way.

You do realize just how homophobic you are when you express your disgust, right?

You sound super conservative or super old (possibly both).

Or maybe just super not interested in having a dick up my ass…

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Correct.

DH here. Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man. NO THANK YOU!

How exactly do you know what ALL straight guys like or don't like?

Guys talk. Not so much now that we are all married. But during my dating years, we talked, and often anal (with women) came up when guys talk about s*x. It is a lot more common than you might think and yes- there are many, many women who enjoy it (as in: they like it; they want to do it). Is it “all” straight guys or all women ? Of course no one can know everything. But it is quite common.

But I have never known a straight guy who even hinted he had done stuff with other guys, or even fantasized about that.

Straight women talk, too. Maybe they exist, I’m not saying they don’t, but I have yet to personally know even one woman who liked anal. (And yet every man seems to know so many women who love it, lol.)

I’d take those frat boy conversations you and your buddies used to have with a grain of salt. When my friends and I used to discuss sex with each other, we wanted advice, not a high five. I’m guessing you and your buddies wanted to show off while using porn as the high authority of sexual gratification.

Sooo many wrong assumptions on your part, PP. for starters, I was a GDI.

But whatever you choose to believe, you do you.

Beyond you talking to your friends and me talking to my friends, I also know what I know from personal experience.

I also know too many women who think like you do, who express revulsion at anything ana! related, and openly state how disgusted they are at even the thought of lovemaking that way.

You do realize just how homophobic you are when you express your disgust, right?

You sound super conservative or super old (possibly both).

Or maybe just super not interested in having a dick up my ass…

It's mostly because guys think and say things like that that most women won't even try it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a bisexual husband? If so, how and when did he come out to you? I think my partner may be bi. I want to talk to him about it but don’t want to make him feel embarrassed or defensive.

Cool topic. Try LGBTQ2AI+ board

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Correct.

DH here. Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man. NO THANK YOU!

How exactly do you know what ALL straight guys like or don't like?

Guys talk. Not so much now that we are all married. But during my dating years, we talked, and often anal (with women) came up when guys talk about s*x. It is a lot more common than you might think and yes- there are many, many women who enjoy it (as in: they like it; they want to do it). Is it “all” straight guys or all women ? Of course no one can know everything. But it is quite common.

But I have never known a straight guy who even hinted he had done stuff with other guys, or even fantasized about that.

Straight women talk, too. Maybe they exist, I’m not saying they don’t, but I have yet to personally know even one woman who liked anal. (And yet every man seems to know so many women who love it, lol.)

I’d take those frat boy conversations you and your buddies used to have with a grain of salt. When my friends and I used to discuss sex with each other, we wanted advice, not a high five. I’m guessing you and your buddies wanted to show off while using porn as the high authority of sexual gratification.

Sooo many wrong assumptions on your part, PP. for starters, I was a GDI.

But whatever you choose to believe, you do you.

Beyond you talking to your friends and me talking to my friends, I also know what I know from personal experience.

I also know too many women who think like you do, who express revulsion at anything ana! related, and openly state how disgusted they are at even the thought of lovemaking that way.

You do realize just how homophobic you are when you express your disgust, right?

You sound super conservative or super old (possibly both).

Or maybe just super not interested in having a dick up my ass…

It's mostly because guys think and say things like that that most women won't even try it.

Get your HEP shots annually folks!
Lots of tearing going on.
Brings new meaning to mixing of bodily fluids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The percentage of bisexual people is a lot higher than we may want to believe. We live in our private thoughts the most and many of these gay bashing “straight” men are probably fantasizing in their mind about an*l sex with other guys or get or*l from other guys.

Oh yes. Wayyyyy higher than anyone in the animal kingdom can believe. Trans as well. Wayyy higher

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Correct.

DH here. Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man. NO THANK YOU!

How exactly do you know what ALL straight guys like or don't like?

Guys talk. Not so much now that we are all married. But during my dating years, we talked, and often anal (with women) came up when guys talk about s*x. It is a lot more common than you might think and yes- there are many, many women who enjoy it (as in: they like it; they want to do it). Is it “all” straight guys or all women ? Of course no one can know everything. But it is quite common.

But I have never known a straight guy who even hinted he had done stuff with other guys, or even fantasized about that.

Straight women talk, too. Maybe they exist, I’m not saying they don’t, but I have yet to personally know even one woman who liked anal. (And yet every man seems to know so many women who love it, lol.)

I’d take those frat boy conversations you and your buddies used to have with a grain of salt. When my friends and I used to discuss sex with each other, we wanted advice, not a high five. I’m guessing you and your buddies wanted to show off while using porn as the high authority of sexual gratification.

Sooo many wrong assumptions on your part, PP. for starters, I was a GDI.

But whatever you choose to believe, you do you.

Beyond you talking to your friends and me talking to my friends, I also know what I know from personal experience.

I also know too many women who think like you do, who express revulsion at anything ana! related, and openly state how disgusted they are at even the thought of lovemaking that way.

You do realize just how homophobic you are when you express your disgust, right?

You sound super conservative or super old (possibly both).

Or maybe just super not interested in having a dick up my ass…

It's mostly because guys think and say things like that that most women won't even try it.

No, the reason most women won’t try it is because we don’t have a prostate or nerve endings up our butts. It feels like you’re taking a large poop, not very sexy. And then there are the resulting hemorrhoids and other issues to deal with. Meanwhile, we have a glorious vagina, which expands with arousal, no tearing, no infections and best of all: it’s pleasurable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Very few men are actually bisexual. Most are just in denile / closeted gay

Can we please just bury this myth? Sexuality is a lot more complex than most people are willing to admit? Part is what one considers themselves, another is who they have sex with. A gay friend told me that most of his hookups are married men who have active sex lives with their wives. And he runs into situations where men will do everything under the sun with him, but consider kissing or hugging "gay". Most men do not fit into nice, neat spaces.

They don't tell the wives. These men just like sex period. It's awful for the wives. They are exposed to so much they shouldn't. I hate your friend. How can you have friends like this?

Agree. I hate your friend too and there is clearly a disorder there.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Correct.

DH here. Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man. NO THANK YOU!

How exactly do you know what ALL straight guys like or don't like?

Guys talk. Not so much now that we are all married. But during my dating years, we talked, and often anal (with women) came up when guys talk about s*x. It is a lot more common than you might think and yes- there are many, many women who enjoy it (as in: they like it; they want to do it). Is it “all” straight guys or all women ? Of course no one can know everything. But it is quite common.

But I have never known a straight guy who even hinted he had done stuff with other guys, or even fantasized about that.

Straight women talk, too. Maybe they exist, I’m not saying they don’t, but I have yet to personally know even one woman who liked anal. (And yet every man seems to know so many women who love it, lol.)

I’d take those frat boy conversations you and your buddies used to have with a grain of salt. When my friends and I used to discuss sex with each other, we wanted advice, not a high five. I’m guessing you and your buddies wanted to show off while using porn as the high authority of sexual gratification.

Sooo many wrong assumptions on your part, PP. for starters, I was a GDI.

But whatever you choose to believe, you do you.

Beyond you talking to your friends and me talking to my friends, I also know what I know from personal experience.

I also know too many women who think like you do, who express revulsion at anything ana! related, and openly state how disgusted they are at even the thought of lovemaking that way.

You do realize just how homophobic you are when you express your disgust, right?

You sound super conservative or super old (possibly both).

Or maybe just super not interested in having a dick up my ass…

Again with the homophobia and shaming . . .

Really sad for your bigoted attitudes throughout this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Correct.

DH here. Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man. NO THANK YOU!

How exactly do you know what ALL straight guys like or don't like?

Guys talk. Not so much now that we are all married. But during my dating years, we talked, and often anal (with women) came up when guys talk about s*x. It is a lot more common than you might think and yes- there are many, many women who enjoy it (as in: they like it; they want to do it). Is it “all” straight guys or all women ? Of course no one can know everything. But it is quite common.

But I have never known a straight guy who even hinted he had done stuff with other guys, or even fantasized about that.

Obviously they are not going to tell you about it. There are plenty of straight guys who seek out hookups with men when their wife or GF is out of town. They might be bi or gay curious or they might actually be straight and horny and not want to hookup with a woman for whatever reason. You need to broaden your perspective a little and stop thinking in black and white when there are a million shades of gray.

You're going to call this "black and white" but a man who is straight is not seeking out male hookups.

You call "black and white" at anyone who says that but I think that, instead, you paint with way too broad a brush. Yes there are men who would say they are straight and would find reasons for why they just had to turn to another man for sex. Those men are deceiving themselves that they are straight and, probably for cultural or family or religious reasons, twisting themselves into pretzels to maintain their own self-image as 100 percent straight.

Here is one article you might read that explains this phenomenon and there are many others if you google it: https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/when-straight-men-have-sex-men/