Bisexual Husband

[Anonymous]

Anyone have a bisexual husband? If so, how and when did he come out to you? I think my partner may be bi. I want to talk to him about it but don’t want to make him feel embarrassed or defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a bisexual husband? If so, how and when did he come out to you? I think my partner may be bi. I want to talk to him about it but don’t want to make him feel embarrassed or defensive.

Assuming this is a later in life new understanding and not something he was aware of before.

What’s the purpose of bringing it up? Is it something that you want to discuss for openness/transparency in your marriage and/or are you creating space to act?

You may want to create clarity with yourself first.

[Anonymous]

Yes, well I don't have, I had - he didn't come out, I discovered that he was checking out gay porn sites and gay dating sites. Even though we are divorced, it's still something he can't quite bring himself to admit. After the divorce, a couple of friends asked me if he was gay or bi because they'd gotten those vibes from him all along. He's been dating women since we split though.

[Anonymous]

What makes you think this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, well I don't have, I had - he didn't come out, I discovered that he was checking out gay porn sites and gay dating sites. Even though we are divorced, it's still something he can't quite bring himself to admit. After the divorce, a couple of friends asked me if he was gay or bi because they'd gotten those vibes from him all along. He's been dating women since we split though.

He sounds as if he's afraid to come out and be his authentic self and date men, or both men and women. Though I do wonder how you know who an ex is dating, PP; you cant be sure he isn't seeing men too, really, can you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, well I don't have, I had - he didn't come out, I discovered that he was checking out gay porn sites and gay dating sites. Even though we are divorced, it's still something he can't quite bring himself to admit. After the divorce, a couple of friends asked me if he was gay or bi because they'd gotten those vibes from him all along. He's been dating women since we split though.

He sounds as if he's afraid to come out and be his authentic self and date men, or both men and women. Though I do wonder how you know who an ex is dating, PP; you cant be sure he isn't seeing men too, really, can you?

PP here. You're right, I don't know 100 percent. But I do know that at least publicly he has a serious girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a bisexual husband? If so, how and when did he come out to you? I think my partner may be bi. I want to talk to him about it but don’t want to make him feel embarrassed or defensive.

Despite living in the 2020's, gay feelings are still scorned. Suppose your partner is bisexual, then what? Doesn't mean he isn't monogamous if that is what you are worried about. How would you react?

And to another pp, bisexual or gay vibe? It can be obvious for certain people, but there are men on that part of the spectrum that you would never believe are in that place.

[Anonymous]

What evidence do you have?

[Anonymous]

Why is it called bisexual and not ambisexstrous?

[Anonymous]

OP, is he your ex or current partner? I’m confused

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it called bisexual and not ambisexstrous?

Look at the spelling and you answer this! LOL

[Anonymous]

He's just a closeted gay man. I know several that have been through 3 or more women as beards. Its a personality disorder thing. They can't accept all of themselves. This is not society. This is an internal mental health issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's just a closeted gay man. I know several that have been through 3 or more women as beards. Its a personality disorder thing. They can't accept all of themselves. This is not society. This is an internal mental health issue.

Where did you get your PHD in clinical psychology?

[Anonymous]

Very few men are actually bisexual. Most are just in denile / closeted gay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very few men are actually bisexual. Most are just in denile / closeted gay

Anybody who spells denial the way you just did has no credibility whatsoever