Bisexual Husband

[Anonymous]

nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's just a closeted gay man. I know several that have been through 3 or more women as beards. Its a personality disorder thing. They can't accept all of themselves. This is not society. This is an internal mental health issue.

Where did you get your PHD in clinical psychology?

Lol. If this society isn't freeing enough foe them nothing will. There are ample men available for sex on apps. Why should they give up their cover and kids if they don't have to? Society let's them get away with both.

[Anonymous]

I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's just a closeted gay man. I know several that have been through 3 or more women as beards. Its a personality disorder thing. They can't accept all of themselves. This is not society. This is an internal mental health issue.

Where did you get your PHD in clinical psychology?

Lol. If this society isn't freeing enough foe them nothing will. There are ample men available for sex on apps. Why should they give up their cover and kids if they don't have to? Society let's them get away with both.

You didn’t answer the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's just a closeted gay man. I know several that have been through 3 or more women as beards. Its a personality disorder thing. They can't accept all of themselves. This is not society. This is an internal mental health issue.

Where did you get your PHD in clinical psychology?

Lol. If this society isn't freeing enough foe them nothing will. There are ample men available for sex on apps. Why should they give up their cover and kids if they don't have to? Society let's them get away with both.

You didn’t answer the question.

Ask on the lgbtq forum and see if you get a different answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

[Anonymous]

Mine is. But he also lies about stuff so I feel really confused. Like, should I be on HIV prophylaxis drugs? I don’t think he’s cheating, but I don’t know because of the lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a bisexual husband? If so, how and when did he come out to you? I think my partner may be bi. I want to talk to him about it but don’t want to make him feel embarrassed or defensive.

You should be asking him very clearly and very directly. Don’t worry about embarrassment etc. Because open communication is key. I think asking him in a very frank and benign, yet clear, way also avoids any type of embarrassment. The more dramatic or passively it comes up, the more room for awkwardness / embarrassment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very few men are actually bisexual. Most are just in denile / closeted gay

Can we please just bury this myth? Sexuality is a lot more complex than most people are willing to admit? Part is what one considers themselves, another is who they have sex with. A gay friend told me that most of his hookups are married men who have active sex lives with their wives. And he runs into situations where men will do everything under the sun with him, but consider kissing or hugging "gay". Most men do not fit into nice, neat spaces.

[Anonymous]

Interesting article.

“Watch What Happens When Bisexual Guys Try gay hook up apps For the First Time”

https://www.out.com/sex/2022/9/29/watch-what-happens-when-bisexual-guys-try-grindr-first-time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very few men are actually bisexual. Most are just in denile / closeted gay

Can we please just bury this myth? Sexuality is a lot more complex than most people are willing to admit? Part is what one considers themselves, another is who they have sex with. A gay friend told me that most of his hookups are married men who have active sex lives with their wives. And he runs into situations where men will do everything under the sun with him, but consider kissing or hugging "gay". Most men do not fit into nice, neat spaces.

They don't tell the wives. These men just like sex period. It's awful for the wives. They are exposed to so much they shouldn't. I hate your friend. How can you have friends like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a bisexual husband? If so, how and when did he come out to you? I think my partner may be bi. I want to talk to him about it but don’t want to make him feel embarrassed or defensive.

You should be asking him very clearly and very directly. Don’t worry about embarrassment etc. Because open communication is key. I think asking him in a very frank and benign, yet clear, way also avoids any type of embarrassment. The more dramatic or passively it comes up, the more room for awkwardness / embarrassment.

Why does it matter if he's faithful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

That has not been my experience at all. The majority of men in my life were not interested in anal at all.