Bisexual Husband

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Yeah, I’ve heard way too many stories of straight married men who end up getting a BJ or hand job on guys trips.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Very few men are actually bisexual. Most are just in denile / closeted gay

Can we please just bury this myth? Sexuality is a lot more complex than most people are willing to admit? Part is what one considers themselves, another is who they have sex with. A gay friend told me that most of his hookups are married men who have active sex lives with their wives. And he runs into situations where men will do everything under the sun with him, but consider kissing or hugging "gay". Most men do not fit into nice, neat spaces.

Sexuality is complex for women, it's black and white for men. That's what the studies say.

[Anonymous]

OP, what do you want him to do about it if you know? I’m bi, and it doesn’t change anything. I’m still monogamous. Does it matter if you openly know? How do you think it will change him? Are you imagining opening the marriage so that he can explore with men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Forgive me for writing this, but you were with "lots of men" who were having sex with a woman who has sex with lots of men. You attrack the freaky ones and don't disappoint, apparently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's just a closeted gay man. I know several that have been through 3 or more women as beards. Its a personality disorder thing. They can't accept all of themselves. This is not society. This is an internal mental health issue.

I don’t know all about that but a lot of men who claim they are bisexual prefer sex with men. Maybe he wanted a standard family, got one, fell in love with all of you so he will never leave but still can’t stop thinking about men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a bisexual husband? If so, how and when did he come out to you? I think my partner may be bi. I want to talk to him about it but don’t want to make him feel embarrassed or defensive.

If you’re already married, why did it matter if he’s bi or not? He chose to marry and so the covenant of marriage requires fidelity to you and you only. Otherwise it isn’t marriage. It’s….something else.

Husbands who are heterosexual don’t just cease being attracted to other females just because they got married. But the attraction becomes irrelevant because they are pledging that they will no longer act on this attraction.

There is no need to pick at this scab, OP. You are only inviting heartache.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a bisexual husband? If so, how and when did he come out to you? I think my partner may be bi. I want to talk to him about it but don’t want to make him feel embarrassed or defensive.

Don't marry him. Men will have sex whenever. It's not possible to monitor. Plus now you have to worry about men and women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Correct.

DH here. Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man. NO THANK YOU!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

I think it’s really dependent on age and amount of porn consumption. I really feel sorry for young women today.
That has not been my experience at all. The majority of men in my life were not interested in anal at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

I think it’s really dependent on age and amount of porn consumption. I really feel sorry for young women today.
That has not been my experience at all. The majority of men in my life were not interested in anal at all.

Sorry, PP from above, was referring to whether or not they are into anal.

[Anonymous]

More like gay husband.

[Anonymous]

If you are on DCUM it’s highly likely your husband is gay.

[Anonymous]

OP, is this a man you are dating or are you married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain.

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.

Correct.

DH here. Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man. NO THANK YOU!

How exactly do you know what ALL straight guys like or don't like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are on DCUM it’s highly likely your husband is gay.

And here you are on DCUM so I have to assume that your husband, whether you are a man or a woman, is gay.