Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world are people upset that a woman in her 40s is getting asked out? Such a weird response. Is this the Amish forum?

Man here and I find this battle of the sexes strange too. A lot of bitter divorced people projecting anger on strangers that they have for their exes.

Women crowing about how there are so many lonely single men, hoping to scare men into staying in crap relationships because no one wants to date your pudgy, bald self.

Men crowing about bitter, dry cat women that no one wants to treat seriously but will sleep with and discard.

I am mid-40s and in the dating scene. There are wonderful women out there and I have wonderful single male friends. There is plenty of sex and love to go around!

EXACTLY!!!

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40 year old here .. got hit on by some MIT & Harvard students from Australia. Although I’m not interested is parting with my money and I don’t have issues ego wise— this was actually really flattering. They were handsome, foreign, and super smart. I’m a black woman( the least desirable) so was really flattered even though it was all rooted in sexual desire. Who cares— I was still wanted. 😂 they all got a no from me.

Black women are very desirable.

Yeah, f that Ok Cupid study full of absolute crap. Black women are 🔥

I’m the 8:13pm poster( black female 40) Maybe I haven’t felt desirable in DC and I try to show up at places like Barcelona wine bar for example. No luck. Men stare- but I don’t get small talk or engagement. I was on the apps but didn’t get much or traction ( swipes/convo/ people barely wanted to meet in person). I think I’m attractive but what I experienced with the Australian students was full on flirting, interest, request for my Instagram and number. I try to approach men in the wild but it tends to be dead on arrival and I worry I’m stepping on some toes ( a wife or partner I’m not aware of). But these were 23 year old kids and rather gutsy ( YOLO vibes). I’ve been in DC and have never been hit on like that. That was really refreshing and flattering. I’m not sure where to find a date but when I’m not raising my child or working — I am making solid attempts to go out. I applaud the abundance mentality of the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

I am the OP. I am not having sex. I could but I am not. All I said was I had four men ask me out on Sat. night. I was never boasting about having sex. I was commenting that it is nonsense that people assume women my age can’t get decent male attention. Way to make assumptions!!!

Why OP do you keep pretending you are this same woman? This woman obviously is having sex. She admits it.
No, that's what YOU want the thread to be about. The fact is that there are several women responding (me, and I'm not OP) about having prospects even though we are in our 40s, don't want a lifelong commitment from a man and enjoy sex. You INTERPRETED that from at least my posts that that means I'm having sex with anything that walks and am somehow an unpaid prostitute. You are trying your damnest to vilify anyone who dares to be free of your judgment for the way we choose to live our life.

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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

But did any of those dates ejaculate inside of you?

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world are people upset that a woman in her 40s is getting asked out? Such a weird response. Is this the Amish forum?

Man here and I find this battle of the sexes strange too. A lot of bitter divorced people projecting anger on strangers that they have for their exes.

Women crowing about how there are so many lonely single men, hoping to scare men into staying in crap relationships because no one wants to date your pudgy, bald self.

Men crowing about bitter, dry cat women that no one wants to treat seriously but will sleep with and discard.

I am mid-40s and in the dating scene. There are wonderful women out there and I have wonderful single male friends. There is plenty of sex and love to go around!

Yeah and how long are you staying with any of these people? And how many at a time?

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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

But did any of those dates ejaculate inside of you?

Who cares? This is just not an issue for men or women to find temporary love with millions of people on the planet. To the OP I say No sh&t Sherlock. You are proving something that doesn't need to be proven.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why in the world are people upset that a woman in her 40s is getting asked out? Such a weird response. Is this the Amish forum?

Man here and I find this battle of the sexes strange too. A lot of bitter divorced people projecting anger on strangers that they have for their exes.

Women crowing about how there are so many lonely single men, hoping to scare men into staying in crap relationships because no one wants to date your pudgy, bald self.

Men crowing about bitter, dry cat women that no one wants to treat seriously but will sleep with and discard.

I am mid-40s and in the dating scene. There are wonderful women out there and I have wonderful single male friends. There is plenty of sex and love to go around!

Yeah and how long are you staying with any of these people? And how many at a time?

You're exhausting. Your questions are idiotic. Go wallow in your misery somewhere else.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why in the world are people upset that a woman in her 40s is getting asked out? Such a weird response. Is this the Amish forum?

Man here and I find this battle of the sexes strange too. A lot of bitter divorced people projecting anger on strangers that they have for their exes.

Women crowing about how there are so many lonely single men, hoping to scare men into staying in crap relationships because no one wants to date your pudgy, bald self.

Men crowing about bitter, dry cat women that no one wants to treat seriously but will sleep with and discard.

I am mid-40s and in the dating scene. There are wonderful women out there and I have wonderful single male friends. There is plenty of sex and love to go around!

Yeah and how long are you staying with any of these people? And how many at a time?

You're exhausting. Your questions are idiotic. Go wallow in your misery somewhere else.

They are not idiotic. People are not meant to date and sleep with the huge number of people they are doing now. It depreciates the value of the person. If you were so happy why wouldn't you just settle with one?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why in the world are people upset that a woman in her 40s is getting asked out? Such a weird response. Is this the Amish forum?

Man here and I find this battle of the sexes strange too. A lot of bitter divorced people projecting anger on strangers that they have for their exes.

Women crowing about how there are so many lonely single men, hoping to scare men into staying in crap relationships because no one wants to date your pudgy, bald self.

Men crowing about bitter, dry cat women that no one wants to treat seriously but will sleep with and discard.

I am mid-40s and in the dating scene. There are wonderful women out there and I have wonderful single male friends. There is plenty of sex and love to go around!

Yeah and how long are you staying with any of these people? And how many at a time?

You're exhausting. Your questions are idiotic. Go wallow in your misery somewhere else.

They are not idiotic. People are not meant to date and sleep with the huge number of people they are doing now. It depreciates the value of the person. If you were so happy why wouldn't you just settle with one?

So you say....so you say....and again stop saying we are sleeping with a huge number of people. STop pushing your hateful narrative.

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Touched a nerve? Maybe you can't just be honest and admit you date more than one person at a time and are not interested in having long-term relationships with these women.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

The fact that none of these guys are divorced is not a good thing. For me it’s a red flag if a guy is in his late 40s and unmarried, usually signifies that he is either a player, has commitment issues, is too picky, Or just has major issues. It is pretty rare to find accomplished guys in their late 40s who have never been married.

I never said late 40s. I date mid to late 30s. Not a red flag to be single. It is not 20 years ago.

DP.. my DH was almost 40 when we got married. This was and is his first marriage. He had been in LTR before me, but neither of them were interested in being married. DH fell for me hard, and he knew that one day I wanted to get married, not necessarily to him, but I'm a bit old fashioned and believe in marriage.

So, we got married after like 18months of dating. DH said he knew I was the one after six months. I don't know if DH would've ever gotten married if we hadn't met, but he does like being in a LTR; he just didn't see the point of marriage up until that point.

So, I don't think a man not being married by late 30s or 40s is a red flag. Sometimes, it's the timing plus the right person that makes all the difference.

We have been married now for 20 years, two kids. Generally, a happy marriage.

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40 year old here .. got hit on by some MIT & Harvard students from Australia. Although I’m not interested is parting with my money and I don’t have issues ego wise— this was actually really flattering. They were handsome, foreign, and super smart. I’m a black woman( the least desirable) so was really flattered even though it was all rooted in sexual desire. Who cares— I was still wanted. 😂 they all got a no from me.

Black women are very desirable.

I agree. I found a very hot older black woman on Seeking. She is up for anything and I cannot wait to see where it goes!

Yeah, f that Ok Cupid study full of absolute crap. Black women are 🔥

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

I am the OP. I am not having sex. I could but I am not. All I said was I had four men ask me out on Sat. night. I was never boasting about having sex. I was commenting that it is nonsense that people assume women my age can’t get decent male attention. Way to make assumptions!!!

Why OP do you keep pretending you are this same woman? This woman obviously is having sex. She admits it.
No, that's what YOU want the thread to be about. The fact is that there are several women responding (me, and I'm not OP) about having prospects even though we are in our 40s, don't want a lifelong commitment from a man and enjoy sex. You INTERPRETED that from at least my posts that that means I'm having sex with anything that walks and am somehow an unpaid prostitute. You are trying your damnest to vilify anyone who dares to be free of your judgment for the way we choose to live our life.

What?? I am the OP. I said I was asked out by 4 men on Saturday night. I am dating. I am not sleeping with anyone right now. If I am exclusive with someone, I will. I have done the exclusive but not serious situation before.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

I am the OP. I am not having sex. I could but I am not. All I said was I had four men ask me out on Sat. night. I was never boasting about having sex. I was commenting that it is nonsense that people assume women my age can’t get decent male attention. Way to make assumptions!!!

Why OP do you keep pretending you are this same woman? This woman obviously is having sex. She admits it.
No, that's what YOU want the thread to be about. The fact is that there are several women responding (me, and I'm not OP) about having prospects even though we are in our 40s, don't want a lifelong commitment from a man and enjoy sex. You INTERPRETED that from at least my posts that that means I'm having sex with anything that walks and am somehow an unpaid prostitute. You are trying your damnest to vilify anyone who dares to be free of your judgment for the way we choose to live our life.

What?? I am the OP. I said I was asked out by 4 men on Saturday night. I am dating. I am not sleeping with anyone right now. If I am exclusive with someone, I will. I have done the exclusive but not serious situation before.

But you keep responding to my texts when I'm clearly conversing with the woman who is sleeping around.

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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

But did any of those dates ejaculate inside of you?

No. I have not slept with any of them. Why does getting dates imply automatic sex to you? The point is that I have options if I want to have sex.