Husband compliments classically “good looking families” in public. How to make him stop?

[Anonymous]

Anytime my husband sees a mother (and father) with two or more really cute young kids he compliments how cute the kids are or what an attractive family they are in passing. He thinks this is a great compliment and makes their day. I think it’s a bit weird. I agree with him that the families he goes out of his way to compliment are classically attractive but I think they obviously know that, so it goes without saying. And two, it is a bit strange and forward for a random older male to do this. Or maybe I’m wrong and it is some great compliment to randomly hear. Once in a while the compliment comes with him paying their meal tab or if they’re behind or in front us at say a shop, he will pick up their cheque.

[Anonymous]

Are you Canadian?

[Anonymous]

Complementing guess it's okay, but picking up the tab? That's grade A weird.

[Anonymous]

What exactly is your problem with this? And what is a classically attractive family? Are we talking about race, gender, weight, clothing, what?

Use your words precisely. Don't leave us hanging and guessing.

[Anonymous]

Where does he hang out, OP? I'm going to bring my family to see if we can score some free McNuggets

[Anonymous]

Words are fine. Paying for them is not, and goes into creepy territory. What is he, the pro-white family activist? Because that's what you're implying when you mean "classically good-looking"? Is he also against abortion?

[Anonymous]

That seems sweet but just nix the check paying.

[Anonymous]

I would work on accepting this as one of his quirks rather than trying to make him stop.

I could think of a lot worse things.

[Anonymous]

Complimenting is fine, paying for them is definitely weird.

[Anonymous]

This is sweet. Whenever we see a padre or two out for lunch DH will pay for their meal. I’ve had my meal and the whole table’s paid for while out to dinner with girlfriends. People are free to be charitable as they please, I think.

[Anonymous]

I have 3 kids (under age 10) and have had older people make comments in passing like “you have a beautiful family” or whatever. I think it’s sweet and usually guess it reminds them of their grandkids or whatever. My husband also tells me he gets a lot of comments when he takes our 2 y/o DD out on his own. I think some people just take notice of kids/families and it’s okay if it’s a quick comment. Picking up the tab is unnecessary and for all you know these families have plenty of money. Tell him if he’s looking to drop $ on someone, look for a parent at the grocery store who looks stressed about buying food and diapers. If a family with multiple kids is going out to eat they’re probably doing ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is sweet. Whenever we see a padre or two out for lunch DH will pay for their meal. I’ve had my meal and the whole table’s paid for while out to dinner with girlfriends. People are free to be charitable as they please, I think.

Without knowing the padre? What if they're pedophiles?

[Anonymous]

The cheque paying is not nearly as common and he does not mention it to them. I assume they share with them after we leave the man and wife who just left paid for you?

[Anonymous]

Pretty privilege is real. DH sounds very shallow but harmless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is your problem with this? And what is a classically attractive family? Are we talking about race, gender, weight, clothing, what?

Use your words precisely. Don't leave us hanging and guessing.

He says like a Norman Rockwell painting; classically all-American. He thinks these days it’s so uncommon for attractive young people to have a bunch of kids that it is compliment-worthy when you see it. I think he’s yearning for more grandkids and this is his outlet. But it’s still a little forward, to me.