I am an Asian woman married to a white guy. Ask me (practically) anything.

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Here's my question. Why did you feel the need to do this? I haven't seen women in other interracial pairings do this and it's not like this particular pairing is so rare/inscrutable/taboo as to warrant extensive discussion (quite the opposite).

Going through the questions, I am even more curious. Nearly every question that has been asked is either a disguised echo chamber comment, easily answerable with minimal research, inane, or just plain stupid. Seriously, what was the motivation?

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Anonymous wrote:Here's my question. Why did you feel the need to do this? I haven't seen women in other interracial pairings do this and it's not like this particular pairing is so rare/inscrutable/taboo as to warrant extensive discussion (quite the opposite).

Going through the questions, I am even more curious. Nearly every question that has been asked is either a disguised echo chamber comment, easily answerable with minimal research, inane, or just plain stupid. Seriously, what was the motivation?

Attention of course!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's my question. Why did you feel the need to do this? I haven't seen women in other interracial pairings do this and it's not like this particular pairing is so rare/inscrutable/taboo as to warrant extensive discussion (quite the opposite).

Going through the questions, I am even more curious. Nearly every question that has been asked is either a disguised echo chamber comment, easily answerable with minimal research, inane, or just plain stupid. Seriously, what was the motivation?

Not the OP, but really? What's the motivation for anyone that posts and AMA thread? Why aren't you asking this on every single one of these kinds of threads?

I remember this being posted around the same time as some idiot posted the insecure post about Asians/Indian women knocking out white, blond as the "new" trophy wife. I pretty sure OP, posted this to dispel the "trophy wife" nonsense and to point out as you've stated, this is not a rare/inscrutable/taboo pairing.

And I learned some things from this thread and I'm sure others did too. Many posts on this off-topic forum are easily answerable with a google search, many thoughts and questions her are inane or just plain stupid, but it's the off-topic board and you don't have to click on every single post.

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No idea what the motivation of OP was in starting the thread but let me say based on interaction with many Asians, there is a pecking order when it comes to marrying someone of another race/color.

Being married to a white guy is viewed as the next best thing to marrying within one's own race .... and depending on the looks, credentials, etc of the white guy, it may even be viewed as a "catch" of sorts by some in the Asian community.

Yes, and there is also a tendency, to want to adapt to some Western aspects. For example, most Asians in the US use a Western first name and rarely use their Asian first name.

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I just love the proliferation of stereotypes - especially with regards to Asian culture.

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Anonymous wrote:I just love the proliferation of stereotypes - especially with regards to Asian culture.

Shouldn't you be screaming at your kids to practice the piano right now?

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Anonymous wrote:I just love the proliferation of stereotypes - especially with regards to Asian culture.

And what aspect of the "stereotype" are you suggesting is not accurate?

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Anonymous wrote:I just love the proliferation of stereotypes - especially with regards to Asian culture.

Shouldn't you be screaming at your kids to practice the piano right now?

No, that PP is busy trying to get a kid into TJ.

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Anonymous wrote:I just love the proliferation of stereotypes - especially with regards to Asian culture.

The kind of response that is intended to put people on the defensive lest they be accused of being racist.

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Anonymous wrote:I just love the proliferation of stereotypes - especially with regards to Asian culture.

The kind of response that is intended to put people on the defensive lest they be accused of being racist.

Least that PP can do is say what he/she took offense to.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's my question. Why did you feel the need to do this? I haven't seen women in other interracial pairings do this and it's not like this particular pairing is so rare/inscrutable/taboo as to warrant extensive discussion (quite the opposite).

Going through the questions, I am even more curious. Nearly every question that has been asked is either a disguised echo chamber comment, easily answerable with minimal research, inane, or just plain stupid. Seriously, what was the motivation?

Not the OP, but really? What's the motivation for anyone that posts and AMA thread? Why aren't you asking this on every single one of these kinds of threads?

I remember this being posted around the same time as some idiot posted the insecure post about Asians/Indian women knocking out white, blond as the "new" trophy wife. I pretty sure OP, posted this to dispel the "trophy wife" nonsense and to point out as you've stated, this is not a rare/inscrutable/taboo pairing.

And I learned some things from this thread and I'm sure others did too. Many posts on this off-topic forum are easily answerable with a google search, many thoughts and questions her are inane or just plain stupid, but it's the off-topic board and you don't have to click on every single post.

If you would read my post carefully, at no point did I say or even suggest that the OP should not have started this AMA. I am well aware that this is an internet forum and everyone has the right to post whatever they want, regardless of how pointless or redundant it is.

You're right that I could ask this question in any AMA, but I don't care about the motivations of other AMA posters; I'm curious about this one. That's why I asked the question here and that's why I bring up the lack of similar AMA's for other interracial couples. She said "ask me anything," so that's what I'm doing.

[Anonymous]

White guy with asian wife here. Just wanted to say thank you OP for the time and effort you put into sharing some of your life and experience in this thread. I learned a couple of things myself, and enjoyed the read.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you speak your parents native language with your children? I know so many Asian women married to white men who give their children Anglo names and speak only English. I wonder why they don't want to pass down their heritage. It makes me wonder if the whole reason they marry white men is because they are trying to erase their Asian heritage. This is why I ask, I'd really like to know so I don't make these assumptions. It just seems odd and I can't figure it out, especially when the grandparents almost always solely speak the native language. How do these children communicate and learn from their grandparents with such language barriers?

I'm guessing the reason OP ignored this question is because there may be some truth to the self hate theory.

I bow down to you oh superior one.

Let's see, many European ancestors of whites had their own language, but most didn't learn German, Polish, Gaelic, Dutch, Swedish from their parents and continue to pass it down. Must be some truth to that self hate theory.

The recent European immigrants who speak their language try to teach it to their kids.
I really think that racism has scared non-black minorities into a corner. They are so afraid that they will be victimized that they shed EVERYTHING. They also run as fast as possible away from other minorities including blacks. Racism has had collateral damage, Asians (and many black people) have not been enobled by the experience, rather they have submitted. Not all of course, I know many Asians who have made every efffort to preserve culture and marry each other with pride.

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Anonymous wrote:If Asians are all that great and Whites are losing all that hype then why did you choose a white man over an Asian one?

I don't know. I went out with Asian guys, white guys, white closeted guys (well, just one), black guys, Latino guys, religious guys, bisexual guys, educated guys, no-college-degree guys. I'll give any guy a chance to buy me a coffee and I'll listen to you. I never fell in love with any of them though.

I know tons of white chicks who dig Asian guys, so I don't understand your question. A PP asked that very question. No one's losing. But Asian does seem to be the flava-of-the-month. Which is amusing to me, because when I was growing up Asian women were *not* very popular as dates.

So the OP is a whore and finally found some idiot willing to ignore her cold sores and propose - good for her.