I am an Asian woman married to a white guy. Ask me (practically) anything.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? Though it was posed in the questions, repeating "chick" reads rather juvenile.

I'm, like, 40, you know? And thank you for the "juvenile" accusation--we Asian women *are* supposed to stay youthful far, far beyond our natural years, so they say.

Well, that certainly doesn't always happen.

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Anonymous wrote:What is booking? I guess I have a vague idea but I don't really understand based on what you wrote.

It's really complicated to explain because the nuances of booking are lost in translation. It is a concept so foreign to American soil that the knee-jerk reaction to the one-line explanation of booking is, "That is so weird! Why do Asian women stand for that?" Hell, you're just listening to some drunk guy talk for 10 minutes in exchange for a free cocktail. No groping. It's not so bad. He might just be super cute and the two of you hit it off.

An explanation here: http://everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1680007

Booking happens in the U.S., in the Asian clubs.

But guys of all races inherently love the idea of booking. Imagine! The horror of horrors, some hot chick shoots you down at a bar when you go up and ask if you can buy her a drink, and you slink back to your buddies while you hear her friends laughing at you, doesn't ever happen in booking. Nick Cage went to a booking club, that's where he met his wife. She was a waitress.

Love the idea of a booking club.

Riiiight? This is OP. Booking is great for women when you are in your early 20's and too cash-strapped to get drunk (remember those days), because you get free drinks. Booking is great for guys because you can technically be the ugliest guy in the club but you WILL get an audience with the hottest girl in the club. How's that for a mind-bending concept??? It's a great equalizer. The only problem is, it's expensive for guys to participate. But Asia is very nouveau-riche right now, so why is that even a surprise.

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are your children bilingual?
what do your jewish in laws think of you?
do your parent and your in laws interact frequently? how does that go?

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Every white girl/Asian boy coupling I know, and they are all now married so not some fly-by-night thing, the woman I think was a bit more explicit in showing her interest to the man. In one case, she asked the guy out for coffee first. In another, she slept with him right away (no, he didn't think she was a slut for doing so either, only assholes think that). In another one, she just told him she found him to be "really cute," would he be interested?

I guess I'm one of the lucky white girls. DH pursued me.

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Anonymous wrote:are your children bilingual?
what do your jewish in laws think of you?
do your parent and your in laws interact frequently? how does that go?

Children too young really to tell, but probably not going to be bilingual. I speak to them in English.

Jewish in laws are ok. I think they gave up on DH being observant a long time ago, way before he met me. They too were very thrilled at my education levels, however.

They are respectful when they interact. Cards are exchanged on the holidays. But they don't really interact very much. Although their children have converged, I think culturally they are really just very different. There is the language barrier as well, which is big.

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What does your family drive?

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Anonymous wrote:What does your family drive?

A ten-year-old reliable import and a minivan.

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Another white girl pursued by an asian man here. Way to stereotype OP. Not all asian men are submissive or afraid to approach white women.

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what is your personla opinion of asian women who have the eyelid surgery to open up their eyes?

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Anonymous wrote:Another white girl pursued by an asian man here. Way to stereotype OP. Not all asian men are submissive or afraid to approach white women.

agree with this. My brother asked out his Caucasian wife.

and back to "booking" - it was a PITA way of partying... being dragged to table to table or having waitresses try to cconvince you to join another table... The most po popular clubs where I stayed Iin Korea all had booking. Korean clubs in LA were also the same. II'm sure some people like them but not my taste at all.

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Do you make more than your husband? Do you split chores and childcare equally?

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Do you think your situation is unusual? I'm also in a mixed Asian-White marriage, also inter-faith, and it never would have occurred to me that people might find that interesting. I'm surprised this AMA has already made it to page 3.

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What didn't you marry a Black men. They are usually way hotter.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think your situation is unusual? I'm also in a mixed Asian-White marriage, also inter-faith, and it never would have occurred to me that people might find that interesting. I'm surprised this AMA has already made it to page 3.

I was going to write the same thing. I'm really surprised that this is interesting to people. Asian-White couples are everywhere around here.

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First question was if your DH is Jewish, and you already said yes.
Is your DH short?