I am an Asian woman married to a white guy. Ask me (practically) anything.

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Anonymous wrote:Asian-American or born in Asia?

Foreign born but raised here in the U.S. since infancy. So, those two things in your question are not mutually exclusive.

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Do you know/speak the language of the country you were born in?

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Anonymous wrote:If Asians are all that great and Whites are losing all that hype then why did you choose a white man over an Asian one?

I don't know. I went out with Asian guys, white guys, white closeted guys (well, just one), black guys, Latino guys, religious guys, bisexual guys, educated guys, no-college-degree guys. I'll give any guy a chance to buy me a coffee and I'll listen to you. I never fell in love with any of them though.

I know tons of white chicks who dig Asian guys, so I don't understand your question. A PP asked that very question. No one's losing. But Asian does seem to be the flava-of-the-month. Which is amusing to me, because when I was growing up Asian women were *not* very popular as dates.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know/speak the language of the country you were born in?

Yes. I speak it, read it, and write it, albeit crookedly.

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What is booking? I guess I have a vague idea but I don't really understand based on what you wrote.

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Anonymous wrote:What is booking? I guess I have a vague idea but I don't really understand based on what you wrote.

I was going to ask OP the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:What is booking? I guess I have a vague idea but I don't really understand based on what you wrote.

It's really complicated to explain because the nuances of booking are lost in translation. It is a concept so foreign to American soil that the knee-jerk reaction to the one-line explanation of booking is, "That is so weird! Why do Asian women stand for that?" Hell, you're just listening to some drunk guy talk for 10 minutes in exchange for a free cocktail. No groping. It's not so bad. He might just be super cute and the two of you hit it off.

An explanation here: http://everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1680007

Booking happens in the U.S., in the Asian clubs.

But guys of all races inherently love the idea of booking. Imagine! The horror of horrors, some hot chick shoots you down at a bar when you go up and ask if you can buy her a drink, and you slink back to your buddies while you hear her friends laughing at you, doesn't ever happen in booking. Nick Cage went to a booking club, that's where he met his wife. She was a waitress.

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What are the races/cultures of your couple friends. Are they mostly Asian, White or both?

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Anonymous wrote:What are the races/cultures of your couple friends. Are they mostly Asian, White or both?

I have friends from all races. But the couples I referenced before in a prior post? All white women/asian men. I think that's what the PP was asking about, she was asking about Asian guys. In terms of all my friends IRL, I would say about 50-60% of my couple friends are white-white. The remainder are all mixed-race or same-race-not-white.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know any nice Asian guys who are into white chicks?

A lot of Asian guys you see would probably be into white chicks. They are kind of shy, though, a lot of it is cultural--for both genders. Don't take their standoffishness for disinterest.

Every white girl/Asian boy coupling I know, and they are all now married so not some fly-by-night thing, the woman I think was a bit more explicit in showing her interest to the man. In one case, she asked the guy out for coffee first. In another, she slept with him right away (no, he didn't think she was a slut for doing so either, only assholes think that). In another one, she just told him she found him to be "really cute," would he be interested?

Well, it all worked out for them. But culturally, Asian culture tends to be less hail-fellow-well-met than American culture. But unfortunately, the U.S. does not have the societal structure for meeting under these circumstances. There are no arranged dates, and no "booking." Booking is very popular in Asian clubs, and takes away a lot of the nerve-wracking chances guys take in approaching girls. But booking is there because Asian guys just don't like getting shot down.

So, show that you won't shoot them down, and ask the guy out for coffee! You might just find yourself married to a hard-working guy with an advanced degree who treats you real good and doesn't do drugs.

Me, I found my soulmate outside my ethnicity, but I'm just glad he wasn't in Alaska or Madasgascar because I would have never met him then.

This is OP again. By the way, an Asian chick probably couldn't get away with asking an Asian guy out like that. But you white chicks get a pass because you are seen as exotic, with strange, mysterious and enticing white-wimmin ways. So go for it.

[Anonymous]

Are you either a lawyer, a doctor, or a PhD physical or biological scientist? Or do you work in a massage parlor?

[Anonymous]

How old are you? Though it was posed in the questions, repeating "chick" reads rather juvenile.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you either a lawyer, a doctor, or a PhD physical or biological scientist? Or do you work in a massage parlor?

I'm here legally and know the language, so no, I don't work in a massage parlor.

Yes to former question. DH is as well.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? Though it was posed in the questions, repeating "chick" reads rather juvenile.

I'm, like, 40, you know? And thank you for the "juvenile" accusation--we Asian women *are* supposed to stay youthful far, far beyond our natural years, so they say.

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Anonymous wrote:What is booking? I guess I have a vague idea but I don't really understand based on what you wrote.

It's really complicated to explain because the nuances of booking are lost in translation. It is a concept so foreign to American soil that the knee-jerk reaction to the one-line explanation of booking is, "That is so weird! Why do Asian women stand for that?" Hell, you're just listening to some drunk guy talk for 10 minutes in exchange for a free cocktail. No groping. It's not so bad. He might just be super cute and the two of you hit it off.

An explanation here: http://everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1680007

Booking happens in the U.S., in the Asian clubs.

But guys of all races inherently love the idea of booking. Imagine! The horror of horrors, some hot chick shoots you down at a bar when you go up and ask if you can buy her a drink, and you slink back to your buddies while you hear her friends laughing at you, doesn't ever happen in booking. Nick Cage went to a booking club, that's where he met his wife. She was a waitress.

Love the idea of a booking club.