One of them is lying to me - the cleaners or the neighbor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This can’t be real, right? OP has to be a troll.

As an aside, how many of you actually do what the OP claims she does: tell the cleaner about things she “missed” when cleaning? I’ve never done that once in my entire life.

The detail about the daughter looking stonefaced (haha ironic) when OP admonishes her cleaning abilities was… Very weird.

It's another racist trope about unresponsive/dull "help"

[Anonymous]

I would've just said thanks and minded my own business. No need for drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This can’t be real, right? OP has to be a troll.

As an aside, how many of you actually do what the OP claims she does: tell the cleaner about things she “missed” when cleaning? I’ve never done that once in my entire life.

You’re lucky. I have had to do this a few times, especially with cleaning teams from agencies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I would've just said thanks and minded my own business. No need for drama.

+1. Best response under the circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not just your neighbors who are racist. You clearly are, op. You should do some reflection.

what's this got to do with race? Why play race card in every single situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are the A hole of the day. Congrats!

Why am I the A hole? Because I confronted them?
By the way, I have done a lot for them over the years and they're leaving because they worry the neighbors will call cops.

Op, let's just be honest. If you didnt care they smoked outside of your residence inside their own car, you wouldn't have said anything. You would have taken the super great family with the former drug addicted daughter's word with a grain of salt and kept it moving. But what you did was go right to the cleaners, whom you think are likely illegals for no established reason and accused them of smoking weed in their private car, even though you don't really care. 40-60% of addicts relapse in their first year. You look really foolish that your first instinct is that it's the daughter next door.

OP here. No, I don't want them to smoke on my property. I don't want them to smoke or drink here.

What was I supposed to do? Not confront them? Pretend I didn't hear anything?

We had a similar situation a few years ago. Our rental property was rented out to an UMC white family with two teenage boys. Our neighbors alerted us that they were smoking bongs. We confronted the family. Oh,no, I must be racist agains white folks. They admitted it, the boys were punished. We didn't renew the lease.

How are these two cases different? I should confront the white family, but not the latin family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
As an aside, how many of you actually do what the OP claims she does: tell the cleaner about things she “missed” when cleaning? I’ve never done that once in my entire life.

Are you serious? What are you, a doormat? Afraid to speak up if the job you hired someone to do is not done well?

[Anonymous]

Incredibly, this person is not a troll. I checked with Jeff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are the A hole of the day. Congrats!

Why am I the A hole? Because I confronted them?
By the way, I have done a lot for them over the years and they're leaving because they worry the neighbors will call cops.

Op, let's just be honest. If you didnt care they smoked outside of your residence inside their own car, you wouldn't have said anything. You would have taken the super great family with the former drug addicted daughter's word with a grain of salt and kept it moving. But what you did was go right to the cleaners, whom you think are likely illegals for no established reason and accused them of smoking weed in their private car, even though you don't really care. 40-60% of addicts relapse in their first year. You look really foolish that your first instinct is that it's the daughter next door.

OP here. No, I don't want them to smoke on my property. I don't want them to smoke or drink here.

What was I supposed to do? Not confront them? Pretend I didn't hear anything?

We had a similar situation a few years ago. Our rental property was rented out to an UMC white family with two teenage boys. Our neighbors alerted us that they were smoking bongs. We confronted the family. Oh,no, I must be racist agains white folks. They admitted it, the boys were punished. We didn't renew the lease.

How are these two cases different? I should confront the white family, but not the latin family?

You had no proof. All you had was a dubious claim by a neighbor. Really, the one and only time this occurred also happened to be the one and only time you weren’t there when they arrived.

But either way, it’s irrelevant now because your cleaners aren’t coming back. Time to find someone new or scrub your own toilets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In this situation, OP, you should ask "AITA," because the answer would be yes, you are.

Absolutely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This can’t be real, right? OP has to be a troll.

As an aside, how many of you actually do what the OP claims she does: tell the cleaner about things she “missed” when cleaning? I’ve never done that once in my entire life.

The detail about the daughter looking stonefaced (haha ironic) when OP admonishes her cleaning abilities was… Very weird.

It's another racist trope about unresponsive/dull "help"

Racist and/or classist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You had no proof. All you had was a dubious claim by a neighbor. Really, the one and only time this occurred also happened to be the one and only time you weren’t there when they arrived.

But either way, it’s irrelevant now because your cleaners aren’t coming back. Time to find someone new or scrub your own toilets.

Of course, I didn't have any proof. So I asked them. I didn't say "You DID THIS!!!" I told explained what happened and how I feel about it and waited for them to respond.

They're not coming back because they're afraid of the neighbors. There are plenty of people who will scrub my toilets, don't worry.

If I hadn't told them, I can't control the neighbors. Who knows. Maybe they would have called the cops and then what? I'm glad I told them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Incredibly, this person is not a troll. I checked with Jeff.

Maybe should find a shrink and figure out why you're getting triggered. Then maybe you'll stop screaming "Troll!" in every thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You had no proof. All you had was a dubious claim by a neighbor. Really, the one and only time this occurred also happened to be the one and only time you weren’t there when they arrived.

But either way, it’s irrelevant now because your cleaners aren’t coming back. Time to find someone new or scrub your own toilets.

Of course, I didn't have any proof. So I asked them. I didn't say "You DID THIS!!!" I told explained what happened and how I feel about it and waited for them to respond.

They're not coming back because they're afraid of the neighbors. There are plenty of people who will scrub my toilets, don't worry.

If I hadn't told them, I can't control the neighbors. Who knows. Maybe they would have called the cops and then what? I'm glad I told them.

Actually, you did accuse them and presume what your neighbor said was true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neighbor’s daughter was probably smoking it and accused the cleaners to throw suspicion off of herself.

+100. I have sympathy for addicts, but you can pretty safely assume they are always lying.
Apologize to your cleaners and don't trust anything that came through the daughter again.