One of them is lying to me - the cleaners or the neighbor

[Anonymous]

I've had Mexican cleaners for over five years. I don't know if they're legal or not. A mother and daughter come to clean every other week. I've never had any issues with them, other than the mother cleans really well and the daughter doesn't. The daughter is not very motivated and makes this stone wall face expression when I ask her to clean something that she missed.

We've known our neighbors for 1.5 years. They are middle class family, dad, mom and two daughters, and have always been super friendly with everyone in the neighborhood and are always very nice. One of the daughters had problems with drugs until about a year ago. After rehab and a lot of efforts, I think she's off drugs now and has been living with them for a year now, taking online college classes, going to the gym, etc. I'm really hoping this problem is behind them, they're such nice people.

Our driveways are next to each other. Our garage is facing their garage. Cleaning ladies go in through the garage.

One day I was out of the house when cleaners arrived. They have a key and got in and started cleaning, as usual.

I drive up 30 minutes later and my neighbor texts me and then comes out to me and says that when the cleaners opened the car doors the neighbor's daughter smelled marijuana all the way to their garage, thought they were "hotboxing" which apparently means smoking in the car with windows rolled up. I thought surely a former drug user wouldn't confuse marijuana with anything else.

I didn't really smell anything, I have allergies and my nose is stuffed up in the mornings.

I waited until the cleaners left because I didn't want to confront them in my house. Then I texted them something like "Hey, is the car you drove here today yours? This is what the neighbors told me. I'm fine with people using it recreationally at home, but not at work or driving." They responded that this is racial profiling, this is racist, they would not do such a thing, the daughter has asthma and can't be around smoke, the mother doesn't drink, the neighbors are racist and the cleaning service is canceled because they're terrified that the neighbors will call cops on them. I think they may be illegal and that's why they're afraid, but don't know for sure.

So it didn't really go down the way I imagined it. I'm just puzzled by this bizarre incident and I don't know whom to believe.

[Anonymous]

Wow you are something else.

[Anonymous]

I think you made a mistake in accusing the cleaners of smoking marijuana without having any direct evidence yourself. I would expect you’d have been able to smell it on them if they were doing it in the car.

A better course of action would have been to thank the neighbors for the info and keep an eye on things. I’m not sure how you expected this to go.

[Anonymous]

Neighbor’s daughter was probably smoking it and accused the cleaners to throw suspicion off of herself.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I didn't really accuse them. I told them what the neighbors said and how I feel about it and was waiting for their response.

[Anonymous]

In this situation, OP, you should ask "AITA," because the answer would be yes, you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neighbor’s daughter was probably smoking it and accused the cleaners to throw suspicion off of herself.

This.

Also, am I the only person who wouldn't care if my cleaners smoked in their car?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t have bothered mentioning it. Why do you care if they smoke pot in their car before scrubbing your toilet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neighbor’s daughter was probably smoking it and accused the cleaners to throw suspicion off of herself.

100% Exactly what I was thinking.
And who texts someone to tell them what to do or not do on their own time. I hope the MEXICAN cleaners quit and sue you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't really accuse them. I told them what the neighbors said and how I feel about it and was waiting for their response.

Seriously? your message was as good as accusing them as anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neighbor’s daughter was probably smoking it and accused the cleaners to throw suspicion off of herself.

This.

Also, am I the only person who wouldn't care if my cleaners smoked in their car?

OP here. I don't care if they smoke, just not near my house or in the house. The smoke gets into walls, etc. Also, I don't want them to drive in this state either.

[Anonymous]

Neighbor girl is lying. Sorry

[Anonymous]

The neighbors daughter was probably doing the smoking and pointed the finger somewhere else to cover her tracks. Why would you confront the cleaners over such a dubious claim? And what does it matter anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neighbor’s daughter was probably smoking it and accused the cleaners to throw suspicion off of herself.

This.

Also, am I the only person who wouldn't care if my cleaners smoked in their car?

OP here. I don't care if they smoke, just not near my house or in the house. The smoke gets into walls, etc. Also, I don't want them to drive in this state either.

So, you do care if they smoke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neighbor’s daughter was probably smoking it and accused the cleaners to throw suspicion off of herself.

100% Exactly what I was thinking.
And who texts someone to tell them what to do or not do on their own time. I hope the MEXICAN cleaners quit and sue you.

OP here. I doubt it. It was 7:30AM. Her mother and sister were in the house. You are saying she was smoking and then she told her mom out of the blue that it was the cleaners who conveniently just arrived?