One of them is lying to me - the cleaners or the neighbor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read this thread and think OP is probably a troll because why on earth would someone confront their cleaners about something their druggie neighbor kid said?

Because OP is looking for validation of her blaming "those people" and scaring them from working for her. She wants them to be guilty and to justify her bigotry. So she is looking for evidence that those people are the problem and not the druggie neighbor who relapsed, but doesn't want to admit that to her mother. So, a hard-working Mexican family is now down one paying client because of this white teen's lies.

I’m just curious, if the cleaners were not Mexican, but white Americans, would it be OK to have doubts?

It is highly doubtful that OP would have written her post if they were white Americans. After all, it was here lede.

You are racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neighbor’s daughter was probably smoking it and accused the cleaners to throw suspicion off of herself.

100% Exactly what I was thinking.
And who texts someone to tell them what to do or not do on their own time. I hope the MEXICAN cleaners quit and sue you.

Same! You are stupid to put something like that in writing OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neighbor’s daughter was probably smoking it and accused the cleaners to throw suspicion off of herself.

100% Exactly what I was thinking.
And who texts someone to tell them what to do or not do on their own time. I hope the MEXICAN cleaners quit and sue you.

Same! You are stupid to put something like that in writing OP.

You do know it is still illegal in some places, right? Who is stupid now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't really accuse them. I told them what the neighbors said and how I feel about it and was waiting for their response.

If they were smoking it in your house then it’s none of your business. Outside of your house, you don’t get a say in what they do or where they do it or if the drive and do it. If you’ve never smelt it why would you even ask them? Thank the neighbor (and in your head think ‘it’s your loser daughter’ and move on.

[Anonymous]

This is one of the best thread-backfires in DCUM's history. Right up there with the 'you got boood' thread from halloween of 2019.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/832370.page

[Anonymous]

I keep coming back to this thread because OP feels so right in her wrongness that it entertains.

[Anonymous]

OP, why did you have to tell them how you " feel about it?" At that point, you didn't even know it was true.

Also, they can do what they want in their car. They aren't doing it in your house. It's not your business, really.
Listen, my 75 year old cousin vaped pot in her car at my house, pretty much every day for a week because there were definitive reasons she couldn't do it in my house...that is another story. Yes, my neighbor told me about and I said " Yeah, I know." End of it. It didn't affect me or anyone. Why are you bent up about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read this thread and think OP is probably a troll because why on earth would someone confront their cleaners about something their druggie neighbor kid said?

It’s not the druggie kid who brought this up, but her mother. Her mother who is an ordinary woman, who also works hard, is nice to everyone on the street and has never been known to create drama.

Her kid lied to her and she believed her, because she wanted to believe her. Duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adult pot smoker in my 40s here. Most adults don’t hotbox because we realize its going to smell. This is not an activity that tends to continue after people move out of their parents house. If most adults smoke in the car it is with all windows down, nowhere near our place of employment.

Neighbors daughter was laying the groundwork to set the cleaners up for any/all smell in the future.

Another adult pot smoker here. Great post except for the last sentence. If I'm headed some place (a hike, gym, friends place, restaurant, etc) and want to get high first, it will be 2 or 3 quick hits off a bowl with the windows down. The smell will be gone within seconds. Few people older than 18 are driving around in a suburban neighborhood acting like Cheech and Chong, especially if they are here illegally and thus want to avoid interaction with the police.

The last sentence makes no sense. How would accusing the next door cleaners get her out of being caught smoking weed "in the future"? Get caught smoking weed next week and blame it on the cleaners across the street last Tuesday?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read this thread and think OP is probably a troll because why on earth would someone confront their cleaners about something their druggie neighbor kid said?

It’s not the druggie kid who brought this up, but her mother. Her mother who is an ordinary woman, who also works hard, is nice to everyone on the street and has never been known to create drama.

So nice white mom catches her druggie kid relapsing and doing more drugs. Druggie kid lies and blames the Mexican housecleaners next door for the marijuana smoke to save herself from the consequences of her own actions. Nice white mom, wanting to believe that her druggie kid "wouldn't do that" and tells OP about the horrible people she has employed. And both nice white mom and OP rely on their knowledge of "those people" to know that it is far more likely that two hardworking housecleaners who have never shown any evidence of drug use would be hotboxing in a clients garage at 7:30 in the morning than a not really recovered and relapsing lazy white teen who has already been in rehab for drug problems. Because that's what Mexicans do.

Yeah right. That's an amazing tight rope of logic that it took to get from point A to point B and blame the housekeepers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adult pot smoker in my 40s here. Most adults don’t hotbox because we realize its going to smell. This is not an activity that tends to continue after people move out of their parents house. If most adults smoke in the car it is with all windows down, nowhere near our place of employment.

Neighbors daughter was laying the groundwork to set the cleaners up for any/all smell in the future.

Another adult pot smoker here. Great post except for the last sentence. If I'm headed some place (a hike, gym, friends place, restaurant, etc) and want to get high first, it will be 2 or 3 quick hits off a bowl with the windows down. The smell will be gone within seconds. Few people older than 18 are driving around in a suburban neighborhood acting like Cheech and Chong, especially if they are here illegally and thus want to avoid interaction with the police.

The last sentence makes no sense. How would accusing the next door cleaners get her out of being caught smoking weed "in the future"? Get caught smoking weed next week and blame it on the cleaners across the street last Tuesday?

DP but she knows she has a mom who wants to believe she's clean. So she told her not only that she thinks the cleaners smoke weed, but that they were hotboxing so much the smell got into the garage *across the street* when they opened the door (even though the smell was not on the cleaners or in OP's house). And the mom believed her, because she wants to believe. So she will likely believe her if next week she says "do you smell weed" and daughter says "yes would you believe it? Those illegal cleaners drove by with the windows down!"

Rational people wouldn't fall for that, but OP's neighbor is not rational on this point and her daughter knows it. Drug addicts are very manipulative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read this thread and think OP is probably a troll because why on earth would someone confront their cleaners about something their druggie neighbor kid said?

It’s not the druggie kid who brought this up, but her mother. Her mother who is an ordinary woman, who also works hard, is nice to everyone on the street and has never been known to create drama.

So nice white mom catches her druggie kid relapsing and doing more drugs. Druggie kid lies and blames the Mexican housecleaners next door for the marijuana smoke to save herself from the consequences of her own actions. Nice white mom, wanting to believe that her druggie kid "wouldn't do that" and tells OP about the horrible people she has employed. And both nice white mom and OP rely on their knowledge of "those people" to know that it is far more likely that two hardworking housecleaners who have never shown any evidence of drug use would be hotboxing in a clients garage at 7:30 in the morning than a not really recovered and relapsing lazy white teen who has already been in rehab for drug problems. Because that's what Mexicans do.

Yeah right. That's an amazing tight rope of logic that it took to get from point A to point B and blame the housekeepers.

Bigotry of lowered expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why did you have to tell them how you " feel about it?" At that point, you didn't even know it was true.

Also, they can do what they want in their car. They aren't doing it in your house. It's not your business, really.
Listen, my 75 year old cousin vaped pot in her car at my house, pretty much every day for a week because there were definitive reasons she couldn't do it in my house...that is another story. Yes, my neighbor told me about and I said " Yeah, I know." End of it. It didn't affect me or anyone. Why are you bent up about it?

Well, it's my business because
a) it's my property and I don't like the smoke
b) it's illegal and I don't want the cops here
c) whoever is doing pot, may be doing harder drugs and I can't control which type they use

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why did you have to tell them how you " feel about it?" At that point, you didn't even know it was true.

Also, they can do what they want in their car. They aren't doing it in your house. It's not your business, really.
Listen, my 75 year old cousin vaped pot in her car at my house, pretty much every day for a week because there were definitive reasons she couldn't do it in my house...that is another story. Yes, my neighbor told me about and I said " Yeah, I know." End of it. It didn't affect me or anyone. Why are you bent up about it?

Well, it's my business because
a) it's my property and I don't like the smoke
b) it's illegal and I don't want the cops here
c) whoever is doing pot, may be doing harder drugs and I can't control which type they use

So why didn't you explain so politely to your druggie neighbor that you don't like marijuana, that you don't like lying, and you don't want anyone who is smoking to be on your property? You took the time to warn (aka accuse) the housekeepers who were unlikely to be the cause and you didn't warn the druggie neighbor who was much more likely to be lying and the cause of the drugs. It's very telling who you chose to warn and "tell what you really think".

This is OP:

[Anonymous]

OP you are racist face it.