What happens to the "dud" husbands after divorce?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

Because men need to be married. Women do not.

So many divorced women I know are in happy LTR and do not want to marry.

I agree on this!!! Why get married again after a first marriage and kids and now ... women want to be independent. Long term, short term, middle term boyfriends? all good. But marrying and having to negotiate another family and men's neediness ... no thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are always desperate women happy to shop in the broken toy aisle.

Ha ha! So true! My ex-dud is a high earner but drinks like a fish and can be very moody. His girlfriend lives three states over and they get together twice a month. I think he can hide his true self since they rarely see each other. The last I heard she wants to get married. She has no clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They go to the gym, lose their gut, start dressing better than when they were married, get a better job, find, date and marry a better woman than their ex-wife!

My ex-dud has done none of those things LOL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

Sleeping around isn't enviable.

If the only women you can date are 10-30 years younger than you, then you have some serious introspection overdue. Why don't you get along with women your own age? Are you so emotionally immature that you want to date somebody 30 years younger than you? I am really no interested in the people who are my children's age as potential sexual and emotional partners - we are in different phases of life.

I do feel sorry for your children, but I understand why they were a mistake for you, as you sound as if you are not emotionally capable of being a full adult.

LMAO the inevitable efforts of older women to shame men who date younger women. He's doing what he wants to do, the women he's dating are doing what they want to do, what business is it of yours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

Because men need to be married. Women do not.

So many divorced women I know are in happy LTR and do not want to marry.

I agree on this!!! Why get married again after a first marriage and kids and now ... women want to be independent. Long term, short term, middle term boyfriends? all good. But marrying and having to negotiate another family and men's neediness ... no thank you.

"Women want to be independent" - except for the ones on DCUM who post the frequent threads "I am a single mom how will I find a new husband" lmao.

For example

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1069574.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

Boy I feel so sorry for your children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

Having children? You, sir, are a dud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

Because men need to be married. Women do not.

So many divorced women I know are in happy LTR and do not want to marry.

I agree on this!!! Why get married again after a first marriage and kids and now ... women want to be independent. Long term, short term, middle term boyfriends? all good. But marrying and having to negotiate another family and men's neediness ... no thank you.

"Women want to be independent" - except for the ones on DCUM who post the frequent threads "I am a single mom how will I find a new husband" lmao.

For example

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1069574.page

You’re the same guy who’s continually shocked and appalled to find evidence that women are all different people, yes? The same dude who thought it was some kind of federal case that some women shame men for dating younger while other women are themselves dating younger men?

When are you going to stop trying to make this into some kind of devastating killer rebuttal to any woman who says a thing you don’t like? You’re just embarrassing yourself bro.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve known a couple of these guys through work. In my experience, they try to look for much younger women to hook up with. A surprising number fall for catfishing scams, two were fired for sexual harassment in the workplace, and a couple remarried a much younger woman and started a second, younger family.

Uhhhh... any guy who can hook up with or marry a much younger woman is NOT a dud.

Oh yeah? So, by your definition, any guy in his forties that your college age daughter decides to date is, by definition, a great guy? She’s got your approval?

Whatever you may think about it morally, the fact is that a guy in his forties who can attract a college girl is NOT a dud. In fact he has to be exceptionally attractive in some way in order to get her interest at all.

I think you didn’t have any platonic female friends in your college years. If you did you’d know a lot more about what kind of 30 and 40 somethings who sniffed around girls that age, and what the well-adjusted girls thought of them. The thing that was attractive about them was usually love bombing and manipulation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

Nasty. I bet your kids love you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

Nasty. I bet your kids love you.

Well his daughters are going to love crusty old men when they’re 19 anyway! The circle of sleaze

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

She was right and you just admitted it. Anyone who regrets their children IS a dud as a father and parenting partner. I doubt your ex is impressed by your sex life now, but I hope she’s keeping an eye on your bank account and taking what her kids are owed.

I am a woman and I agree with the previous poster… The biggest mistakes in my life were getting married and having children. I love my kids and I’m a great mom but these were still two of the biggest mistakes of my life. It’s simply not worth it and has derailed to the things that I really wanted to do. I am so sick of this society glorifying motherhood and parenthood. A lot of it sucks and it’s not worth the “reward” everyone espouses.

You are not a great mom if you view your kids as two of the biggest mistakes of your life. They can pick up on that. And you should have figured out you didn’t want kids before having them. It’s not society’s fault; it’s yours.

No, they don't pick up on it. They know half of pregnancies are not planned. I was not planned. My sibling was not planned. My father was not planned. This whole planning to have kids thing is very new historically. Birth control can fail and there can be one time accidents unprotected . Most babies are surprises. And yes, society does glorify parenthood and motherhood. That is not blame. That is a fact. You are doing it right now. It's great..for you maybe. Not for everyone. Most of it is work with little to no reward. If you like it, fine. Not everyone does. That does not mean neglect or bad parenting...it just means is is not fulfilling to that person. People can still meet their obligations of raising a kid without having to love it. That is how most people were raised. Not in this modern fantasy of how great it is.

It’s one thing to say being a parent is hard and requires sacrifices. No one could object to that. But to say that the existence of your kids is a mistake is horrible and I am sure your kids pick up on that. Meeting their physical needs does not make you a “great mom.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

She was right and you just admitted it. Anyone who regrets their children IS a dud as a father and parenting partner. I doubt your ex is impressed by your sex life now, but I hope she’s keeping an eye on your bank account and taking what her kids are owed.

I am a woman and I agree with the previous poster… The biggest mistakes in my life were getting married and having children. I love my kids and I’m a great mom but these were still two of the biggest mistakes of my life. It’s simply not worth it and has derailed to the things that I really wanted to do. I am so sick of this society glorifying motherhood and parenthood. A lot of it sucks and it’s not worth the “reward” everyone espouses.

You are not a great mom if you view your kids as two of the biggest mistakes of your life. They can pick up on that. And you should have figured out you didn’t want kids before having them. It’s not society’s fault; it’s yours.

No, they don't pick up on it. They know half of pregnancies are not planned. I was not planned. My sibling was not planned. My father was not planned. This whole planning to have kids thing is very new historically. Birth control can fail and there can be one time accidents unprotected . Most babies are surprises. And yes, society does glorify parenthood and motherhood. That is not blame. That is a fact. You are doing it right now. It's great..for you maybe. Not for everyone. Most of it is work with little to no reward. If you like it, fine. Not everyone does. That does not mean neglect or bad parenting...it just means is is not fulfilling to that person. People can still meet their obligations of raising a kid without having to love it. That is how most people were raised. Not in this modern fantasy of how great it is.

It’s one thing to say being a parent is hard and requires sacrifices. No one could object to that. But to say that the existence of your kids is a mistake is horrible and I am sure your kids pick up on that. Meeting their physical needs does not make you a “great mom.”

You do not understand logical people. I think my mom should have had an abortion. Logically, that was the right choice. That mean I wish I had never been born? Of course not. But it was still a mistake for her own life to have me. I don’t understand how people cannot understand logical things. Urge was a mistake for me because it led for children that I did not want with a particular man. Doesn’t mean I don’t love my kids but it does mean that having kids with him was an absolute mistake for my life. It was like me giving up my own life of what I wanted for them completely and my mom‘s situation was the same and I still logically think that my mom should’ve had abortion. Doesn’t mean anybody’s a bad parent or not good at it because nobody would guess but it does mean that logically things did not happen in the best interest of the mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

Hmm, but here you are on a moms website claiming that “I’m a winner”? Sorry sweetie but by definition any person who says “I’m a winner”, especially on a parenting website is by definition is a loser Sorry hun, hope that eventually get over your crippling insecurity.