What happens to the "dud" husbands after divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is dating his teaching assistant.

This. He is only a dud to you. To someone else he is a catch. Probably was never a dud inthe first place.

People have different standards. If there are so many high-powered women just sleeping around in NYC as per another thread, there obviously is a fish for everyone. Just depends on what you are looking for.

Also these relationships last from 1 week to 2 years. Being a catch up there sounds like you are caught for on average a month. Long-term relationships are different. It's not for everyone. Some of these duds became duds after 15 years maybe because they just needed a new change of scenery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, I have dated divorced dads. I'm late forties and it's been my main dating pool for a while.

Most men get fifty fifty custody these days. Some remain duds and are looking to find a woman to marry to step in and cook, clean, drive carpool, etc. I avoid those like the plague. Many, however, step up to the plate and learn to cook and run their households and childcare just fine.

Meanwhile some of these guys when they were married they managed to push most of this work off on their wives, under the guise of being helpless or incompetent.

But you know what? most men can cook, clean, provide childcare, and run a household. THey totally can't. Many just don't IF there is a woman to do it for them. But they ARE capable of doing so, and if forced to do so by divorce, rise to the occasion.

The key if you are dating them is to resist the natural female impulse to step in and do his job.

I'm in a serious relationship with a divorced dad now. If his kids leave dishes in the sink, that is his problem, not mine. I don't clean them. If his kids need a ride to soccer practice, he needs to figure out how to get them there, not me.

This sounds so short sighted and selfish.

[Anonymous]

I'm in a serious relationship with a divorced dad now. If his kids leave dishes in the sink, that is his problem, not mine. I don't clean them. If his kids need a ride to soccer practice, he needs to figure out how to get them there, not me.

Divorced dad. I do not expect the women I date to do any housework, and if they start telling me to do it, I tell them to stop. I would never expect anyone to take my kids anywhere. You probably won’t let you meet my kids until we’ve dated for a very long time.

[Anonymous]

(telling me how to do it)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, I have dated divorced dads. I'm late forties and it's been my main dating pool for a while.

Most men get fifty fifty custody these days. Some remain duds and are looking to find a woman to marry to step in and cook, clean, drive carpool, etc. I avoid those like the plague. Many, however, step up to the plate and learn to cook and run their households and childcare just fine.

Meanwhile some of these guys when they were married they managed to push most of this work off on their wives, under the guise of being helpless or incompetent.

But you know what? most men can cook, clean, provide childcare, and run a household. THey totally can't. Many just don't IF there is a woman to do it for them. But they ARE capable of doing so, and if forced to do so by divorce, rise to the occasion.

The key if you are dating them is to resist the natural female impulse to step in and do his job.

I'm in a serious relationship with a divorced dad now. If his kids leave dishes in the sink, that is his problem, not mine. I don't clean them. If his kids need a ride to soccer practice, he needs to figure out how to get them there, not me.

This sounds so short sighted and selfish.

Says the dud divorced dad whose looking to slough his share of childcare work off onto a new woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, I have dated divorced dads. I'm late forties and it's been my main dating pool for a while.

Most men get fifty fifty custody these days. Some remain duds and are looking to find a woman to marry to step in and cook, clean, drive carpool, etc. I avoid those like the plague. Many, however, step up to the plate and learn to cook and run their households and childcare just fine.

Meanwhile some of these guys when they were married they managed to push most of this work off on their wives, under the guise of being helpless or incompetent.

But you know what? most men can cook, clean, provide childcare, and run a household. THey totally can't. Many just don't IF there is a woman to do it for them. But they ARE capable of doing so, and if forced to do so by divorce, rise to the occasion.

The key if you are dating them is to resist the natural female impulse to step in and do his job.

I'm in a serious relationship with a divorced dad now. If his kids leave dishes in the sink, that is his problem, not mine. I don't clean them. If his kids need a ride to soccer practice, he needs to figure out how to get them there, not me.

This sounds so short sighted and selfish.

What’s selfish about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I’m just laughing at the guy who has spent all day arguing with multiple women over who said men were horrible in the name of “ethics”.

You wanted to know what happens to the duds? Perfect example right here.

You are wrong on two counts.

First, go back and read the posts at 08/03/2022 at 10:32, 12:10, 11:38, and 13:03, and the post at 08/40/2022 at 11:38. Dishonest posts were the subject of the posts cited, and the dishonesty was the ethics issue. (Note: I only can help you see what you should have read before posting. I cannot help you understand it.)

Second, multiple posters responded to the dishonest posts. I know because I wrote the post at 13:03 and not the posts before it.

I wish I could laugh, along with everyone else, at your post. Instead, it makes me sad. You did not learn to read (and understand) a subject before offering an opinion on it.

I hope your parents did not waste money sending you to college. If so, I weep with them on how you turned out.

Like I said. D. U. D.

[Anonymous]

Mid-50s dad checking in with the laundry challenge. At 3:33pm today I began folding and putting away laundry. I finished at 3:38p. 5 minutes total. This was my weekly laundry, a mix of dress shorts, t-shirts, polos, underwear, socks, and exercise clothes. Laundry included 7 pairs of underwear, and three shirts needing ironing were delivered to the ironing board in another room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid-50s dad checking in with the laundry challenge. At 3:33pm today I began folding and putting away laundry. I finished at 3:38p. 5 minutes total. This was my weekly laundry, a mix of dress shorts, t-shirts, polos, underwear, socks, and exercise clothes. Laundry included 7 pairs of underwear, and three shirts needing ironing were delivered to the ironing board in another room.

What about your kids clothes, the sheets, the towels, and kitchen rags?

[Anonymous]

NP. OMG this dude is crazy! I just keep on reading for the entertainment value at this point. Is he the one who mentioned that he’s fighting with his wife? His poor wife if it’s the same guy.

Hi.

It is actually "OMG, this dude is crazy!" Punctuation is key to clear writing.

Please stop calling people dude. It makes you look silly and immature.

I did not say anything about fighting with my wife, and you should quote the post when you ask a question. However, you cannot follow a point from post to post so work on that issue first.

My wife and I are fine. However, I remain sad about you.

Please reply by using emojis, etc. instead of trying to write a response. It might be something you could handle.

[Anonymous]

Like I said. D. U. D.

How old are you?

Please leave mommy's computer alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

NP. OMG this dude is crazy! I just keep on reading for the entertainment value at this point. Is he the one who mentioned that he’s fighting with his wife? His poor wife if it’s the same guy.

Hi.

It is actually "OMG, this dude is crazy!" Punctuation is key to clear writing.

Please stop calling people dude. It makes you look silly and immature.

I did not say anything about fighting with my wife, and you should quote the post when you ask a question. However, you cannot follow a point from post to post so work on that issue first.

My wife and I are fine. However, I remain sad about you.

Please reply by using emojis, etc. instead of trying to write a response. It might be something you could handle.

You are entertaining! Thanks for the many lessons in your post. I’m sure they’re appreciated.