What happens to the "dud" husbands after divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

That was a different person telling you to take a break. You asked for suggestions and I gave them to you.

Are you taking these suggestions or are you posting on DCUM?

Again I'm not upset and I'm not looking for suggestions. This person was upset and looking for other outlets or at least asking for those options. So there is nothing wrong with just responding to help. You seem to be projecting that I'm also upset and looking for suggestions by answering. I'm not. The response was just answering a question. You have reading comprehension and faulty thinking. You can't follow your own thoughts and keep projecting them onto other people. I can understand why your ex-wife must have been tired of having these circular discussions.

[Anonymous]

The thread did say the person was upset. And then asked what to do instead of being a keyboard warrior when they were upset. They were definitely upset.

They did not ask what to do instead of being a "keyboard warrior," a term you came up with in an attempt to be demeaning.

They asked:

And what should people do when they get upset about other people calling out dishonesty in an anonymous forum?

You said:

Find people who are respectful and have a conversation with them. Give your own opinion in a non confrontational way. Go meet real people and do something else with your life. All better options than being a keyboard warrior.

Read before you post.

I support being upset with a person for being dishonest and calling them out for it.

[Anonymous]

Again I'm not upset and I'm not looking for suggestions. This person was upset and looking for other outlets or at least asking for those options. So there is nothing wrong with just responding to help. You seem to be projecting that I'm also upset and looking for suggestions by answering. I'm not. The response was just answering a question. You have reading comprehension and faulty thinking. You can't follow your own thoughts and keep projecting them onto other people. I can understand why your ex-wife must have been tired of having these circular discussions.

Sadly, you need suggestions. And way more help than anyone on DCUM can provide.


For example, read the post above where you attribute your own term to someone else.

[Anonymous]

You are right I misinterpreted but my suggestions are still the same. Writing here is always optional. And should be respectful. Keyboard warrior is not a term I came up with myself. It's a pretty common term for people who spend their time bickering online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Again I'm not upset and I'm not looking for suggestions. This person was upset and looking for other outlets or at least asking for those options. So there is nothing wrong with just responding to help. You seem to be projecting that I'm also upset and looking for suggestions by answering. I'm not. The response was just answering a question. You have reading comprehension and faulty thinking. You can't follow your own thoughts and keep projecting them onto other people. I can understand why your ex-wife must have been tired of having these circular discussions.

Sadly, you need suggestions. And way more help than anyone on DCUM can provide.


For example, read the post above where you attribute your own term to someone else.

Not following.

[Anonymous]

You are right I misinterpreted but my suggestions are still the same. Writing here is always optional. And should be respectful. Keyboard warrior is not a term I came up with myself. It's a pretty common term for people who spend their time bickering online.

Are you not bickering online?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You are right I misinterpreted but my suggestions are still the same. Writing here is always optional. And should be respectful. Keyboard warrior is not a term I came up with myself. It's a pretty common term for people who spend their time bickering online.

Are you not bickering online?

I don't have time for this sorry. My husband abandoned me and the kids for his crazy sex life and was a dud for the last five years probably because he was engaged elsewhere. He wasn't into married life as you can see since he abandoned it. I am afraid of online dating with men who want prettier women and just want to use me for sex and give me a disease or worse have some physical confrontation. Maybe I'd be ok later in life with being a nurse but not at this time. I like sex but could go the rest of my life without it. I have my kids. I have enough money for the rest of my life. I'm happy to debate but am not upset. I don't feel like keyboard warrior was being overly disrespectful and if you do I'd think there's a guy that needs to be treated with kid gloves. Good luck with your online dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are right I misinterpreted but my suggestions are still the same. Writing here is always optional. And should be respectful. Keyboard warrior is not a term I came up with myself. It's a pretty common term for people who spend their time bickering online.

Are you not bickering online?

I don't have time for this sorry. My husband abandoned me and the kids for his crazy sex life and was a dud for the last five years probably because he was engaged elsewhere. He wasn't into married life as you can see since he abandoned it. I am afraid of online dating with men who want prettier women and just want to use me for sex and give me a disease or worse have some physical confrontation. Maybe I'd be ok later in life with being a nurse but not at this time. I like sex but could go the rest of my life without it. I have my kids. I have enough money for the rest of my life. I'm happy to debate but am not upset. I don't feel like keyboard warrior was being overly disrespectful and if you do I'd think there's a guy that needs to be treated with kid gloves. Good luck with your online dating.

You are wise not to date because you are psychologically broken. You really need to work on yourself and get out of the mindset that men are generally evil, which is the product of the abuse you suffered at the hands of your husband. My mom had exactly the same issue - fear and suspicion of men after divorcing an abusive cheater - and unfortunately she has never gotten over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are right I misinterpreted but my suggestions are still the same. Writing here is always optional. And should be respectful. Keyboard warrior is not a term I came up with myself. It's a pretty common term for people who spend their time bickering online.

Are you not bickering online?

I don't have time for this sorry. My husband abandoned me and the kids for his crazy sex life and was a dud for the last five years probably because he was engaged elsewhere. He wasn't into married life as you can see since he abandoned it. I am afraid of online dating with men who want prettier women and just want to use me for sex and give me a disease or worse have some physical confrontation. Maybe I'd be ok later in life with being a nurse but not at this time. I like sex but could go the rest of my life without it. I have my kids. I have enough money for the rest of my life. I'm happy to debate but am not upset. I don't feel like keyboard warrior was being overly disrespectful and if you do I'd think there's a guy that needs to be treated with kid gloves. Good luck with your online dating.

You are wise not to date because you are psychologically broken. You really need to work on yourself and get out of the mindset that men are generally evil, which is the product of the abuse you suffered at the hands of your husband. My mom had exactly the same issue - fear and suspicion of men after divorcing an abusive cheater - and unfortunately she has never gotten over it.

The men in my neigborhood are lovely. And I mean outstanding. The've taken my kids under their wing. They are friendly and competent. My entire family also wonderful. There are just duds out there and I will never date again someone I feel unsafe with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are right I misinterpreted but my suggestions are still the same. Writing here is always optional. And should be respectful. Keyboard warrior is not a term I came up with myself. It's a pretty common term for people who spend their time bickering online.

Are you not bickering online?

I don't have time for this sorry. My husband abandoned me and the kids for his crazy sex life and was a dud for the last five years probably because he was engaged elsewhere. He wasn't into married life as you can see since he abandoned it. I am afraid of online dating with men who want prettier women and just want to use me for sex and give me a disease or worse have some physical confrontation. Maybe I'd be ok later in life with being a nurse but not at this time. I like sex but could go the rest of my life without it. I have my kids. I have enough money for the rest of my life. I'm happy to debate but am not upset. I don't feel like keyboard warrior was being overly disrespectful and if you do I'd think there's a guy that needs to be treated with kid gloves. Good luck with your online dating.

You are wise not to date because you are psychologically broken. You really need to work on yourself and get out of the mindset that men are generally evil, which is the product of the abuse you suffered at the hands of your husband. My mom had exactly the same issue - fear and suspicion of men after divorcing an abusive cheater - and unfortunately she has never gotten over it.

The men in my neigborhood are lovely. And I mean outstanding. The've taken my kids under their wing. They are friendly and competent. My entire family also wonderful. There are just duds out there and I will never date again someone I feel unsafe with.

I should add also someone who I need for something whether it's money or sex or anything else. I don't need to spend another year of my life with a dud that doesn't love me in return and doesn't have anything to contribute to the relationship. I mean if he gets cancer and becomes a dud but loves me, I'm ok with that and would even put up with some abuse the last year of their life. I can be a nurse and was for a year with my ex. I will not be with someone that doesn't have any interest in connecting or loving or is abusive or dishonest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine is dating his teaching assistant.

This. He is only a dud to you. To someone else he is a catch. Probably was never a dud inthe first place.

[Anonymous]

I’m just laughing at the guy who has spent all day arguing with multiple women over who said men were horrible in the name of “ethics”.

You wanted to know what happens to the duds? Perfect example right here.

[Anonymous]

I’m just laughing at the guy who has spent all day arguing with multiple women over who said men were horrible in the name of “ethics”.

You wanted to know what happens to the duds? Perfect example right here.

You are wrong on two counts.

First, go back and read the posts at 08/03/2022 at 10:32, 12:10, 11:38, and 13:03, and the post at 08/40/2022 at 11:38. Dishonest posts were the subject of the posts cited, and the dishonesty was the ethics issue. (Note: I only can help you see what you should have read before posting. I cannot help you understand it.)

Second, multiple posters responded to the dishonest posts. I know because I wrote the post at 13:03 and not the posts before it.

I wish I could laugh, along with everyone else, at your post. Instead, it makes me sad. You did not learn to read (and understand) a subject before offering an opinion on it.

I hope your parents did not waste money sending you to college. If so, I weep with them on how you turned out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m just laughing at the guy who has spent all day arguing with multiple women over who said men were horrible in the name of “ethics”.

You wanted to know what happens to the duds? Perfect example right here.

NP. OMG this dude is crazy! I just keep on reading for the entertainment value at this point. Is he the one who mentioned that he’s fighting with his wife? His poor wife if it’s the same guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is dating his teaching assistant.

This. He is only a dud to you. To someone else he is a catch. Probably was never a dud inthe first place.

People have different standards. If there are so many high-powered women just sleeping around in NYC as per another thread, there obviously is a fish for everyone. Just depends on what you are looking for.