What happens to the "dud" husbands after divorce?

[Anonymous]

They go to the gym, lose their gut, start dressing better than when they were married, get a better job, find, date and marry a better woman than their ex-wife!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine just meanders around online looking for sex. Have fun.

How do you know? Are you stalking him online?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, the men are duds and their ex-wives are great and have no trouble on the dating market post-divorce. But how does that work? I highly doubt young men are interested in divorcees, especially divorced moms. Do the divorced women date older men who have never married? Those guys have to be even worse than the divorced duds. They weren't even capable of getting married, and have if anything hardened in their idiosyncratic ways rather than learned how to be in a relationship. So that leaves divorced guys who have been cast off by other great women because the guys were duds. So then are those women getting duped by a divorced dud, or does it turn out that the duds aren't really duds objectively but just were mismatched?

+1. Even if women have it “better” dating (getting more attention/sex) after divorce, by the logic in this thread they’re just dating other “duds”!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

As a divorced man I have to admit this is true. Dating is mostly online these days. And for every 10 likes I get, women will get like 200. And there are a lot of good single men out there for decent divorced women. But once a guy is 50 or so, it’s really tough to find women, exception is only with very rare rich and fit guys. It’s so much easier for women.

I’m starting to believe that 80/20 stat that I’d never heard until people started quoting here because I’ve being a divorced man dating online in DC to be amazing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve known a couple of these guys through work. In my experience, they try to look for much younger women to hook up with. A surprising number fall for catfishing scams, two were fired for sexual harassment in the workplace, and a couple remarried a much younger woman and started a second, younger family.

Uhhhh... any guy who can hook up with or marry a much younger woman is NOT a dud.

Oh yeah? So, by your definition, any guy in his forties that your college age daughter decides to date is, by definition, a great guy? She’s got your approval?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

LOL. A horrible father *is* a dud, loser!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine just meanders around online looking for sex. Have fun.

+1. Meandered around online dating until he found a woman who wanted his US citizenship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine started being a parent.

He was always a parent. You either tried to micromanage him to a point where he disengaged or you didn’t appreciate the things he did.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mine started being a parent.

He was always a parent. You either tried to micromanage him to a point where he disengaged or you didn’t appreciate the things he did.

DP.

And you call that a parent?

Imagine how childish you'd have to be to "disengage" because your wife does not appreciate the things you do. You do things for your children, not for your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Mine started being a parent.

He was always a parent. You either tried to micromanage him to a point where he disengaged or you didn’t appreciate the things he did.

DP.

And you call that a parent?

Imagine how childish you'd have to be to "disengage" because your wife does not appreciate the things you do. You do things for your children, not for your wife.

Don’t get your point. If the wife always insists that things be done a certain way, of course the husband eventually sits back and lets her do it. Less drama that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think they find someone else and do better the second time around.

The statistics on divorce in second marriage suggest otherwise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve known a couple of these guys through work. In my experience, they try to look for much younger women to hook up with. A surprising number fall for catfishing scams, two were fired for sexual harassment in the workplace, and a couple remarried a much younger woman and started a second, younger family.

Uhhhh... any guy who can hook up with or marry a much younger woman is NOT a dud.

Oh yeah? So, by your definition, any guy in his forties that your college age daughter decides to date is, by definition, a great guy? She’s got your approval?

Whatever you may think about it morally, the fact is that a guy in his forties who can attract a college girl is NOT a dud. In fact he has to be exceptionally attractive in some way in order to get her interest at all.

[Anonymous]

Well, my neighbor seems to lay on the couch with his foot on the back of the couch and watch tv in his living room. This is all easily seen from the huge window in his living room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

Sleeping around isn't enviable.

If the only women you can date are 10-30 years younger than you, then you have some serious introspection overdue. Why don't you get along with women your own age? Are you so emotionally immature that you want to date somebody 30 years younger than you? I am really no interested in the people who are my children's age as potential sexual and emotional partners - we are in different phases of life.

I do feel sorry for your children, but I understand why they were a mistake for you, as you sound as if you are not emotionally capable of being a full adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Statistically, they die. Some very young.

Everyone dies.