What happens to the "dud" husbands after divorce?

[Anonymous]

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I’m not PP, but I think this person did a fine job of illustrating how myopically hateful you are.

I do like how “happy to help”you were to help me draw the conclusion I’d previously come to, that was cute.

Odd you did not think it was not "myopically hateful" for you (and you are the PP) to write "Men are horrible. There are only two types and they both suck" in an earlier post.

You should not use words you do not understand. And your bitterness has made you a hypocrite.

Which of the two types of men does your father fall into? How about your brother? How about your son?

Saying everyone in a certain group "sucks" should be a clue for you to take a hard look at your values.

You’re confused.

An upset man edited the post to say “men are horrible”. The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible, we just shared experiences.

Funny how one guy tried to prove a point by saying “men are horrible”, and another guy thought it was a woman saying it. Y’all need to calm down.

Yes I am "upset" when people are not honest. The PP dishonestly tried to maintain that men in this thread overreacted to her unobjectionable argument that she's happy being single. In fact, she said that there are two types of men ("one night stand/conquest/is reliving their youth: the other wants to move in and be taken care of") and it is perfectly fair to say she thinks these two types of men are horrible. Now you are dishonestly trying to gaslight us about what she said and even to gaslight us into believing a man said that, not a woman.

The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible

Listen to yourself. You directly say that a woman said men either want to sleep around or they want a caretaker. Then you say "no woman said anything about men being horrible". Do you really think we're stupid enough to believe you do not think men who want to sleep around or want a caretaker are not horrible? GMAFB.

You’re disproportionally upset over an internet post. It may be time to take a break from DCUM.

It doesn't upset me to call out dishonest people. I enjoy it!

If you enjoy calling out dishonestly on an anonymous forum, it’s DEFINITELY time to take a break. Go outside and get some fresh air FFS.

And what should people do when they get upset about other people calling out dishonesty in an anonymous forum?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I’m not PP, but I think this person did a fine job of illustrating how myopically hateful you are.

I do like how “happy to help”you were to help me draw the conclusion I’d previously come to, that was cute.

Odd you did not think it was not "myopically hateful" for you (and you are the PP) to write "Men are horrible. There are only two types and they both suck" in an earlier post.

You should not use words you do not understand. And your bitterness has made you a hypocrite.

Which of the two types of men does your father fall into? How about your brother? How about your son?

Saying everyone in a certain group "sucks" should be a clue for you to take a hard look at your values.

You’re confused.

An upset man edited the post to say “men are horrible”. The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible, we just shared experiences.

Funny how one guy tried to prove a point by saying “men are horrible”, and another guy thought it was a woman saying it. Y’all need to calm down.

Yes I am "upset" when people are not honest. The PP dishonestly tried to maintain that men in this thread overreacted to her unobjectionable argument that she's happy being single. In fact, she said that there are two types of men ("one night stand/conquest/is reliving their youth: the other wants to move in and be taken care of") and it is perfectly fair to say she thinks these two types of men are horrible. Now you are dishonestly trying to gaslight us about what she said and even to gaslight us into believing a man said that, not a woman.

The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible

Listen to yourself. You directly say that a woman said men either want to sleep around or they want a caretaker. Then you say "no woman said anything about men being horrible". Do you really think we're stupid enough to believe you do not think men who want to sleep around or want a caretaker are not horrible? GMAFB.

You’re disproportionally upset over an internet post. It may be time to take a break from DCUM.

It doesn't upset me to call out dishonest people. I enjoy it!

If you enjoy calling out dishonestly on an anonymous forum, it’s DEFINITELY time to take a break. Go outside and get some fresh air FFS.

And what should people do when they get upset about other people calling out dishonesty in an anonymous forum?

Find people who are respectful and have a conversation with them. Give your own opinion in a non confrontational way. Go meet real people and do something else with your life. All better options than being a keyboard warrior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I’m not PP, but I think this person did a fine job of illustrating how myopically hateful you are.

I do like how “happy to help”you were to help me draw the conclusion I’d previously come to, that was cute.

Odd you did not think it was not "myopically hateful" for you (and you are the PP) to write "Men are horrible. There are only two types and they both suck" in an earlier post.

You should not use words you do not understand. And your bitterness has made you a hypocrite.

Which of the two types of men does your father fall into? How about your brother? How about your son?

Saying everyone in a certain group "sucks" should be a clue for you to take a hard look at your values.

You’re confused.

An upset man edited the post to say “men are horrible”. The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible, we just shared experiences.

Funny how one guy tried to prove a point by saying “men are horrible”, and another guy thought it was a woman saying it. Y’all need to calm down.

Yes I am "upset" when people are not honest. The PP dishonestly tried to maintain that men in this thread overreacted to her unobjectionable argument that she's happy being single. In fact, she said that there are two types of men ("one night stand/conquest/is reliving their youth: the other wants to move in and be taken care of") and it is perfectly fair to say she thinks these two types of men are horrible. Now you are dishonestly trying to gaslight us about what she said and even to gaslight us into believing a man said that, not a woman.

The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible

Listen to yourself. You directly say that a woman said men either want to sleep around or they want a caretaker. Then you say "no woman said anything about men being horrible". Do you really think we're stupid enough to believe you do not think men who want to sleep around or want a caretaker are not horrible? GMAFB.

You’re disproportionally upset over an internet post. It may be time to take a break from DCUM.

It doesn't upset me to call out dishonest people. I enjoy it!

I don't think she was dishonest. I think she's happy being single. I'm sure she meant happy enough. Plenty of men are happy being single. Why is this an issue?

Was referring to the PP who claimed that men were overreacting to the statement that women were happy being single, when in fact men were reacting to the statement that men were horrible.

The statement that men are horrible was made by a man.

Nope. Look further back. A woman said there were only two types of divorced men. Both types were horrible.

Again I already responded to this but she didn't say that. She said she met two different types of people online interested in her. This excludes people not interested in her and people not online dating. It's not the entire world of men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of the "dudness" comes from a discrepancy in opinion on what is required to run a house with young children and underestimating one spouse's contribution while overestimating one's own.

Winner.

Just because women biologically are prone to a larger worry deficit and perceived greater emotional load does not always mean the husband is a “dud”.

I think women have much loftier expectations of what they “deserve” in a marriage. Whether there is a skewed perspective, a princess fantasy or what have you. Women are more naturally vocal about their displeasure in marriage (“not enough dates!” You plan nothing! Your job sucks! We need this! Etc”).

What happens to dud men? Well they find someone else. Or they stay single. And what happens to the “winner” wife? Does she go on too find a perfect match? Or does does she continue to carry lofty expectations and hold a grudge and generally keep her ways of discontent that seems to always prevent her from finding the right thing? Who knows.

I just know men complain a lot less than women and see more reasonable in general about martial expectation.

That quote from “as good as it gets” resonates as I read the responses.

“How do you right women so well. I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability”.

I know it sounds sexist. I’m in a bad mood because I got in an argument with my wife. It really does seem like women are less reasonable though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I’m not PP, but I think this person did a fine job of illustrating how myopically hateful you are.

I do like how “happy to help”you were to help me draw the conclusion I’d previously come to, that was cute.

Odd you did not think it was not "myopically hateful" for you (and you are the PP) to write "Men are horrible. There are only two types and they both suck" in an earlier post.

You should not use words you do not understand. And your bitterness has made you a hypocrite.

Which of the two types of men does your father fall into? How about your brother? How about your son?

Saying everyone in a certain group "sucks" should be a clue for you to take a hard look at your values.

You’re confused.

An upset man edited the post to say “men are horrible”. The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible, we just shared experiences.

Funny how one guy tried to prove a point by saying “men are horrible”, and another guy thought it was a woman saying it. Y’all need to calm down.

Yes I am "upset" when people are not honest. The PP dishonestly tried to maintain that men in this thread overreacted to her unobjectionable argument that she's happy being single. In fact, she said that there are two types of men ("one night stand/conquest/is reliving their youth: the other wants to move in and be taken care of") and it is perfectly fair to say she thinks these two types of men are horrible. Now you are dishonestly trying to gaslight us about what she said and even to gaslight us into believing a man said that, not a woman.

The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible

Listen to yourself. You directly say that a woman said men either want to sleep around or they want a caretaker. Then you say "no woman said anything about men being horrible". Do you really think we're stupid enough to believe you do not think men who want to sleep around or want a caretaker are not horrible? GMAFB.

You’re disproportionally upset over an internet post. It may be time to take a break from DCUM.

It doesn't upset me to call out dishonest people. I enjoy it!

I don't think she was dishonest. I think she's happy being single. I'm sure she meant happy enough. Plenty of men are happy being single. Why is this an issue?

Was referring to the PP who claimed that men were overreacting to the statement that women were happy being single, when in fact men were reacting to the statement that men were horrible.

The statement that men are horrible was made by a man.

Nope. Look further back. A woman said there were only two types of divorced men. Both types were horrible.

Again I already responded to this but she didn't say that. She said she met two different types of people online interested in her. This excludes people not interested in her and people not online dating. It's not the entire world of men.

And we don't know anything about her. She could be ugly fat and an ex-con. It was just her own experience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the "dudness" comes from a discrepancy in opinion on what is required to run a house with young children and underestimating one spouse's contribution while overestimating one's own.

Winner.

Just because women biologically are prone to a larger worry deficit and perceived greater emotional load does not always mean the husband is a “dud”.

I think women have much loftier expectations of what they “deserve” in a marriage. Whether there is a skewed perspective, a princess fantasy or what have you. Women are more naturally vocal about their displeasure in marriage (“not enough dates!” You plan nothing! Your job sucks! We need this! Etc”).

What happens to dud men? Well they find someone else. Or they stay single. And what happens to the “winner” wife? Does she go on too find a perfect match? Or does does she continue to carry lofty expectations and hold a grudge and generally keep her ways of discontent that seems to always prevent her from finding the right thing? Who knows.

I just know men complain a lot less than women and see more reasonable in general about martial expectation.

That quote from “as good as it gets” resonates as I read the responses.

“How do you right women so well. I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability”.

I know it sounds sexist. I’m in a bad mood because I got in an argument with my wife. It really does seem like women are less reasonable though.

I feel like we had this conversation a while ago probably with the same person but the whole message of that movie again was that he was actually being the one who wasn't reasonable and he had to learn to be more flexible. He wasn't the character of the men in the books he wrote about. It was when he realized his own shortcomings and stopped treating people like dirt that he got treated better in return.

[Anonymous]

He was the one asking if this is as good as it gets. She did as well - why can't I just have a normal boyfriend? She had to realize the cute guys didn't want to deal with her kid and he had to realize he was repelling people with his behavior. A perfect example of that was the exact scene you quote where this pretty woman was gushing at him and wanted his autograph and he gave her an insult.

[Anonymous]

If you enjoy calling out dishonestly (sic) on an anonymous forum, it’s DEFINITELY time to take a break. Go outside and get some fresh air FFS.

I enjoy calling out dishonesty whenever I see it.

Might be time for you to step up your ethics, and get a better spellchecker.

[Anonymous]

Find people who are respectful and have a conversation with them. Give your own opinion in a non confrontational way. Go meet real people and do something else with your life. All better options than being a keyboard warrior.

Signed,

Keyboard Warrior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was the one asking if this is as good as it gets. She did as well - why can't I just have a normal boyfriend? She had to realize the cute guys didn't want to deal with her kid and he had to realize he was repelling people with his behavior. A perfect example of that was the exact scene you quote where this pretty woman was gushing at him and wanted his autograph and he gave her an insult.

In short they were both respected. Him in his fantasy world of writing which he was compensated for with money but not love. She compensated for her gifts with love but not much money. He didn't really have to change his viewpoint on love or beauty. He needed to change his own behavior to allow it to come in. I don't think she really changed that much in the movie other than finally setting some boundaries and saying thank you more. Maybe you notice more of her change than I did. I assume she was a divorced woman with a "dud" husband.

[Anonymous]

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Find people who are respectful and have a conversation with them. Give your own opinion in a non confrontational way. Go meet real people and do something else with your life. All better options than being a keyboard warrior.

Signed,

Keyboard Warrior

Umm. I'm not upset at anyone here.

[Anonymous]

Signed,

Keyboard Warrior

Umm. I'm not upset at anyone here

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I am not either. Please tell me that you see the hypocrisy of telling someone else to take a break while you post.

[Anonymous]

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Signed,

Keyboard Warrior

Umm. I'm not upset at anyone here

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I am not either. Please tell me that you see the hypocrisy of telling someone else to take a break while you post.

That was a different person telling you to take a break. You asked for suggestions and I gave them to you.

[Anonymous]

The thread did say the person was upset. And then asked what to do instead of being a keyboard warrior when they were upset. They were definitely upset.

[Anonymous]

That was a different person telling you to take a break. You asked for suggestions and I gave them to you.

Are you taking these suggestions or are you posting on DCUM?