In an affair, who "wins"? The wife or the mistress?
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Anonymous
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I would think that no woman wins as both are being played by the man in question, but I read many comments on this forum where the wives are putting down mistresses saying what she has with the cheating husband is not real and she is not important etc.
Isn't the wife the biggest loser? Since its HER husband who is doing HER wrong. He doesn't owe the mistress anything. |
Anonymous
| Um, I don't think anyone "wins" in an affair. It's not a winning proposition for anyone, including the person cheating on their partner (which might be the woman instead of the man, or might be the case with both cheaters). I mean, I guess if you're a mistress who wants to feel like you're "winning," no one can stop you. But you're not really likely to be persuading anyone to your side with your views on who's the biggest loser. |
Anonymous
| wife |
Anonymous
Why? |
Anonymous
| No one wins. The wife is humiliated, the mistress has low self-esteem and low morals, and the husband is a POS. The mistress and husband are actively bad people and the wife is a victim. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
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Nobody wins
The wife is stuck with him (even if they divorce) The mistress will be thrown under the bus. |
Anonymous
Because she walks with half their assets, at least. Plus the love and respect of their kids, which he usually loses for years when the affair is revealed. Mistress gets dumped or becomes the hated step mother (not worth it). |
Anonymous
| Yikes. It's not a competition. Being hurt by someone you love does not make you a "loser" FFS. |
Anonymous
exactly |
Anonymous
| Lawyers |
Anonymous
| The divorce lawyers win. |
Anonymous
Lol. Especially those who are all too happy to see their client$ in court. |
Anonymous
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The DH wins.
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Anonymous
| Depends on how much of a "prize" he is |