You really do not know much about actual circumstances of adoptions. “Abandonment” to orphanages by shine who actually does not wish to parent is extraordinarily rare. |
This whole thread explains why we decided not to adopt and remain childless. |
Some agencies push it, others don't. We had an issue with one agency who said we had to grieve in their classes and we told them adoption was our first choice so we'd grieve if we couldn't adopt and they were pissed. You can easily lie and pass a homestudy. Its a very simple basic process that is just interviews, home check and medical. Anyone can lie about their feelings to adoption. |
Ignore that poster who clearly doesn't understand what the one poster was saying. |
i see the anti-adoption troll is back, a few posts above. We -- an adoption-formed family -- have been reading her crap on these boards for years.
We have our perfect family -- 3 adopted kids -- one from Vietnam, 2 from Ethiopia. No reason to consider pregnancy when such great kids are out there are waiting for you. That's a quote from my oldest daughter. |
Good for you. But there is no need to look down on and feel superior to those who try other means to build their families before turning to adoption. |
You seem to comment referring to an “anti adoption troll” often, but I can tell you that I often post about the coerciveness of the adoption industry and I’m often chiming in among other posts, as I did here in support of the “angry adoptee”. I’m not an adoptee; in the child of a mother who was pressured and ultimately tricked into relinquishing a child and lived a tortured life. I have since met countless young women who have lost their children to adoption more recently, and the situations are different (not Catholic Charities) but the coercion, pressure, guilt, and downright dishonestly are still prevalent. I know it makes adoptive parents here defensive and angry, but I share my own experience. You choose to believe there is just one of us but concerns about the unethical adoption industry are more widespread than you would like to admit. |
There was a lot of shady stuff with my child's sibling's adoption. Really unethical that we tried to stop. No one was thinking about what the impact on the child was. It was all about money and connections. |
How difficult was your China adoption? I have heard it has become much harder recently. That would be my first choice of a country to adopt from because I speak the language. |
It has become harder, in part because Chinese people can now adopt within the country (that had not been allowed decades ago). The waits are longer and few healthy babies are available.
If you attend some adoption agency orientations, they will explain the situation in each country that we have a treaty with (that their agency deals with). Adoptions Together is a great place to start. |