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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Area adult adoptees saying they would rather not be adopted and stay in an orphanage? [/quote]

Well I guess it depends on the adoptee. Some would have rather grown up in their birth countries and others are happy they’re adopted. Since you have no idea what your future child is going to think, that’s why I recommended people talk to adult adoptees first.[/quote]

This is one of the strangest comments I've seen.  Seriously, you believe there is a population of adoptees that would have rather been raised in orphanages?  Have you seen these orphanages?  Do you realize that kids get moved out at age 16 and have to fend for themselves with no money, no skills, no education and no family?  Maybe if the child ended up in an abusive adoptive home, that would be the case.  But that would be a rare exception.

Everyone, adopted or not, has dreams of what life would have been like had they been in their perfect world.  Heck, I wish I had been raised by rich people who could have afforded to pay for my education, a down payment on my house and travel.  So, maybe some who were adopted and brought to the US would have rather been raised in their home countries.  But, adoption was not the cause of that not happening.  That was abandonment that resulted in instutionalization.  [/quote]

You really do not know much about actual circumstances of adoptions.  “Abandonment” to orphanages by shine who actually does not wish to parent  is extraordinarily rare.[/quote]

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