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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a woman who tried pregnancy, surrogacy, donor egg, -- well, everything -- before "resorting" to adoption.  I hope to god her gorgeous smart now-6-year old daughter never finds out the mom did everything possible not to "have to" adopt.  Some "parents" are just better not being parents.
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What a disgusting thing to say about someone trying to desperately become a mother. You should be ashamed of yourself instead of being so smug.[/quote]

Agreed.  And, there are internet boards full of so-called angry Asian adoptees, some of whom are working in their country of origin to shut down international adoption.  Smug parent shouldn’t be so sure that her fellow adoptive parent cohort are good parents, despite being thoroughly vetted. [/quote]

“Angry Asian adoptee” here. I was adopted from South Korea in the 1980s. Are you aware that now in 2020 with Korea being a wealthy country they give more money per month for a child born out of wedlock to 1) orphanages if they take them 2) domestic adoptive parents if they adopt them than assistance to the birth mom if she keeps her child, which many of them want to do?

I also grew up in a white family that told me race doesn’t matter and hearing all sorts of racism about black people and “illegals”. Let me tell you, growing up as a minority in a racist family it is hard to form a healthy identity. And if you’re curious why my parents were willing to adopt an Asian baby it’s because they “are so cute and smart.”

Don’t get me wrong - there are still lots of kids who need homes now. But don’t you dare say that the people working on the ground to protect poor mothers of color against systemic abuse are just “angry adoptees.” There is a lot you don’t know and you’re just showing your ignorance.

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Your problem is not that you were adopted, it is that you got bad parents. I am sorry about that. It happens to kids everyday (regardless of how they enter their family), and they all deserve better. As recommended above...therapy might help you sort out your issues, which are complex.[/quote]

What you are ignoring in what PP said is that there is an adoption industry that created a market and incentivizes children to be taken from parents who otherwise desperately want to raise their babies.  [/quote]

Ignore that poster who clearly doesn't understand what the one poster was saying.[/quote]

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