Politely declined potential nanny due to her size

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I noticed 9 out of 10 overweight people almost ALWAYS brag about how healthy they eat, how much they exercise and how energetic they are. I also noticed more then one nanny on this thread saying this and then going on to talk badly about skinny nannies.

Dissing skinny nannies isn't going to make the big ones look better. Your not fooling anyone.

Also I don't see any dissing of lifestyle choices to skinny nannies, I only see dissing of the way that the skinny nannies are speaking and calling out those who are not the same size as them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I noticed 9 out of 10 overweight people almost ALWAYS brag about how healthy they eat, how much they exercise and how energetic they are. I also noticed more then one nanny on this thread saying this and then going on to talk badly about skinny nannies.

Dissing skinny nannies isn't going to make the big ones look better. Your not fooling anyone.

Also I don't see any dissing of lifestyle choices to skinny nannies, I only see dissing of the way that the skinny nannies are speaking and calling out those who are not the same size as them.

Exactly. No one has said skinny nannies probably have eating disorders, or are so obsessed with their weight they won't be able to focus on the kids, or that they are anal and particular or ANY KIND OF JUDGMENTS AT ALL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's OP's choice who she chooses for her kids' caregiver and if the candidate truly did use a picture that was misleading, then what else is she hiding?

Now, I myself used to be obese and have finally went into the overeight column and still working on getting to a healthy weight. Truth be told, my energy compared to about a year ago when I weighed 50 lbs more is so much better. I feel like I can interact more and do so much more as far as physical activity and the like with my charges.

While I would wish that my weight wouldn't be a factor in the hiring process, I know myself that if I had a child, I wouldn't hire a nanny who used to be my original weight. Just being honest.

Why would a picture in ANY way be used for consideration for the hiring process?? A picture is generally only needed so that when you go to meet with someone, you can match up the person who you had been talking with online and over the phone with the person you are meeting in person. Most of the time, you don't even have a picture to go by. Why someone needs to give you a current photo of themselves is ridiculous. Unless you plan on using that photo to be judgmental about the person (I don't like someone that has or does, or looks a certain way) then it is not necessary. You want someone "athletic"? That should mean you want someone that has the energy and stamina to take care of your kids, that might enjoy playing sports, and that might eat healthy while at work (being a good role model and not eating junk in front of the kids). That doesn't mean that a larger person cannot do any of that. So they might not be skinny or have very toned muscles, but if they can do everything you would want them to do, then it should be fine. I know many people that are just as healthy as me and not my size, and many that are worse than me and much smaller. Unless you plan on doing what another PP mentioned and giving every potential nanny a physical, looks are NOT the way to judge someone with how healthy they are.

PP, while you have had the experience of gaining more energy while losing weight, you are not the same as everyone else. People's bodies don't all work the same with things like weight gain and loss. Some people don't lose that much energy when they gain weight. I have been at this weight before, lost some weight and had the same amount of energy at that time. Due to several factors that are out of my control, I gained the weight back, but I did not lose the amount of energy I had either. I am not unhealthy with what I eat, but I do have other health issues. They are not things that would make me a bad candidate, just mean that it is harder for me to deal with my weight issues. I see a doctor twice yearly about my cholesterol and blood pressure to make sure I am in good shape that way. I am in no way going to fall over dead at random.

Parents don't mind my size because their kids see that I am very active, eat healthy and that is what they want their kids to do. They like to have their kids see that not everyone is skinny, and that there are reasons for being large other than not exercising and eating bad. I can do my job, better than some they have had in the past that were skinny, and they know it.

If I ever had someone NOT hire me because of my size, then they do have that right and I wouldn't mind. I wouldn't want to work for a family that was that judgmental when they knew I was doing everything under my control to be the healthiest I could be.

[Anonymous]

Most people are overweight because of what they are outing in their mouths, not because of a medical condition. I get so sick of people blaming genetics, depression, medicine

I am a nanny who works 10.5 hour days. I walk the kids in the stroller with the dog every day that I can. If we are very busy or if the weather is inclement then I walk the dog at 7 am and get a quick mile in before the parents and kids are awake..then 3 nights a week u go to hot yoga for a 75 min class...one night a week I go to hip hop and I spin on Saturdays. I cut up all of my fruit and vegetables and eat 5 fresh servings a day at least. I work very hard to nt be unhealthy. It would be much easier to go home and veg out and hit a drive through...people need to stop accepting being overweight and get out there and change things. No one gets overweight eating fruit and vegetables and chicken. Let's be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FYI the judgment is what's so disgusting. I just can't imagine passing judgment like that onto my children. People who are overweight don't have feelings too because YOU assume that they sit at home all day stuffing their faces?

Well you don't get that way by eating right and exercising daily that's for damn sure.

If a birth control shot can make someone gain 5-15 lbs in ONE YEAR, then that shows that there can be MANY ways that someone might be just as active and eat just as healthy and still gain weight. THIS is what I find the worst about people being against overweight people. Thinking that it MUST be them eating too much junk food all day long and not exercising. Do you realize that if you don't eat enough food, that your body goes into starvation mode and you can actually start to gain weight? From eating less and exercising?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people are overweight because of what they are outing in their mouths, not because of a medical condition. I get so sick of people blaming genetics, depression, medicine

I am a nanny who works 10.5 hour days. I walk the kids in the stroller with the dog every day that I can. If we are very busy or if the weather is inclement then I walk the dog at 7 am and get a quick mile in before the parents and kids are awake..then 3 nights a week u go to hot yoga for a 75 min class...one night a week I go to hip hop and I spin on Saturdays. I cut up all of my fruit and vegetables and eat 5 fresh servings a day at least. I work very hard to nt be unhealthy. It would be much easier to go home and veg out and hit a drive through...people need to stop accepting being overweight and get out there and change things. No one gets overweight eating fruit and vegetables and chicken. Let's be honest.

Good for you.

Who cares?

Cutting up your fruits and vegetables doesn't make you a better person than the nanny who eats a donut and a coffee in the car. The food you eat is in no way a value reflection on you as a person, although I think this is a misconception many fitness freaks forget. No one needs to "get out there and change things" because you said so. If someone wants to make a change, they will. If they don't, why the hell do you care if I weigh 120 or 150 or 190 pounds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people are overweight because of what they are outing in their mouths, not because of a medical condition. I get so sick of people blaming genetics, depression, medicine

I am a nanny who works 10.5 hour days. I walk the kids in the stroller with the dog every day that I can. If we are very busy or if the weather is inclement then I walk the dog at 7 am and get a quick mile in before the parents and kids are awake..then 3 nights a week u go to hot yoga for a 75 min class...one night a week I go to hip hop and I spin on Saturdays. I cut up all of my fruit and vegetables and eat 5 fresh servings a day at least. I work very hard to nt be unhealthy. It would be much easier to go home and veg out and hit a drive through...people need to stop accepting being overweight and get out there and change things. No one gets overweight eating fruit and vegetables and chicken. Let's be honest.

Genetics has a ton to do with obesity. So do poor eating habits brought down through generations. Why do you think everyone has those friends who can stuff their mouths with junk all day and still be as thin as a rail? Because they're genetically predisposed to a higher metabolism. I can eat healthy 6 days out of the week, go out of a nice (not overly healthy, but not detrimental) meal one evening in my week and still struggle to keep weight off. It's because I was genetically predisposed to slow metabolism. In addition, I was also never taught proper eating habits. So I grew up as an obese adolescent before I even knew what that meant! Now as a young adult, I work hard as hell to keep that weigt off. But because I'm still 25-30 lbs overweight you won't hire me under the preconceived notion that I stuff my face all day? Awesome. You'd probably be the worst employer I can think to work for.

[Anonymous]

Obese people are WAY too quick to blame genetics and health conditions. I DON'T BUY IT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obese people are WAY too quick to blame genetics and health conditions. I DON'T BUY IT.

You don't have to. No one cares what you think about their bodies. It is not a moral imperative to eat well and exercise.

[Anonymous]

After reading this thread I only have one thing to say. I may be fat but at least I'm not an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread I only have one thing to say. I may be fat but at least I'm not an asshole.

No. fucking. kidding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I completely understand why you would want a healthy nanny. A healthy nanny can be more active w/your kids and will also most likely encourage eating healthy foods, etc.

As a parent, if I had a choice between a healthy nanny and one w/weight issues, I would choose the healthier one.

However, if the obese nanny had a great disposition, excellent references + my children liked her, by all means, I would take her.

Most obese people however, have less energy and more health problems.

exactly.

[Anonymous]

Being overweight is a problem - who are you kidding? It's one of the biggest problems in our nation. My health insurance premiums are paying for all the obese related diseases that people now have. It is important for yourself, your family, your employers and society to maintain a healthy lifestyle. I've been thin, overweight after having three kids and back down to normal weight. I'm working my ass off to lose some more weight and get healthier. I would never hire an obese (ok, more like morbidly obese) nanny to care for my kids. You do not get fat by being healthy - let's be honest with each other.

[Anonymous]

To the rude poster who said to the thyroid nanny that I wouldn't be fat if I gave a damn. I actually do give a damn. I eat healthy every day and I work out 5 days a week on top of chasing 2 little one's around all day. You should be ashamed of yourself for being so rude and making such assumptions about someone you don't even know. I figured out something was wrong medically because I am active daily and eat very healthy and went to my doctor and found out I had a problem. I am very upset to have gained all this weight and am really working hard to lose it. It has not changed my ability to care for the children that I take care of 40+ hours a week. Their mother is even aware of what is going on and has been very supportive of my weight loss efforts and has been one of my biggest cheerleaders. I am disgusted with your comments. Everyone saying you do not get fat by being healthy is wrong. Some people get fat by being unhealthy and others such as myself got fat but not through fault of their own. I don't pig out and sit on my butt all day. Some of you really need to think about your judgmental attitude. I am officially done with this board. I know no one cares about that but just figured I would put that out there because a lot of you are ruining these boards for those of us who come here for the right reasons. Please find something better to do with your time and stop being so critical of others. I apologize for any typos or grammatical errors but I'm really to upset to care right now.

[Anonymous]

Why don't nannies get a mental health professional to help with this widespread problem? Eating more than your body needs, is an emotional problem. Admitting the truth is the first step to recovery.