Politely declined potential nanny due to her size

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly all of the ex t or current big nannies need to get over themselves. Shaming OP because she choose to make a decision about who she hires! She is the boss and can hire whomever she sees fit. If you don't like that, well then that is too bad, because her decision has been made!

Did any of you ever not do something wrong, and deserving of shame? I'm sure you have, so getting off your high horse would be most appreciative. Thyroid problem here, I know I'm big but working on it there...well, if you gave a damn in the first place you wouldn't be fat would you?...


I wouldn't hire a fat woman either. Yes I will make assumptions and assume she can not keep up, as most can't. But it is my choice, if it bites me in the behind, then lesson learned. My choice, my consequence and will just hire a new nanny---but since I don't worry about that since I have a pretty amazing nanny, if I ever did this then it would work for the best or I'd learned from my judgment. Crucify me all you want, I don't care. I have a nanny whom I love and care for and does an awesome job with the kids. She didn't just claim she was healthy, she has demonstrated this and thus my kids have learned to like a lot of healthy foods, my kids love sports so we're good . As for the big nannies, you can deny all you want or make an excuse and shame the OP. All you really need to do, is loo at yourself before you blame someone else for your short coming...you could have avoided getting as big as you did, and now you expect sympathy! Get real!

No one is shaming the OP...who we are shaming is those who automatically thinks that fat nanny equals lazy or unhealthy eater. I've said it over and over. Even as an "obese" nanny I never ate poorly. I never ate out of control. That just isn't how I've ever eaten. If you only want to hire skinny people that's totally your prerogative, but how can you use the argument that because of this factor you're getting someone who examples healthy lifestyle choices for your kids? I can't tell you how many average weight or skinny people I've met that have the most unhealthy lifestyles. If you use the argument I don't want a nanny who's overweight because I'm nervous of whether or not she'll be able to keep up with my active toddlers, then that's completely understandable.

I don't blame the OP at all. I'm just sick of hearing the false assumptions. Especially from those who've never been there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly all of the ex t or current big nannies need to get over themselves. Shaming OP because she choose to make a decision about who she hires! She is the boss and can hire whomever she sees fit. If you don't like that, well then that is too bad, because her decision has been made!

Did any of you ever not do something wrong, and deserving of shame? I'm sure you have, so getting off your high horse would be most appreciative. Thyroid problem here, I know I'm big but working on it there...well, if you gave a damn in the first place you wouldn't be fat would you?...


I wouldn't hire a fat woman either. Yes I will make assumptions and assume she can not keep up, as most can't. But it is my choice, if it bites me in the behind, then lesson learned. My choice, my consequence and will just hire a new nanny---but since I don't worry about that since I have a pretty amazing nanny, if I ever did this then it would work for the best or I'd learned from my judgment. Crucify me all you want, I don't care. I have a nanny whom I love and care for and does an awesome job with the kids. She didn't just claim she was healthy, she has demonstrated this and thus my kids have learned to like a lot of healthy foods, my kids love sports so we're good . As for the big nannies, you can deny all you want or make an excuse and shame the OP. All you really need to do, is loo at yourself before you blame someone else for your short coming...you could have avoided getting as big as you did, and now you expect sympathy! Get real!

There is no way that you are a parent. You sound VERY uneducated and your writing style is atrocious. Also, you are a disgusting person. If you really are a parent, I feel so bad for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been with my current family for two years now. When my MB began her search she refused to interview anyone overweight/obese. They love that I'm active, eat healthy and think that my lifestyle will have a positive influence on my charge. Why wouldn't you want that for your kids? I don't blame you OP.

I know exactly! All these obese nannies just want a free pass and more reason to eat eat and eat and justify claiming anyone who doesn't understand them should be ashamed!
haha what a joke! Like they haven't made a decision EVER in their life, that made them look like ASSES!!!!

Stop sock puppeting. You are a disgusting person. I hope to god that you don't have kids because YOU are what is wrong with the world today.

[Anonymous]

FYI the judgment is what's so disgusting. I just can't imagine passing judgment like that onto my children. People who are overweight don't have feelings too because YOU assume that they sit at home all day stuffing their faces?

[Anonymous]

Okay so say you hire someone who's average weight - give or take 5-10 pounds right? What do you do in a year when they've gained 50 pounds? Still performing all of her duties, still able to play with the kids, take them to activities, still eats healthy meals with/in front of them... you going to fire her for gaining weight? Really?

The judgmental assumptions here are disgusting, I agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FYI the judgment is what's so disgusting. I just can't imagine passing judgment like that onto my children. People who are overweight don't have feelings too because YOU assume that they sit at home all day stuffing their faces?

Well you don't get that way by eating right and exercising daily that's for damn sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FYI the judgment is what's so disgusting. I just can't imagine passing judgment like that onto my children. People who are overweight don't have feelings too because YOU assume that they sit at home all day stuffing their faces?

Well you don't get that way by eating right and exercising daily that's for damn sure.

EXACTLY! You maybe somewhat healthy being overweight but any doctor will tell you, that if you are obese then you are NOT healthy. I would never hire an obese person to watch my kids. There is no way she could keep up with them. There is a big difference between being overweight and being obese. Look up the definition.

[Anonymous]

I am 30lbs overweight, but exercise daily and try to eat right. I gained quite a bit of weight due to surgery and have been trying to get back down to my old size. I've lost 13 pounds.

But guess what? I'm awesome. I eat well, I have energy, I run 3 times a week, and I am confident. Those are things you might not automatically see when you see me at 30lbs overweight.

And honestly, I can teach kids that at all sizes, you can make good health choices. My mom and my sister were predisposed to being EXTREMELY skinny. They never had to work at it. I, however, have to work at it (got my size from my dad's side). I wasn't taught how to eat right, exercise, etc. because no one in my family ever had to. I feel like that has a lot to do with why I struggled with weight early on.

So I eat much healthier and exercise more than my skinny friends. I understand eating "whole" foods as opposed to eating a lean cuisine everyday and calling that healthy.

These are all things you are not taking into consideration when you hire your "skinny" nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FYI the judgment is what's so disgusting. I just can't imagine passing judgment like that onto my children. People who are overweight don't have feelings too because YOU assume that they sit at home all day stuffing their faces?

Well you don't get that way by eating right and exercising daily that's for damn sure.

No, but you can gain extra weight by...

suffering through depression or other mental health issues that lead you to overeat
eating any of the foods advertised on television regularly
consuming too much HFCS or refined carbs, even when your overall caloric intake is right
as a side effect from medication
after an extended illness where you were unable to move/exercise much
during the stress of caring for a sick/dying family member or other situation where you don't have the time to prioritize yourself

GOD FORBID anyone who's experienced any of those things might care for children, right? They just sound like horrible greedy people..........

And what if NannyX gained a lot of weight in college? It happens. Pizza, beer, candy bars, and now she exercises and eats right but for whatever reason her weight loss is going more slowly than yours. She should still be discriminated against, even though her current lifestyle is probably healthier than yours?

My mom is overweight (not obese) and in better health than I ("healthy weight") am. Snap judgments are so 1950.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FYI the judgment is what's so disgusting. I just can't imagine passing judgment like that onto my children. People who are overweight don't have feelings too because YOU assume that they sit at home all day stuffing their faces?

Well you don't get that way by eating right and exercising daily that's for damn sure.

EXACTLY! You maybe somewhat healthy being overweight but any doctor will tell you, that if you are obese then you are NOT healthy. I would never hire an obese person to watch my kids. There is no way she could keep up with them. There is a big difference between being overweight and being obese. Look up the definition.

There's not a huge discrepancy between obesity and overweight. In fact, according to bmi calculators its only one pound that can move you from one pound to the next. And with the way different people carry their weight you have no idea if an overweight person is actually clinically obese or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 30lbs overweight, but exercise daily and try to eat right. I gained quite a bit of weight due to surgery and have been trying to get back down to my old size. I've lost 13 pounds.

But guess what? I'm awesome. I eat well, I have energy, I run 3 times a week, and I am confident. Those are things you might not automatically see when you see me at 30lbs overweight.

And honestly, I can teach kids that at all sizes, you can make good health choices. My mom and my sister were predisposed to being EXTREMELY skinny. They never had to work at it. I, however, have to work at it (got my size from my dad's side). I wasn't taught how to eat right, exercise, etc. because no one in my family ever had to. I feel like that has a lot to do with why I struggled with weight early on.

So I eat much healthier and exercise more than my skinny friends. I understand eating "whole" foods as opposed to eating a lean cuisine everyday and calling that healthy.

These are all things you are not taking into consideration when you hire your "skinny" nanny.

+1 we are one in the same pp. I could have written this. Some people have to work at it and others don't. Ad those of you who are out there acting holier than thou because you're skinny are full of crap. You more than likely eat more calories than I do every single day and work out way less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FYI the judgment is what's so disgusting. I just can't imagine passing judgment like that onto my children. People who are overweight don't have feelings too because YOU assume that they sit at home all day stuffing their faces?

Well you don't get that way by eating right and exercising daily that's for damn sure.

EXACTLY! You maybe somewhat healthy being overweight but any doctor will tell you, that if you are obese then you are NOT healthy. I would never hire an obese person to watch my kids. There is no way she could keep up with them. There is a big difference between being overweight and being obese. Look up the definition.

There's not a huge discrepancy between obesity and overweight. In fact, according to bmi calculators its only one pound that can move you from one pound to the next. And with the way different people carry their weight you have no idea if an overweight person is actually clinically obese or not.

I meant category!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly all of the ex t or current big nannies need to get over themselves. Shaming OP because she choose to make a decision about who she hires! She is the boss and can hire whomever she sees fit. If you don't like that, well then that is too bad, because her decision has been made!

Did any of you ever not do something wrong, and deserving of shame? I'm sure you have, so getting off your high horse would be most appreciative. Thyroid problem here, I know I'm big but working on it there...well, if you gave a damn in the first place you wouldn't be fat would you?...


I wouldn't hire a fat woman either. Yes I will make assumptions and assume she can not keep up, as most can't. But it is my choice, if it bites me in the behind, then lesson learned. My choice, my consequence and will just hire a new nanny---but since I don't worry about that since I have a pretty amazing nanny, if I ever did this then it would work for the best or I'd learned from my judgment. Crucify me all you want, I don't care. I have a nanny whom I love and care for and does an awesome job with the kids. She didn't just claim she was healthy, she has demonstrated this and thus my kids have learned to like a lot of healthy foods, my kids love sports so we're good . As for the big nannies, you can deny all you want or make an excuse and shame the OP. All you really need to do, is loo at yourself before you blame someone else for your short coming...you could have avoided getting as big as you did, and now you expect sympathy! Get real!

There is no way that you are a parent. You sound VERY uneducated and your writing style is atrocious. Also, you are a disgusting person. If you really are a parent, I feel so bad for your children.

Actually PP's writing style is normal. Nice try though, trying to pick insults. Btw, you aren't any better with when you call people disgusting and tell them you feel bad for their children. You must be overweight because a person with normal weight wouldn't of gotten so offended. Get off the computer and go for a jog.

[Anonymous]

I noticed 9 out of 10 overweight people almost ALWAYS brag about how healthy they eat, how much they exercise and how energetic they are. I also noticed more then one nanny on this thread saying this and then going on to talk badly about skinny nannies.

Dissing skinny nannies isn't going to make the big ones look better. Your not fooling anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I noticed 9 out of 10 overweight people almost ALWAYS brag about how healthy they eat, how much they exercise and how energetic they are. I also noticed more then one nanny on this thread saying this and then going on to talk badly about skinny nannies.

Dissing skinny nannies isn't going to make the big ones look better. Your not fooling anyone.

And dissing fat nannies isn't going to make you less of an intolerant individual.