Women who are with men who are just not that into them- why?

[Anonymous]

I have a good friend who is cute as a button and has a quirky but endearing to all personality. She is gorgeous and I think could have her pick of men. But she is dating someone who refused to call her his girlfriend for MONTHS (she loves to tell this story as if it's adorable), and is generally rude to her and acts like she's a nuisance. The man is not traditionally attractive by most societal ideas of beauty- and not wealthy, etc- so it seems utterly baffling to me as to why she is with him. He seems to be annoyed by her very presence.

My question is- WHY does this happen? And if you were a woman in this kind of relationship what happened with it (i.e. still together, broke up, you realized you could do better, he ended it, etc) and why, psychologically, were you in it?

[Anonymous]

Low self esteem. She doesn't see what the rest of the world sees

[Anonymous]

who are you to judge...maybe she is getting something out of that relationship that is not obvious to you. Or maybe your judgement of the guy is based on your view of the wold and not your friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:who are you to judge...maybe she is getting something out of that relationship that is not obvious to you. Or maybe your judgement of the guy is based on your view of the wold and not your friends.

That people should be kind to/ excited about people they are dating?

[Anonymous]

It is likely a self-esteem issue.

Perhaps she was similarly treated that way by her own Father.

Or maybe she does not believe she can OR deserves any better.

Many different factors could be in play here.

[Anonymous]

She's afraid of ending up alone?

[Anonymous]

The chase

[Anonymous]

Because she wants babies and the clock is ticking. Next question!

[Anonymous]

Why is he with her then ? Obviously they have a connection that you simply can't see.

[Anonymous]

She's your good friend. You're biased. Her market is not what you think it is.

[Anonymous]

Chicks dig assholes. Nice guys finish last. It's an old story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a good friend who is cute as a button and has a quirky but endearing to all personality. She is gorgeous and I think could have her pick of men. But she is dating someone who refused to call her his girlfriend for MONTHS (she loves to tell this story as if it's adorable), and is generally rude to her and acts like she's a nuisance. The man is not traditionally attractive by most societal ideas of beauty- and not wealthy, etc- so it seems utterly baffling to me as to why she is with him. He seems to be annoyed by her very presence.

My question is- WHY does this happen? And if you were a woman in this kind of relationship what happened with it (i.e. still together, broke up, you realized you could do better, he ended it, etc) and why, psychologically, were you in it?

What about her relationship with her father, or long term father figure such as a step father? Also, what about her mother's relationship with a man/men while she grew up?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's just a little gruff, which finds endearing, while you find it rude?

[Anonymous]

Fear of intimacy.

[Anonymous]

He treats her the way she deserves