Would you admit you have a child on the first date?

[Anonymous]

I'm going on a date on Friday, but I he doesn't know that I have a child. Should I make that known on the first date or wait to see how things go first?

[Anonymous]

How did you meet him?

I'd drop it into conversation but not make it a main topic. It's important and will look like you're hiding it if you wait too long.

[Anonymous]

"Admit"???? As in, confess to a crime?

I would absolutely tell him the first time I meet him. We come as a package deal, and I'm proud of my kids.

[Anonymous]

If you like him enough for a second date , yes.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did you meet him?

I'd drop it into conversation but not make it a main topic. It's important and will look like you're hiding it if you wait too long.

We work in the same building (different companies).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Admit"???? As in, confess to a crime?

I would absolutely tell him the first time I meet him. We come as a package deal, and I'm proud of my kids.

Oh dear, rereading that, it sounds horrible! I love my child more than anything, I just want this guy to get to know me for me first. Does that make sense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going on a date on Friday, but I he doesn't know that I have a child. Should I make that known on the first date or wait to see how things go first?

He should have known before the 1st date.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going on a date on Friday, but I he doesn't know that I have a child. Should I make that known on the first date or wait to see how things go first?

He should have known before the 1st date.

Again, it's only because I want him to give me a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going on a date on Friday, but I he doesn't know that I have a child. Should I make that known on the first date or wait to see how things go first?

He should have known before the 1st date.

Again, it's only because I want him to give me a chance.

But you and your child are a package deal - he can't have one without the other. And if you're not upfront with him and he becomes invested in the way you're hoping, he may feel manipulated or deceived when you tell him the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going on a date on Friday, but I he doesn't know that I have a child. Should I make that known on the first date or wait to see how things go first?

He should have known before the 1st date.

Again, it's only because I want him to give me a chance.

If he wouidn't give you a chance if he knew you had a child, then he's really not someone you want to go out with ANYWAY! Unless you're just looking for a one-night stand or no strings attached fun.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because your kid is the most important feature of your life. Like duh....

[Anonymous]

Have you ever talked to him? If so, how has it never come up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going on a date on Friday, but I he doesn't know that I have a child. Should I make that known on the first date or wait to see how things go first?

He should have known before the 1st date.

Again, it's only because I want him to give me a chance.

Why would you want to rope in a guy who might not be open to a kid already in the picture?

He absolutely should know before the first date. Don't be ashamed you already have a kid.

[Anonymous]

I mean seriously, would you even want to waste time at dinner with someone who would not consider you with a kid? Appalling to me if you would do this. .... maybe you should consider whether some family member would be better off raising your kid if that is your attitude.