Sooo I just did something and now I'm nervous.

[Anonymous]

Long story semi short... my ex and I had a volatile breakup. He cheated on me then ghosted me to end the relationship. I'm still extremely hurt, depressed, sad, angry - everything over it. Whiiiich is why I did this stupid thing. I ripped a photograph of him as a little kid that he loved and threw out the piece with his face, and mailed the pieces in an envelope to his house. Now I'm slightly concerned it might be perceived as a threat (by her, the woman he left me for- who just moved in to his house with her kids)

Yes or no: should I email him, "hey heads up I just put in the mail something of yours that I just don't want anymore - it means nothing else" ?

Also yes I know it was immature, mean, and I'm sure I'll even get some psycho comments. My friend tried to talk me out of it. But...whatever

[Anonymous]

No. No more contact. And listen to your wise friend next time.

[Anonymous]

Yeah sure contact him and drag the drama out some more. Great idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. No more contact. And listen to your wise friend next time.

Agree. Zero contact from now on. None, nada, nothing. Ghost him back.

[Anonymous]

Nice job. You just handed him evidence that he can show everyone that his ex-GF is a psycho, and they will all congratulate him from escaping so easily from the bunny-boiler.

[Anonymous]

I do not think it is a threat. If he would go to police, I don't think a commissioner would have enough to charge you with anything. Let it alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not think it is a threat. If he would go to police, I don't think a commissioner would have enough to charge you with anything. Let it alone.

That's what I thought too...but I'm just nervous SHE may try to press charges or get a restraining order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nice job. You just handed him evidence that he can show everyone that his ex-GF is a psycho, and they will all congratulate him from escaping so easily from the bunny-boiler.

I'm honestly not that concerned about that. I don't care what they say about me. I just don't want any cops called on me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah sure contact him and drag the drama out some more. Great idea.

Well...just trying to soften the blow? Or maybe he'll intercept it before her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. No more contact. And listen to your wise friend next time.

I know. I should have. But I made my mind up and just did it

[Anonymous]

NO more contact. Any contact builds a stalking case. Don't do it. Nothing.

Destroying a favorite childhood photo is pretty harsh. Likely not replaceable and maybe you should consider therapy and find other ways to vent your anger.

[Anonymous]

Why not have some fun with it? Call him up, breathe heavy for a few seconds and say, "You're next."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think it is a threat. If he would go to police, I don't think a commissioner would have enough to charge you with anything. Let it alone.

That's what I thought too...but I'm just nervous SHE may try to press charges or get a restraining order.

Press charges for what? Ripping a photograph is not a crime. As to the restraining order, well, you shouldn't be going over there anyway, correct? Leave them alone. No more contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think it is a threat. If he would go to police, I don't think a commissioner would have enough to charge you with anything. Let it alone.

That's what I thought too...but I'm just nervous SHE may try to press charges or get a restraining order.

For sending a ripped up picture? Did you write some hateful stuff on the envelope?

This is embarrassing for you, but nothing more. But please, do not have any more contact with these people no matter what.

[Anonymous]

He cheated on you then ghosted you to end the relationship - I think its pretty safe to say he doesn't want to hear from you ever again and that includes your warning of the pending letter or apologies for ripping up the photograph.
LET IT GO