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Before jumping into adopting, you might consider contacting your county and becoming a foster parent. There are a lot of challenges being a single mother and being a foster mother might give you insight.
There are a lot of places online that you could research about adoption and foster parenting that you could look into.
Consider praying about this decision. I will be praying for you. Good luck!
There are a lot of places online that you could research about adoption and foster parenting that you could look into.
Consider praying about this decision. I will be praying for you. Good luck!
I am so sorry you are going through this phase, but rest assured you are not alone.
Some babies are just more demanding than others and like to be constantly entertained to keep them happy. Do the best you can by playing, cuddling, holding him and see if there is any change in his demeanor.
I always thought that the "terrible twos" meant it lasted for 2+ years
Hang in there, try to enjoy every moment you have with him. Because, before you know it you will be saying goodbye to him as he heads off to college.
Some babies are just more demanding than others and like to be constantly entertained to keep them happy. Do the best you can by playing, cuddling, holding him and see if there is any change in his demeanor.
I always thought that the "terrible twos" meant it lasted for 2+ years
Hang in there, try to enjoy every moment you have with him. Because, before you know it you will be saying goodbye to him as he heads off to college.
I am so sorry you are going through this...I hope I can offer some insight.
I, too am an only child and begged my parents for a sibling, but they were not able to conceive. I finally got over it and adjusted just fine. I had a lot of neighborhood friends, that were like sisters to me, as well as cousins.
I am also the parent of an "only child" because basically the same thing happened to us. We were unable to have more children. So we adopted. Have you thought about that?
There are many places online that offer help and suggestions for adoption. http://tinyurl.com/ycg28hhn
I hope this provides some help. I will be praying for you.
I, too am an only child and begged my parents for a sibling, but they were not able to conceive. I finally got over it and adjusted just fine. I had a lot of neighborhood friends, that were like sisters to me, as well as cousins.
I am also the parent of an "only child" because basically the same thing happened to us. We were unable to have more children. So we adopted. Have you thought about that?
There are many places online that offer help and suggestions for adoption. http://tinyurl.com/ycg28hhn
I hope this provides some help. I will be praying for you.
So sorry to hear that you have differences regarding where to live. Sounds like a time to sit down and talk about a lot of things. If you plan to get married in your home church, usually the pastor is a really good sounding board for all kinds of pre-marital concerns. Some of them offer counseling at no charge and you can have as many visits as you want. I highly recommend sitting down with your fiance and a pastor or counselor to hash out a few things.
The power of prayer can be huge if you start praying together to help with these kind of things, plus it could bring you closer together in a forever type of bonding.
I will definitely be praying that you can work all this out and experience your vows of marriage as you had planned. Good luck![b]
The power of prayer can be huge if you start praying together to help with these kind of things, plus it could bring you closer together in a forever type of bonding.
I will definitely be praying that you can work all this out and experience your vows of marriage as you had planned. Good luck![b]
I am so very sorry you are going through all this with your little one and husband.
It's important that you are both on the same page for parenting and discipline, otherwise there will not be continuity with with the guidelines and parameters for your son. He will not know what is expected of him and unless there is follow through there is no reason for him to behave and will continue to express himself by saying "no". There must be consequences to his actions or he will be in charge and control everything around him. He needs to understand there are boundaries, even at 21 months and that you are the parents, that you are in charge and control. I hope this doesn't sound harsh, it's necessary if you want the best for his character building.
I remember, when we raised our "strong-willed" son, it was a gentle form of "tough love". And being consistent was ultimately more important than anything else. Hopefully you will be able to sit down and talk to your husband about laying out some ground rules for the both of you to follow through with and the result should help your son to know what's expected.
A while back when we were raising our son in those formidable years, someone I highly respected told us that "children really crave direction and discipline" that's why they test you and act up...to find out what is expected and what the limits are.
I hope this helps. I will be praying for you to find the right parameters as your family thrives. Good luck!
It's important that you are both on the same page for parenting and discipline, otherwise there will not be continuity with with the guidelines and parameters for your son. He will not know what is expected of him and unless there is follow through there is no reason for him to behave and will continue to express himself by saying "no". There must be consequences to his actions or he will be in charge and control everything around him. He needs to understand there are boundaries, even at 21 months and that you are the parents, that you are in charge and control. I hope this doesn't sound harsh, it's necessary if you want the best for his character building.
I remember, when we raised our "strong-willed" son, it was a gentle form of "tough love". And being consistent was ultimately more important than anything else. Hopefully you will be able to sit down and talk to your husband about laying out some ground rules for the both of you to follow through with and the result should help your son to know what's expected.
A while back when we were raising our son in those formidable years, someone I highly respected told us that "children really crave direction and discipline" that's why they test you and act up...to find out what is expected and what the limits are.
I hope this helps. I will be praying for you to find the right parameters as your family thrives. Good luck!
I am sorry you and your children are going through all this. I wish I was able to help you in some way.
I will be the first to admit that I know very little about tantrums. I do have a couple of questions. Is there anyway that you can see it coming and head it off before it happens? Do your children show signs of depressions, distress or agitation just before a tantrum that it could be headed off with some kind of distraction? I am just curious as whether there are signs before this happens that could be altered or given come kind of stimulus or distraction.
I did find an article that might be helpful called "Toddler Throws Uncontrollable Tantrums": http://tinyurl.com/y7c692tu
I hope things settle down for you soon. I will keep your family in my prayers.
I will be the first to admit that I know very little about tantrums. I do have a couple of questions. Is there anyway that you can see it coming and head it off before it happens? Do your children show signs of depressions, distress or agitation just before a tantrum that it could be headed off with some kind of distraction? I am just curious as whether there are signs before this happens that could be altered or given come kind of stimulus or distraction.
I did find an article that might be helpful called "Toddler Throws Uncontrollable Tantrums": http://tinyurl.com/y7c692tu
I hope things settle down for you soon. I will keep your family in my prayers.
I found quite a bit of information about adoption http://tinyurl.com/nxhjxlv online that was useful when we were searching a few years back. You might be able to find some answers there. I hope this helps and you find exactly what you are looking for. I will be praying for you as you go through the adoption process. Good luck!
I am so sorry you are having this happen in your marriage. Everyone’s marriage changes and evolves as the years pass, hopefully growing closer, firmly uniting and bonding. Sometimes it isn’t 50/50 and takes a lot more work than you ever dreamed of. It sounds as if you are struggling to keep what you have and have listed a lot of details and concerns for your relationship.
Is there any way possible that the two of you could sit down and discuss all these concerns, face to face, when your daughter is not around? One of the weekends he comes home, could you take a good portion of the day, and plan a meal, even a picnic, just the two of you, to spend time where you can talk about all these issues, all the way from not being at home much, to his “lady friends”, the time with you both spend with your daughter, yours and his feelings, and your future.. Just lay it all out there, honest and open and talk about how your love once was, through the birth of your daughter and how it is now.
It sounds like the two of you have not had any serious conversations since your daughter was born, perhaps it’s time for one now. It might be a new start, or at least a way to get things all out in person so you know where you are headed.
If he is open to sitting down and talking, that is the first step. After that, there are all kinds of counselors out there that might help bring the two of you closer together.
I will be thinking about you and praying for the very best.
Is there any way possible that the two of you could sit down and discuss all these concerns, face to face, when your daughter is not around? One of the weekends he comes home, could you take a good portion of the day, and plan a meal, even a picnic, just the two of you, to spend time where you can talk about all these issues, all the way from not being at home much, to his “lady friends”, the time with you both spend with your daughter, yours and his feelings, and your future.. Just lay it all out there, honest and open and talk about how your love once was, through the birth of your daughter and how it is now.
It sounds like the two of you have not had any serious conversations since your daughter was born, perhaps it’s time for one now. It might be a new start, or at least a way to get things all out in person so you know where you are headed.
If he is open to sitting down and talking, that is the first step. After that, there are all kinds of counselors out there that might help bring the two of you closer together.
I will be thinking about you and praying for the very best.