Why do women date or marry guys with cheating pasts?

[Anonymous]

I was watching the Jerry Springer show today and it reminded me of the women of DCUM who say they dated or married a former cheater without caring if they cheated in the past. Most of the women on the show were redneck or trashy but I guess I expected women with higher standards in this area?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was watching the Jerry Springer show today and it reminded me of the women of DCUM who say they dated or married a former cheater without caring if they cheated in the past. Most of the women on the show were redneck or trashy but I guess I expected women with higher standards in this area?

You guessed wrong!

[Anonymous]

Mine wasn’t a cheater when I met him...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was watching the Jerry Springer show today and it reminded me of the women of DCUM who say they dated or married a former cheater without caring if they cheated in the past. Most of the women on the show were redneck or trashy but I guess I expected women with higher standards in this area?

You guessed wrong!

Plus a million.

[Anonymous]

Only trashy rednecks watch Jerry Springer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only trashy rednecks watch Jerry Springer.

Only trashy people cheat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only trashy rednecks watch Jerry Springer.

Only trashy people cheat

Very true. And they probably are Jerry's biggest fans!

[Anonymous]

Ugh. How could you possibly care about someone else’s marriage? Live and let live. If someone cheats, does that mean that no one should ever give that person a chance again? How about you worry about your own life?

[Anonymous]

Just like getting old, fat, grey, or wrinkled (or divorced), people don't think it will happen to them. Because love is a drug.

[Anonymous]

He confessed about his cheating past, said he loved me and he’s never felt real love before.
I believed him.
He lied.
I’m heartbroken.

Turns out I’m a sap.
But I have learned to not trust him.

[Anonymous]

Because they love the person

Because they believe he has changed.

Because they don't care.

Because they don't know.


I'd also like to take this time to note that you can think you are doing it all"right" picked the guy who never cheated, and get cheated on.

[Anonymous]

Because she believes he only lies to the other women, never to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He confessed about his cheating past, said he loved me and he’s never felt real love before.
I believed him.
He lied.
I’m heartbroken.

Turns out I’m a sap.
But I have learned to not trust him.

This. This is the pattern - they love bomb you and tell you what they did - like it was terrible and they'll never forgive themselves. They off load it so you don't find out later and question it, its a subject that has been "handled". Then you believe you're in safe hands, that he has in fact changed due to your overwhelming connection and love bond.
Then he cheats on you.

This is a sociopathic pattern and its very common. Women are not to blame for trusting cheaters. They're not idiots, they are carefully chosen victims who are then exploited.

[Anonymous]

Why is this only about male cheaters? Women cheat too with nearly the same frequency. It’s just not talked about as much.

[Anonymous]

Because they think it was the prior partner’s fault (she was cold or withholding or not fun or whatever).