Why do women date or marry guys with cheating pasts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They date them because they're typically fat insecure toads who are looking for a sugar daddy so add lazy to that.

WTF? I haven't known a ton of high status men looking for arm candy trophy wives who date "fat insecure toads." If you're going to be a misogynist a-hole you should at least get your tropes right.

Most women are insecure and many older men or men today like fat women. They seek affection.

[Anonymous]

Some men did not have a cheating past at time of marriage but were cheated on....and still end up cheating at midlife.

[Anonymous]

Cus we can sling it.

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys never cheat until middle age. People change.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women like bad boys

Yep, and it's an evolutionary preference. Females of all species look for mates that exhibit high fertility (technically fecundity), because it means their kids will have high fertility. Women who used that strategy got more decendents, and passed the same preference to their daughters.

Wut

I know right. When this guy and the one one who talked about alpha men write this stuff, it’s like this is all facts as opposed to theories proposed by some people, and then many go on to say that this is what ALL men believe. Most times I ignore this stuff but sometimes it’s just annoying that they believe their view is what all men believe unless there’s something wrong with those men.

Yeah, it's just a theory, but it's well founded, so I thought I'd put it out there for people to think about. In the scientific view, we all have reproductive strategies that have evolved with us. Unless you are a creationist, it shouldn't be surprising.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women like bad boys

Yep, and it's an evolutionary preference. Females of all species look for mates that exhibit high fertility (technically fecundity), because it means their kids will have high fertility. Women who used that strategy got more decendents, and passed the same preference to their daughters.

Wut

I know right. When this guy and the one one who talked about alpha men write this stuff, it’s like this is all facts as opposed to theories proposed by some people, and then many go on to say that this is what ALL men believe. Most times I ignore this stuff but sometimes it’s just annoying that they believe their view is what all men believe unless there’s something wrong with those men.

Yeah, it's just a theory, but it's well founded, so I thought I'd put it out there for people to think about. In the scientific view, we all have reproductive strategies that have evolved with us. Unless you are a creationist, it shouldn't be surprising.

actually, this type of thinking on evolutionary biology hasn't been around long enough to be tested by new evidence that appears and the theory still holding up time and time again. Definitely not a creationist but again you did the same thing that I reference above: if you say something, it must be true and if they disagree with you, well it must be that there's something wrong with me (I must be a creationist otherwise I would believe everything you write). It'a circular argument that you use and it's just a wrong way to approach any argument.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women like bad boys

Yep, and it's an evolutionary preference. Females of all species look for mates that exhibit high fertility (technically fecundity), because it means their kids will have high fertility. Women who used that strategy got more decendents, and passed the same preference to their daughters.

Wut

I know right. When this guy and the one one who talked about alpha men write this stuff, it’s like this is all facts as opposed to theories proposed by some people, and then many go on to say that this is what ALL men believe. Most times I ignore this stuff but sometimes it’s just annoying that they believe their view is what all men believe unless there’s something wrong with those men.

Yeah, it's just a theory, but it's well founded, so I thought I'd put it out there for people to think about. In the scientific view, we all have reproductive strategies that have evolved with us. Unless you are a creationist, it shouldn't be surprising.

actually, this type of thinking on evolutionary biology hasn't been around long enough to be tested by new evidence that appears and the theory still holding up time and time again. Definitely not a creationist but again you did the same thing that I reference above: if you say something, it must be true and if they disagree with you, well it must be that there's something wrong with me (I must be a creationist otherwise I would believe everything you write). It'a circular argument that you use and it's just a wrong way to approach any argument.

+1. Its exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women like bad boys

Yep, and it's an evolutionary preference. Females of all species look for mates that exhibit high fertility (technically fecundity), because it means their kids will have high fertility. Women who used that strategy got more decendents, and passed the same preference to their daughters.

Wut

I know right. When this guy and the one one who talked about alpha men write this stuff, it’s like this is all facts as opposed to theories proposed by some people, and then many go on to say that this is what ALL men believe. Most times I ignore this stuff but sometimes it’s just annoying that they believe their view is what all men believe unless there’s something wrong with those men.

Yeah, it's just a theory, but it's well founded, so I thought I'd put it out there for people to think about. In the scientific view, we all have reproductive strategies that have evolved with us. Unless you are a creationist, it shouldn't be surprising.

actually, this type of thinking on evolutionary biology hasn't been around long enough to be tested by new evidence that appears and the theory still holding up time and time again. Definitely not a creationist but again you did the same thing that I reference above: if you say something, it must be true and if they disagree with you, well it must be that there's something wrong with me (I must be a creationist otherwise I would believe everything you write). It'a circular argument that you use and it's just a wrong way to approach any argument.

+1. Its exhausting.

Exhausting? Is this something that comes up all the time for you day to day? To me it is exhausting that incels have seized on it to justify their own misogyny, but that's a reproductive strategy too, albeit wrong-headed. We are all animals. That is a scientific answer to OPs observation/question, certainly not the only one, but it is well founded and the literature is broad and deep. It is not circular.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women like bad boys

Yep, and it's an evolutionary preference. Females of all species look for mates that exhibit high fertility (technically fecundity), because it means their kids will have high fertility. Women who used that strategy got more decendents, and passed the same preference to their daughters.

Wut

I know right. When this guy and the one one who talked about alpha men write this stuff, it’s like this is all facts as opposed to theories proposed by some people, and then many go on to say that this is what ALL men believe. Most times I ignore this stuff but sometimes it’s just annoying that they believe their view is what all men believe unless there’s something wrong with those men.

Yeah, it's just a theory, but it's well founded, so I thought I'd put it out there for people to think about. In the scientific view, we all have reproductive strategies that have evolved with us. Unless you are a creationist, it shouldn't be surprising.

actually, this type of thinking on evolutionary biology hasn't been around long enough to be tested by new evidence that appears and the theory still holding up time and time again. Definitely not a creationist but again you did the same thing that I reference above: if you say something, it must be true and if they disagree with you, well it must be that there's something wrong with me (I must be a creationist otherwise I would believe everything you write). It'a circular argument that you use and it's just a wrong way to approach any argument.

+1. Its exhausting.

Exhausting? Is this something that comes up all the time for you day to day? To me it is exhausting that incels have seized on it to justify their own misogyny, but that's a reproductive strategy too, albeit wrong-headed. We are all animals. That is a scientific answer to OPs observation/question, certainly not the only one, but it is well founded and the literature is broad and deep. It is not circular.

Calm down. The incels and stupid dumb and angry posters are exhausting. Really deteriorating in the quality of discussion. Intellect/anonymity/opinion intersects here in a way that is rare. People who are incapable of having a normal interaction with others and their opinions is exhausting. See, the posters even have you on edge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of guys never cheat until middle age. People change.

Why is that? Boredom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of guys never cheat until middle age. People change.

Why is that? Boredom?

Many different reasons. Entitlement, self-loathing, didn’t turn out like they thought they would, escape from family responsibility, variety, age/midlife crisis, personal mental issues, low self-esteem, addictions, repeating patterns for their childhood, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of guys never cheat until middle age. People change.

Why is that? Boredom?

Many different reasons. Entitlement, self-loathing, didn’t turn out like they thought they would, escape from family responsibility, variety, age/midlife crisis, personal mental issues, low self-esteem, addictions, repeating patterns for their childhood, etc.

Variety. If they have had sex with only one person for the last two decades, some go for variety even when still having good sex at home. They want to try “different”, not better mind you. Different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. How could you possibly care about someone else’s marriage? Live and let live. If someone cheats, does that mean that no one should ever give that person a chance again? How about you worry about your own life?

I wouldn’t

Character revealed

[Anonymous]

Yah, they can find a like-minded cheater to marry.

Those of us with character want nothing to do with people who have trouble being honest/keeping commitments

[Anonymous]

I continue to be surprised when acquaintances become more like friends and start to tell memore personal things about their lives. A common thing I am finding is that these friends, who have been married 10 or more years (some as many as 35 years) were actually "the other woman". I guess sometimes the other woman really is the right one for some couples.