Judgmental parents — why can’t people just mind their own business?

[Anonymous]

Just a vent.

I was chatting with a friend of 8 years the other day. She has a 5 year old; I have a 3.5 year old. Her kid is starting kindergarten in their local MCPS school this fall. We were talking about how big the kids are getting, etc.

My friend asked what we’re doing for kindergarten. I told her we’re going to be looking at private schools. She said, “why would you do that?!” I just said that it’s the right decision for us. She kept going. “MCPS is so good! I can’t imagine why *anyone* would do that, unless they had some special situation or something.”

We ended up moving on to other things, but it just really irked me. I don’t understand why people can’t just let everyone do what’s right for them.

Rant over.

[Anonymous]

Because she felt judged that she wasn't as a good a parent as you.

We chose MCPS over privates for our child with special needs, so her argument is not valid anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Because she felt judged that she wasn't as a good a parent as you.

We chose MCPS over privates for our child with special needs, so her argument is not valid anyway.

I think that’s what she meant by “special situation,” though I didn’t ask her to specify because frankly I wanted to just move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Because she felt judged that she wasn't as a good a parent as you.

We chose MCPS over privates for our child with special needs, so her argument is not valid anyway.

I think that’s what she meant by “special situation,” though I didn’t ask her to specify because frankly I wanted to just move on.

Sorry I literally switched your sentence in my head — I do know public schools often do better with SN kids than private schools.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, this pandemic has shown the worst side of private schools in Montgomery County.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, this pandemic has shown the worst side of private schools in Montgomery County.

How so?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, this pandemic has shown the worst side of private schools in Montgomery County.

Disagree. I always thought I would send my kids to public school. Seeing how public schools dealt with the pandemic, DL for young kids, and the utter caving to politics and unions has made me seriously question whether I will ever send my kids to public schools again even if it makes our lives tougher in many ways down the line. I’m particularly ashamed of DCPS and MCPS considering their community numbers.

[Anonymous]

She’s an insecure bitch-can’t stand people like this

[Anonymous]

Do not worry about what other people think!

[Anonymous]

Well, maybe she figured she knew more than you because she was a few years ahead. My kids are teenagers now but I can tell you lots of people think they know everything until they actually get to the next stage. If your child is 3.5 it’s hard for you to be an expert on what elementary students do or do not need — even your own, who will change tremendously in the next two years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not worry about what other people think!

+1

And if you feel like this as a private school parent, you'll be fine!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a vent.

I was chatting with a friend of 8 years the other day. She has a 5 year old; I have a 3.5 year old. Her kid is starting kindergarten in their local MCPS school this fall. We were talking about how big the kids are getting, etc.

My friend asked what we’re doing for kindergarten. I told her we’re going to be looking at private schools. She said, “why would you do that?!” I just said that it’s the right decision for us. She kept going. “MCPS is so good! I can’t imagine why *anyone* would do that, unless they had some special situation or something.”

We ended up moving on to other things, but it just really irked me. I don’t understand why people can’t just let everyone do what’s right for them.

Rant over.

She wishes she could send her kid to private. No other reason for a judgmental response like that. Your choice for your child has nothing to do with her insecure azz.

[Anonymous]

Well, it's not like there aren't valid critiques of private schooling, particularly in terms of the way private schools often perpetuate school segregation by income and race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, maybe she figured she knew more than you because she was a few years ahead. My kids are teenagers now but I can tell you lots of people think they know everything until they actually get to the next stage. If your child is 3.5 it’s hard for you to be an expert on what elementary students do or do not need — even your own, who will change tremendously in the next two years.

OP here. Yeah, I mean that’s possible, though I’m not sure how she can be so confident in MCPS, given that her kid hasn’t started there yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, it's not like there aren't valid critiques of private schooling, particularly in terms of the way private schools often perpetuate school segregation by income and race.

And public schools don’t? You’re naive.