Pretty sure my husband is cheating

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a level 10 troll. I can not believe it has been 5 pages to call this out!

EXACTLY! Can't believe that people are really falling for this. LOL!

What part of a lying, cheater spouse caught up in the illicit thrill of an affair using a vacation opportunity of convenience and his own kid as a pawn/decoy is difficult to believe? This is just par for the course for these types. Affairs in familial homes; illegitimate children; hidden assets; secret rendezvous pads. There isn’t much that would be off limits for people in the throes of a sex/love addiction.

Yep. People also underestimate what kids can understand is wrong even at early ages. But, they don’t stop to think because of their throbbing genitals. People literally risk everything for scuzzy sex with those they don’t even really care about most of the time.

You get old enough and you have seen and heard it all. None of this becomes shocking. People are scum.

Yup. My ex got BJs from his AP in public parks. People are gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a level 10 troll. I can not believe it has been 5 pages to call this out!

EXACTLY! Can't believe that people are really falling for this. LOL!

What part of a lying, cheater spouse caught up in the illicit thrill of an affair using a vacation opportunity of convenience and his own kid as a pawn/decoy is difficult to believe? This is just par for the course for these types. Affairs in familial homes; illegitimate children; hidden assets; secret rendezvous pads. There isn’t much that would be off limits for people in the throes of a sex/love addiction.

Yep. People also underestimate what kids can understand is wrong even at early ages. But, they don’t stop to think because of their throbbing genitals. People literally risk everything for scuzzy sex with those they don’t even really care about most of the time.

You get old enough and you have seen and heard it all. None of this becomes shocking. People are scum.

Yup. My ex got BJs from his AP in public parks. People are gross.

They are lucky they were arrested. Nasty little f-ers.

[Anonymous]

So sorry op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sorry op

+1 OP, get yourself an attorney. Consult with one privately.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry op

+1 OP, get yourself an attorney. Consult with one privately.

I say this because all this is nonsense and he is involving your kids in his nonsense. Bad bad sign. He will be a PITA during a divorce as well.

I hope you have funds for an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I know other commenters have said this but I would stop confronting him about it for now and gather solid evidence and prepare for a divorce. Maybe it’s nothing but if you keep pushing the issue he might see the writing on the wall and drain your bank accounts.

In fact I would suggest shifting some monies into a personal account that is ONLY in YOUR name BEFORE confronting him. And consulting the attorney. ALL BEFORE confrontation. But if you do only one, make it the personal account ONLY in YOUR name.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a level 10 troll. I can not believe it has been 5 pages to call this out!

EXACTLY! Can't believe that people are really falling for this. LOL!

What part of a lying, cheater spouse caught up in the illicit thrill of an affair using a vacation opportunity of convenience and his own kid as a pawn/decoy is difficult to believe? This is just par for the course for these types. Affairs in familial homes; illegitimate children; hidden assets; secret rendezvous pads. There isn’t much that would be off limits for people in the throes of a sex/love addiction.

Yep. People also underestimate what kids can understand is wrong even at early ages. But, they don’t stop to think because of their throbbing genitals. People literally risk everything for scuzzy sex with those they don’t even really care about most of the time.

You get old enough and you have seen and heard it all. None of this becomes shocking. People are scum.

People aren't scum. People are people. Doing what they were literally biologically designed to do in order to perpetuate the species.

It would be better for everyone if people recognized this and stopped treating people like evil disgusting scum bags because they want to have sex with someone new after 20 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a level 10 troll. I can not believe it has been 5 pages to call this out!

EXACTLY! Can't believe that people are really falling for this. LOL!

What part of a lying, cheater spouse caught up in the illicit thrill of an affair using a vacation opportunity of convenience and his own kid as a pawn/decoy is difficult to believe? This is just par for the course for these types. Affairs in familial homes; illegitimate children; hidden assets; secret rendezvous pads. There isn’t much that would be off limits for people in the throes of a sex/love addiction.

Yep. People also underestimate what kids can understand is wrong even at early ages. But, they don’t stop to think because of their throbbing genitals. People literally risk everything for scuzzy sex with those they don’t even really care about most of the time.

You get old enough and you have seen and heard it all. None of this becomes shocking. People are scum.

People aren't scum. People are people. Doing what they were literally biologically designed to do in order to perpetuate the species.

It would be better for everyone if people recognized this and stopped treating people like evil disgusting scum bags because they want to have sex with someone new after 20 years.

I agree with the fact that sometimes biological urges conflict with societal rules. OP has to stay level-headed and consult a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a level 10 troll. I can not believe it has been 5 pages to call this out!

EXACTLY! Can't believe that people are really falling for this. LOL!

What part of a lying, cheater spouse caught up in the illicit thrill of an affair using a vacation opportunity of convenience and his own kid as a pawn/decoy is difficult to believe? This is just par for the course for these types. Affairs in familial homes; illegitimate children; hidden assets; secret rendezvous pads. There isn’t much that would be off limits for people in the throes of a sex/love addiction.

Yep. People also underestimate what kids can understand is wrong even at early ages. But, they don’t stop to think because of their throbbing genitals. People literally risk everything for scuzzy sex with those they don’t even really care about most of the time.

You get old enough and you have seen and heard it all. None of this becomes shocking. People are scum.

People aren't scum. People are people. Doing what they were literally biologically designed to do in order to perpetuate the species.

It would be better for everyone if people recognized this and stopped treating people like evil disgusting scum bags because they want to have sex with someone new after 20 years.

Nobody is biologically designed to cheat in front of their kids.

[Anonymous]

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People aren't scum. People are people. Doing what they were literally biologically designed to do in order to perpetuate the species.

It would be better for everyone if people recognized this and stopped treating people like evil disgusting scum bags because they want to have sex with someone new after 20 years.

People aren't scum because they desire sex with someone new. They're scum because they lie to their spouses to do it.

[Anonymous]

Cheating. What an ass.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Affairs are characterized by secrecy. This is an affair.

Also, OP, my exBIL did something similar to my sister. His company was having a conference near Disney, and my sister didn't plan to take time off for his work conference. He offered to take their 5 year old DD because lots of other people were bringing their kids, and they could explore the park.

His affair partner was bringing *her* kid. They got adjoining rooms, and the kids slept in one while they slept in the other. My niece didn't mention the woman or her child when they returned home. But then she started tearing her hair out by the roots and acting out at school. My sister would be called in for conferences, and everyone would discuss why little niece had suddenly started having serious problems. It was only after the affair came to light that my sister learned the truth. ExBIL, of course, has never acknowledged the stress it caused his own daughter.

Not sure why anyone would call you a troll.

That’s awful.

I had no idea the extent of my FIL’s awfulness until midlife my husband had a crisis and he did stuff like above with my husband. Plant him in front of a TV with strange women’s kids while he was cheating on his mom. He was a perfectionist for 45 years of his life until he started spiraling..and bingo had an affair.

I am worried about the kid that had to be the one to tell his mom that dad had another woman in the cabin with them. Kid likely saw and felt many things were wrong and that secret had done a lot of damage.

Ugh. That is heartbreaking. To put that kind of burden of secrecy on a child is cruel, selfish, and damaging.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

People aren't scum. People are people. Doing what they were literally biologically designed to do in order to perpetuate the species.

It would be better for everyone if people recognized this and stopped treating people like evil disgusting scum bags because they want to have sex with someone new after 20 years.

People aren't scum because they desire sex with someone new. They're scum because they lie to their spouses to do it.

BS. The women (or men) who lose their minds over their husbands cheating would do the exact same thing if their spouse told them they wanted to sleep with someone else. People lie about cheating because they know their spouse feels ownership over their partner's body.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

People aren't scum. People are people. Doing what they were literally biologically designed to do in order to perpetuate the species.

It would be better for everyone if people recognized this and stopped treating people like evil disgusting scum bags because they want to have sex with someone new after 20 years.

People aren't scum because they desire sex with someone new. They're scum because they lie to their spouses to do it.

BS. The women (or men) who lose their minds over their husbands cheating would do the exact same thing if their spouse told them they wanted to sleep with someone else. People lie about cheating because they know their spouse feels ownership over their partner's body.

You’re conflating at least three different things here.

And you sound like you’re getting all your info from Sex at Dawn. That is not an accurate book, go do some research on why.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

People aren't scum. People are people. Doing what they were literally biologically designed to do in order to perpetuate the species.

It would be better for everyone if people recognized this and stopped treating people like evil disgusting scum bags because they want to have sex with someone new after 20 years.

People aren't scum because they desire sex with someone new. They're scum because they lie to their spouses to do it.

BS. The women (or men) who lose their minds over their husbands cheating would do the exact same thing if their spouse told them they wanted to sleep with someone else. People lie about cheating because they know their spouse feels ownership over their partner's body.

People lie because they're cowards. I ended a relationship because I had a desire to cheat and knew my partner didn't want to open the relationship (yes, I asked).