Pretty sure my husband is cheating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm like 99% certain that other kid is your DH's child. I'm sorry Op.

+100

That’s why he keeps bringing your kid(s) with him to hang out with this other kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very suspicious. I don’t buy the story of “all the other friends cancelled at the last minute and only the lady was able to go.” I bet that was the plan all along.

+1
You should hire a PI.
You should start saving money on the side for a potential lawyer consult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did the friends confirm the made and canceled plans to YOU?

Unfortunately, you can't trust friends in these situations. know of one to many situations where a husband or wife was cheating and friends and family had no problem covering for them.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband who has more holidays than I do, had planned to rent a house with our kids and some friends in the State where he grew up while I had to go home. Then his friends canceled and only a single woman, a friend of his friends was able to come with her kid.
I was not too thrilled about the idea of him spending a week with a single woman but I am not controlling and I let it go.
Then, he was supposed to leave our kids with their grandparents and spent four days alone, something he had talked about for months. At the last minute, he changed his plan and instead of spending these 4 days alone, he had decided to keep one kid with him leaving the others with the Grandparents. While talking with our kid, I learned that my husband had “forgot” to mention that he had also invited the single woman and her kid with him to that other place. His explanation was that suddenly, he did not need to spend 4 days alone and that he had done it to please our kid who likes the other kid so much and wanted to spend more time with the kid.
My husband is telling me that I am crazy and that he did nothing wrong with this woman. I don’t believe a word of it. Should I believe him?

No you should not believe him. First, his friends didn't cancel, they were never coming. Second, the trip alone was never a trip alone - it was with the other woman. Then she was unable to leave her kid, so he brought one of his own along to keep hers company. Then he lied by omission. He spent a week and a half with another woman and he's trying to tell you that you're crazy? LOL, that's a good one.

Yes it’s called gaslighting. This fcuk is definitely cheating.

[Anonymous]

What time did the kids go to bed every night?

[Anonymous]

If your hubby IS in fact cheating then he must be very sloppy.

If I were you, I would automatically assume that he was cheating on me based on everything you brought up.
And of course he will deny it until he is blue in the face.

However keep digging until you get to the bottom of this.
I would not simply let it go.

[Anonymous]

A lot of mom's on here would put one of those kid GPS things buried in the car trunk under the rug, and put a voice activated recorder under his seat. somewhere he won't see it, even if car wash vacuums car.

[Anonymous]

Wow! That he went on vacation with another woman is ENOUGH for me! I can’t get pass this, to wade through all of the other bullcrap😡

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do yourself a favor and act like you buy the story so he lets his guard down. Start digging. I’m so sorry!

I should have also said I used this method to trap my Cheating ex. I used the evidence collected by top PIs, which was embarrassing to him and potentially detrimental to his career, to force a very generous settlement. It would never have happened had I not backed off, played it cool, and let him dig his own hole. So glad I got that advice and heeded it.

+1, my husband was viscously gaslighting me so I gaslighted him by acting like I believed everything he said until I had the evidence I needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm like 99% certain that other kid is your DH's child. I'm sorry Op.

+1
The simple explanation is the correct one.

[Anonymous]

I think your DH is likely cheating.
I would not assume the other kid is his, unless you think there is fine way he has been secretly funneling money her way.

I agree with PP who suspect that it’s because she needed to bring her kid along and wanted them to entertain each other. (My bet is that your kid that he chose was close in age/sex of her kid,) A single mom wouldn’t want to or be able to leave her young kid at home just to have a multi night rendezvous. (Could have made her feel guilty, overnight sitter cost, etc.)

My ex did this. Not a vacation but just dates - took our son for ice cream with AP and her kid and to a play. Of course my kid told me…. Because “I don’t even like that kid because he’s whiny” lol. My DH was not very smart either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband who has more holidays than I do, had planned to rent a house with our kids and some friends in the State where he grew up while I had to go home. Then his friends canceled and only a single woman, a friend of his friends was able to come with her kid.
I was not too thrilled about the idea of him spending a week with a single woman but I am not controlling and I let it go.
Then, he was supposed to leave our kids with their grandparents and spent four days alone, something he had talked about for months. At the last minute, he changed his plan and instead of spending these 4 days alone, he had decided to keep one kid with him leaving the others with the Grandparents. While talking with our kid, I learned that my husband had “forgot” to mention that he had also invited the single woman and her kid with him to that other place. His explanation was that suddenly, he did not need to spend 4 days alone and that he had done it to please our kid who likes the other kid so much and wanted to spend more time with the kid.
My husband is telling me that I am crazy and that he did nothing wrong with this woman. I don’t believe a word of it. Should I believe him?

If your husband and the single woman did not know each other or were only acquaintances, it's strange they would want to go on vacation and share a house with a person they barely know. That part is suspicious. But if he was cheating, wouldn't it had been easier to drop off all of the kinds at the grandparents and then spend his four days "alone" while secretly meeting the woman at her hotel/rental house?

[Anonymous]

He’s cheating. The kids were used as decoys. Like “this is innocent because Timmy and Bobby are with us”. Meanwhile park them in front of a DVD and bang away. Probably a trail run to get the kids to know each other too, as future step/brothers and all.

Want a sicko. In no way, shape or form is what went down even remotely okay in a marriage.

Put on your flammable gear and deflect the major gaslighting happening here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s cheating. The kids were used as decoys. Like “this is innocent because Timmy and Bobby are with us”. Meanwhile park them in front of a DVD and bang away. Probably a trail run to get the kids to know each other too, as future step/brothers and all.

Want a sicko. In no way, shape or form is what went down even remotely okay in a marriage.

Put on your flammable gear and deflect the major gaslighting happening here.

*trial

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s cheating. The kids were used as decoys. Like “this is innocent because Timmy and Bobby are with us”. Meanwhile park them in front of a DVD and bang away. Probably a trail run to get the kids to know each other too, as future step/brothers and all.

Want a sicko. In no way, shape or form is what went down even remotely okay in a marriage.

Put on your flammable gear and deflect the major gaslighting happening here.

*trial

And her husband was likely not suspicious because she took the kid with her. Her leaving on her own would have raised more questions. These two are major scum.