Pretty sure my husband is cheating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:, why would he bring a kid if he was cheating wouldn’t he get caught more with a witness??

Because they don't get amorous in front of the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:, why would he bring a kid if he was cheating wouldn’t he get caught more with a witness??

Because they don't get amorous in front of the kids.

She doesn’t have childcare? One kid to keep the other entertained?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait I’m so confused? It almost sounds crazy enough to be plausible haha what was he thinking? Why didn’t he mention it? Are those two kids really good friends? I have so many questions but it doesn’t sound like cheating mostly because I could see it happening with my plans too and it would be an extended play date for the kid but …still so many questions haha also, why would he bring a kid if he was cheating wouldn’t he get caught more with a witness??

DP.

He probably used the kid to throw off any suspicions. If he is not cheating, or needs a lot of help with being a functioning adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband who has more holidays than I do, had planned to rent a house with our kids and some friends in the State where he grew up while I had to go home. Then his friends canceled and only a single woman, a friend of his friends was able to come with her kid.
I was not too thrilled about the idea of him spending a week with a single woman but I am not controlling and I let it go.
Then, he was supposed to leave our kids with their grandparents and spent four days alone, something he had talked about for months. At the last minute, he changed his plan and instead of spending these 4 days alone, he had decided to keep one kid with him leaving the others with the Grandparents. While talking with our kid, I learned that my husband had “forgot” to mention that he had also invited the single woman and her kid with him to that other place. His explanation was that suddenly, he did not need to spend 4 days alone and that he had done it to please our kid who likes the other kid so much and wanted to spend more time with the kid.
My husband is telling me that I am crazy and that he did nothing wrong with this woman. I don’t believe a word of it. Should I believe him?

No you should not believe him. First, his friends didn't cancel, they were never coming. Second, the trip alone was never a trip alone - it was with the other woman. Then she was unable to leave her kid, so he brought one of his own along to keep hers company. Then he lied by omission. He spent a week and a half with another woman and he's trying to tell you that you're crazy? LOL, that's a good one.

[Anonymous]

I hope he is sleeping on the couch.

[Anonymous]

Did the friends confirm the made and canceled plans to YOU?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did the friends confirm the made and canceled plans to YOU?

Unfortunately, you can't trust friends in these situations. know of one to many situations where a husband or wife was cheating and friends and family had no problem covering for them.

[Anonymous]

You should listen to the podcast Bad Bad Thing. It's not that long, six episodes I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm like 99% certain that other kid is your DH's child. I'm sorry Op.

Oh dear, may be true. Or just cheating. you can play dumb, like oh really, her kid was there? I think you're lying, what's kids name? Then get kid name. Maybe you can get birth record somehow

[Anonymous]

Just taking a trip with another woman is wrong. That alone is like cheating.

[Anonymous]

Do yourself a favor and act like you buy the story so he lets his guard down. Start digging. I’m so sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do yourself a favor and act like you buy the story so he lets his guard down. Start digging. I’m so sorry!

That’s what I would do too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do yourself a favor and act like you buy the story so he lets his guard down. Start digging. I’m so sorry!

That’s what I would do too.

This is good advice. And consult with a lawyer sooner rather than later. Your main goal should be leaving this marriage with as many of the assets that you are entitled to.

[Anonymous]

Well, he sounds like a dumbass. Don’t know if he’s cheating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do yourself a favor and act like you buy the story so he lets his guard down. Start digging. I’m so sorry!

I should have also said I used this method to trap my Cheating ex. I used the evidence collected by top PIs, which was embarrassing to him and potentially detrimental to his career, to force a very generous settlement. It would never have happened had I not backed off, played it cool, and let him dig his own hole. So glad I got that advice and heeded it.