"You’re not my type."

[Anonymous]

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So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I am 5'4" and 130 lbs, and would not classify myself as "petite." I'm average, and that is fine.

Ha nope. The average BMI of a woman is 26. Yours is 22ish.

Also petite sized clothes are made for women up to 5’4. You are literally petite.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

Wow, no. You enjoy being a bully. And yes, things clearly bother you because you are so reactionary.

[Anonymous]

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.


I am 5'4" and 130 lbs, and would not classify myself as "petite." I'm average, and that is fine.


Ha nope. The average BMI of a woman is 26. Yours is 22ish.

Also petite sized clothes are made for women up to 5’4. You are literally petite.

Well, that is nice news for me on the BMI front. However, I cannot wear petite clothing - the sleeves do not fit correctly and the pants legs are just very slightly too short. I purchase regular sizes and have them taken up.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

Wow, no. You enjoy being a bully. And yes, things clearly bother you because you are so reactionary.

You know literally nothing about me and you do not know the definition of being a bully. If somebody who isn’t my friend says “wow, I really didn’t expect you to do so well on this project,” I might just ask what they mean.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

Seriously? That's not the same thing at all. OP doesn't know this guy and her only interaction with him has been on this dating site, where he indicated that he was not interested in her due to her size. A dude like that is not going to feel guilty or uncomfortable. OP needs to disengage from this and move on, this guy is a loser and not worth more thought or energy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

Wow, no. You enjoy being a bully. And yes, things clearly bother you because you are so reactionary.

You know literally nothing about me and you do not know the definition of being a bully. If somebody who isn’t my friend says “wow, I really didn’t expect you to do so well on this project,” I might just ask what they mean.

The bolded explains exactly who you are. Which is a bully. Maybe you’re rethinking your behavior; that’s a good thing.

[Anonymous]

I think it was Dita Von Teese who said, “you can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the whole world, and you’re still going to meet someone who doesn’t like peaches.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do people not know that there is no polite way to comment on a stranger’s weight?

apparently, women are supposed to know that this is how we are judged, and not take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it was Dita Von Teese who said, “you can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the whole world, and you’re still going to meet someone who doesn’t like peaches.”

again - it’s FINE to have preferences. what is not fine is to comment on someone’s body/income/race/whatever, unsolicited. An email on a dating site is not an invitation to comment on those things.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

A guy like that is not feeling uncomfortable, especially when their interaction is soley through writing through this dating site. What he is thinking is, "I am so hot and such a great catch that this girl is trying to talk me into changing my standards to include her so that I will date her."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

Wow, no. You enjoy being a bully. And yes, things clearly bother you because you are so reactionary.

You know literally nothing about me and you do not know the definition of being a bully. If somebody who isn’t my friend says “wow, I really didn’t expect you to do so well on this project,” I might just ask what they mean.

The bolded explains exactly who you are. Which is a bully. Maybe you’re rethinking your behavior; that’s a good thing.

You must not have elementary school kids who have been taught what a bully is. Pointing out the implications of somebody’s comments is not bully behavior and even if it was, it has to be said more than once for it to actually be bullying. I am generally a nice person but if somebody says something inappropriate I may or may not let it slide. Maybe you think it’s totally fine for somebody to comment on a stranger’s size, but I don’t, and I think it’s fine to call them out.

[Anonymous]

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OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

A guy like that is not feeling uncomfortable, especially when their interaction is soley through writing through this dating site. What he is thinking is, "I am so hot and such a great catch that this girl is trying to talk me into changing my standards to include her so that I will date her."

Exactly. He just sees her desperation.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

Wow, no. You enjoy being a bully. And yes, things clearly bother you because you are so reactionary.

You know literally nothing about me and you do not know the definition of being a bully. If somebody who isn’t my friend says “wow, I really didn’t expect you to do so well on this project,” I might just ask what they mean.

The bolded explains exactly who you are. Which is a bully. Maybe you’re rethinking your behavior; that’s a good thing.

You must not have elementary school kids who have been taught what a bully is. Pointing out the implications of somebody’s comments is not bully behavior and even if it was, it has to be said more than once for it to actually be bullying. I am generally a nice person but if somebody says something inappropriate I may or may not let it slide. Maybe you think it’s totally fine for somebody to comment on a stranger’s size, but I don’t, and I think it’s fine to call them out.

Keep digging in. It just solidifies who you are.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So I pushed it. I asked him what he considered petite.

He said 5’1-5’4 and no more than 125-130lbs.

I told him that some 14 year olds don’t even fit in that category and he blocked me.

Okay, so he proved what a lot of people here were saying--that "petite" is now a word that doesn't just mean short, it means slim. So everyone claiming "oh, he just likes tall girls, it's not about weight" is full of it.

That’s true. It’s the same with “into fitness.” It’s typically just a euphemism for being thin. They would make an exception for a sedentary girl with their body type.

(I still don’t think OP should have pushed it though, unless she was just trying to mess with his head, in which case, brava).

What are you bravaing about? There’s no messing with his head? His head thinks OP is nuts and she proved that point very well.

Oh come on. It can be fun to push somebody on a point like this to make them feel uncomfortable. Like if somebody makes a passive aggressive comment, I don’t let it bother me, I just sweetly ask “oh what do you mean by that?”

Wow, no. You enjoy being a bully. And yes, things clearly bother you because you are so reactionary.

You know literally nothing about me and you do not know the definition of being a bully. If somebody who isn’t my friend says “wow, I really didn’t expect you to do so well on this project,” I might just ask what they mean.

The bolded explains exactly who you are. Which is a bully. Maybe you’re rethinking your behavior; that’s a good thing.

You must not have elementary school kids who have been taught what a bully is. Pointing out the implications of somebody’s comments is not bully behavior and even if it was, it has to be said more than once for it to actually be bullying. I am generally a nice person but if somebody says something inappropriate I may or may not let it slide. Maybe you think it’s totally fine for somebody to comment on a stranger’s size, but I don’t, and I think it’s fine to call them out.

Keep digging in. It just solidifies who you are.

Nice ad hominem.