BF failed to help me with something very important

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I am working on my US driver license but Because of Covid I couldn’t get to the dmv
So he wanted to add me to his insurance until I got my license
As fast as possible
I only wanted him to help bc he invited me to live in his house and talking about marrying me, so I figured it wouldn’t be a big deal for him, especially after I helped to take care of his handicapped brother because the parents didn’t want strangers in the house
I did a lot of other nice stuff , because I saw this as a step of us taking the next step, and help each other
So I’m very sad but also very mad too because he left me hanging
I also told him he doesn’t have to do it, my firmed was helping me out, but bc I was going to live with him and he said he wants to do it
I said you don’t have to, totally fine, but tell me BEFORE I move in so I can look for somebody else help me
I don’t understand either, he didn’t even make an effort to call the insurance company nothing
It looks to me like he lied, he didn’t want to do it, then when I was pushing him bc he said he will do it, and I needed the car within a week, he realized now he’s stuck, so he send me to his mom who just told me to get my license myself , basically indirectly telling me they don’t want to help me
Am I overreacting? Ty!

I don't understand this. If you don't have a license, he can't add you to his insurance? And once you get your license, adding you to his insurance is likely going to be ungodly expensive -- considering you helped buy his appliances, maybe he cannot afford it?

Since he involved his mother, that was probably his way of telling you his mother (wisely) doesn't approve of this ask to add you to his insurance -- huge liability issue. You aren't married. The fact that she showed you how to do it rather than just doing it for you is her way of teaching you to fish rather than giving you a fish.

Please stop mentioning the brother. You act like that makes you a saint for which you are owed something. It's repulsive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have a valid license but were planning to drive this car to and from work anyway? This story is odd, but it sounds like you were asking him to commit insurance fraud.

Well, she could have an international license.

There's no such thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Are you a child? If not, why aren't you capable of registering a car and buying insurance? You shouldn't need much help with that. The boyfriend's mom gave you a talk to point you in the right direction. It doesn't take much to do these things. Any basic adult should be capable of them.

She's a foreigner and you expect her to be super savvy in legal language and procedures? In how many other languages are you capable of getting your documents; have you ever even tried it?

Well, no, but by her own admission it was all explained to her how to do it.


OP, are you in the US legally?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here
Please people don’t tell me that I’m immature or taking advantage of him
It has nothing to do with money

People come with different issues and in different variety’s
There’s people with medical debt or student loans
People with criminal records
People with DUIs
I have none of this, I simply asked him to add me to his insurance for 2 months, there’s nothing illegal
The point is he said yes and then send me to his mom to say no

Thank you for your responses!!!!

He CANNOT add you to his insurance for two months, OP.

1) You are an unlicensed driver.
2) He doesn't own your car.


You insure CARS not drivers. MAYBE if you were going to drive his car. But otherwise, there is no such thing as adding a girlfriend to one's car insurance for a couple of months.

It sounds lo me like his mother tried to explain this to you and showed you the steps that need to be taken and you're being stubborn and demanding something that cannot be done.

[Anonymous]

OP, your beau “promised” you without understanding what he was agreeing to. I’m guessing he has always been on his parents’ insurance and still is. So then he tells mom “I need to add my gf to our policy” she reacted with “absolutely not.” Boyfriend doesn’t understand insurance and the inherent risks so mom says “I’ll set her straight and explain it to her.”

BF made a promise he couldn’t keep. And OP is asking for something inappropriate.

Also I’m not sure you need to be a licensed driver in order to register a car a purchase insurance. If I collect vintage cars but I don’t drive I’m reasonably certain an insurer would take my money and sell me an insurance policy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds immature and irresponsible. Unemployment, buying a car, not being able to handle the paperwork. It's all a hot mess on her part.

BF is totally reasonable to not want to help you with this paperwork. It sounds like it will cause his insurance to go up, and may potentially involve fraud. BF probably said he'd help you because he loves you. And then realized what a hot mess you're asking him to do. And now he wants to back out. Totally within his rights to do so.

However, he was super immature by avoiding the issue and having his mom step in.

In sum: OP is the one bringing the drama and being unreasonable. BF's position is reasonable. The way he handled it was not.

ARE YOU SERIOUS? Do you know how many people are unemployed? We’re in a global pandemic and an employment crisis. She was temporarily unemployed, then got a job, which is more than a lot of people can say right now. Smh at you, PP. You’re truly in a bubble if you don’t know anyone this crisis has impacted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your beau “promised” you without understanding what he was agreeing to. I’m guessing he has always been on his parents’ insurance and still is. So then he tells mom “I need to add my gf to our policy” she reacted with “absolutely not.” Boyfriend doesn’t understand insurance and the inherent risks so mom says “I’ll set her straight and explain it to her.”

BF made a promise he couldn’t keep. And OP is asking for something inappropriate.

Also I’m not sure you need to be a licensed driver in order to register a car a purchase insurance. If I collect vintage cars but I don’t drive I’m reasonably certain an insurer would take my money and sell me an insurance policy.

I doubt he is on his parent's car insurance if he has his own place.
I also expect these people are in their 30s or 40s if he has parents in their 70s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound very immature.

OP sounds very needy. Not a good look on a woman.

- man

Well, her boyfriend sounds like a little mama’s boy, tied to her apron strings.

-woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have a valid license but were planning to drive this car to and from work anyway? This story is odd, but it sounds like you were asking him to commit insurance fraud.

Well, she could have an international license.

There's no such thing.

Foreigners can drive on the license issued in their country of origin depending on the country/license. Source: I’ve had many au pairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your beau “promised” you without understanding what he was agreeing to. I’m guessing he has always been on his parents’ insurance and still is. So then he tells mom “I need to add my gf to our policy” she reacted with “absolutely not.” Boyfriend doesn’t understand insurance and the inherent risks so mom says “I’ll set her straight and explain it to her.”

BF made a promise he couldn’t keep. And OP is asking for something inappropriate.

Also I’m not sure you need to be a licensed driver in order to register a car a purchase insurance. If I collect vintage cars but I don’t drive I’m reasonably certain an insurer would take my money and sell me an insurance policy.

Completely agree with this assessment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you know what a gold Diogenes is? I am guessing you do.

You know, if you’re going to try for a sick burn, you should probably double check your work. You’ve only made yourself look like an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a good digger.

Again, IDIOT! If you can’t insult someone properly, please take a seat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have a valid license but were planning to drive this car to and from work anyway? This story is odd, but it sounds like you were asking him to commit insurance fraud.

Well, she could have an international license.

There's no such thing.

Sure there is. https://driving-tests.org/beginner-drivers/international-drivers-license/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the lady who doesn’t get a room at her boyfriends house?

Nailed it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a good digger.

Again, IDIOT! If you can’t insult someone properly, please take a seat.

Aw, did op get her feewings hurt? Poor baby.