BF failed to help me with something very important

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what you're not understanding is that your boyfriend probably can't do what you want him to do.

First, most auto insurers won't cover someone who doesn't hold a U.S. drivers license.

Second, even if he could add you as a driver on his insurance policy, that would only apply to his own vehicle, not to you driving your own separate vehicle.

Third, you generally cannot add a car owned by someone else to your own insurance policy, so he couldn't have added your new car to his policy in order to get your coverage.

In sum, since you didn't already have a U.S. drivers license, he probably was stuck and couldn't help you, even if he wanted to.

This all sounds very "90 Day Fiance."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what you're not understanding is that your boyfriend probably can't do what you want him to do.

First, most auto insurers won't cover someone who doesn't hold a U.S. drivers license.

Second, even if he could add you as a driver on his insurance policy, that would only apply to his own vehicle, not to you driving your own separate vehicle.

Third, you generally cannot add a car owned by someone else to your own insurance policy, so he couldn't have added your new car to his policy in order to get your coverage.

In sum, since you didn't already have a U.S. drivers license, he probably was stuck and couldn't help you, even if he wanted to.

Ok I understand if he maybe couldn’t do it law wise
But don’t you think he should have told me himself?
He could have said oh I called geico and I can’t do it sorry
I’d say ok no problem thanks for TRYING
But he didn’t even try

OP, you live there. ASK HIM.

We can sit and speculate, advise you, and go in circles all day. One person knows the answer, and one person wants answer. Those two people apparently live together and one of them thinks this is the next step in the relationship. Those two people need to sit and have an open Conversation about this if they want it resolved, OR, one person needs to terminate the relationship if they already find that the bahviour that has already occurred is erroneous enough to do so.

Like every story, there are details on both sides that don’t make their way into an internet post, so responders will fill in the blanks based on their own knowledge and past experiences.

Talk with him. Ask the questions. Then stay or get out based on that. Maybe mom wasn’t supposed to talk to you, maybe she is pressuring him, maybe he’s a flake. Find out, then make your decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like his mom told him not to add you to his insurance until you're actually married. Which is probably good advice.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm getting a very weird vibe off this situation. Did you condition moving in on him helping you with the car insurance? I'm not really sure why you're tying the two together so much.

Also, how did his mom "indirectly" tell you what to do?

I’m tying it together because I still need help with it
He didn’t do it, it’s been a month, my friend is still doing it for me,
but she doesn’t feel comfortable anymore because I don’t live with her anymore, that’s why I need to move out
The other question is what to do about this relationship
If he’ll keep sending me to his mom about every issue, I can’t do it

His mom told me indirectly by saying that I should get my own license and then I can get the insurance
I know that duh I’ve been working on that

[Anonymous]

OP, do you know what a gold Diogenes is? I am guessing you do.

[Anonymous]

OP >>>
I am just wondering how old are you?

Only because you sound very young.

I am not completely sure of this, but I think you need to have a DL to even qualify to be on another person’s car insurance.
And even if he did in fact help you out, you do realize that you need a DL in order to operate a motor vehicle legally?

[Anonymous]

OP Either you don’t understand US car insurance rules ( you can’t add someone to your insurance easily and especially without a valid US DL). It’s an inflexible rule.
Or you can’t afford it. Car insurance is expensive.
If you stay with him you are marrying his mom also.

[Anonymous]

I'm not saying she's a gold digger, but she aint messing with.....hmm, now.....lets see, who isnt she messing with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what you're not understanding is that your boyfriend probably can't do what you want him to do.

First, most auto insurers won't cover someone who doesn't hold a U.S. drivers license.

Second, even if he could add you as a driver on his insurance policy, that would only apply to his own vehicle, not to you driving your own separate vehicle.

Third, you generally cannot add a car owned by someone else to your own insurance policy, so he couldn't have added your new car to his policy in order to get your coverage.

In sum, since you didn't already have a U.S. drivers license, he probably was stuck and couldn't help you, even if he wanted to.

This all sounds very "90 Day Fiance."

x2. OP on that green card time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound very immature.

OP sounds very needy. Not a good look on a woman.

- man

At least she doesn't run to her mom for every problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what you're not understanding is that your boyfriend probably can't do what you want him to do.

First, most auto insurers won't cover someone who doesn't hold a U.S. drivers license.

Second, even if he could add you as a driver on his insurance policy, that would only apply to his own vehicle, not to you driving your own separate vehicle.

Third, you generally cannot add a car owned by someone else to your own insurance policy, so he couldn't have added your new car to his policy in order to get your coverage.

In sum, since you didn't already have a U.S. drivers license, he probably was stuck and couldn't help you, even if he wanted to.

This all sounds very "90 Day Fiance."

x2. OP on that green card time.

Don't be ridiculous.
She wouldn't be able to apply for a license at all if she wasn't in a legal status already. She wouldn't push for a less important document (license) if she needed a more important one (green card)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm getting a very weird vibe off this situation. Did you condition moving in on him helping you with the car insurance? I'm not really sure why you're tying the two together so much.

Also, how did his mom "indirectly" tell you what to do?

I’m tying it together because I still need help with it
He didn’t do it, it’s been a month, my friend is still doing it for me,
but she doesn’t feel comfortable anymore because I don’t live with her anymore, that’s why I need to move out
The other question is what to do about this relationship
If he’ll keep sending me to his mom about every issue, I can’t do it

His mom told me indirectly by saying that I should get my own license and then I can get the insurance
I know that duh I’ve been working on that

So move out, break up with him, and become self-sufficient.

I suspect you won’t, though.

[Anonymous]

Op was intentionally not forthcoming that this was all about him putting her car under his insurance. She knows it's wrong and wouldn't admit it here until all the posters pushed the issue.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like a good digger.

[Anonymous]

That’s really stuff you should be able to do yourself. You don’t sound very educated. Maybe it would be good to live on your own so that you can be one more independent.