DH won’t let me track his Phone

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

I don’t worry about it. I trust my husband and know he’s not tracking me. I also have no need to track him. I think you and I are saying the same thing. It’s OP that has the problem.

Yea cause her H is most likely cheating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife tracks me. I just turn off my phone when I do not want to be tracked.

Yep forget the phone. Let him think you're monitoring his phone OP. Stop bringing it up, but buy a decent gps with a magnet. Put it under his car. If someone steals the car you'll know where it is - another plus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your husband is tracking you;
But will not let you track him....

Then like someone else posted, there is something very shady going on.
Your husband seems a bit of a control freak.
And you are not an irresponsible child.

That would be a red flag for me. Stop the silly phone stuff, he'll simply turn it off and on if he's up to no good. That's what my friends dh did, but she ended up using a gps and finally a PI because he was parking at random shopping centers and streets for a few hours, lol. Obviously she suspected OW was picking him up, sure enough Mr. Smarty pants got caught and his life changed for the worst...all over garbage. *Seriously if you're going to track someone NEVER let them know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

If he asks where I've been, I will tell him. I will not permit technology to play Big Brother in my marriage. See the difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

If he asks where I've been, I will tell him. I will not permit technology to play Big Brother in my marriage. See the difference?

No. Why is he asking you where you have been, that is very invasive. Doesn't he trust you, does he track your every move.

See how ridiculous that sounds. Just because the find a friend is on your phones does not mean they are tracking your every move. If you are married to somebody that would track your every move, you have more problems than your iphone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a good precautionary measure. If either of us loses our phone, or is out and gets injured or incapacitated, we will have the ability to find each other or find the phone. He is paranoid about companies tracking him, and refuses to do it, but he’s fine with him being able to track my phone. Am I asking too much? Or is he being over paranoid?

Does he want to track you? Did he ask to do that, or did you initiate it? If he wants to track you but won’t let you track him, that’s obviously not okay.

I don’t track DH and he doesn’t track me. It seems intrusive.

again, JFC. READ the f'ing op - SHE (the OP) wants to track HIM. her DH doesn't want to track her or to be tracked by her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a good precautionary measure. If either of us loses our phone, or is out and gets injured or incapacitated, we will have the ability to find each other or find the phone. He is paranoid about companies tracking him, and refuses to do it, but he’s fine with him being able to track my phone. Am I asking too much? Or is he being over paranoid?

Does he want to track you? Did he ask to do that, or did you initiate it? If he wants to track you but won’t let you track him, that’s obviously not okay.

I don’t track DH and he doesn’t track me. It seems intrusive.

again, JFC. READ the f'ing op - SHE (the OP) wants to track HIM. her DH doesn't want to track her or to be tracked by her.

Well, my reading comprehension is pretty good but I see my intent was unclear in writing. I asked her if he wants to track her. She says he is “fine” with it, which makes me think she initiated it. So my point is simply that she’s fine with him tracking her - he probably doesn’t bother - but she also wants to track him, and he doesn’t want her to. And I see nothing wrong with that. I don’t think spouses need to monitor each other’s every move. It suggests anxiety or paranoia or a simple lack of trust to me.

You don’t need to be so cranky, you know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

If he asks where I've been, I will tell him. I will not permit technology to play Big Brother in my marriage. See the difference?

No. Why is he asking you where you have been, that is very invasive. Doesn't he trust you, does he track your every move.

See how ridiculous that sounds. Just because the find a friend is on your phones does not mean they are tracking your every move. If you are married to somebody that would track your every move, you have more problems than your iphone.

He is asking about my day, because he loves me and is interested in my life. He asks "what did you do today?", not "where were you", and then I mention where I went and what I did. See the difference? You seem a little dim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

If he asks where I've been, I will tell him. I will not permit technology to play Big Brother in my marriage. See the difference?

No. Why is he asking you where you have been, that is very invasive. Doesn't he trust you, does he track your every move.

See how ridiculous that sounds. Just because the find a friend is on your phones does not mean they are tracking your every move. If you are married to somebody that would track your every move, you have more problems than your iphone.

He is asking about my day, because he loves me and is interested in my life. He asks "what did you do today?", not "where were you", and then I mention where I went and what I did. See the difference? You seem a little dim.

and I check his locations so I can make sure his martini is ready when he walks in the door and do not interrupt his conference call. See the difference? You seem paranoid and dim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

This is why to this day, I only carry around a land line phone so nobody can track me.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of these pro-tracking spouses seem to be terribly anxious messes. Yikes. Thank God we trust each other and give each other a little space and privacy.

[Anonymous]

It is really not necessary for you to track your husband's phone. Like really, really not necessary. My husband and I check in with each other all the time. He knows where I am and I know where he is. We are adults who are entitled to some privacy.