DH won’t let me track his Phone

[Anonymous]

Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

There is seriously something wrong with a person who demands to physically track every move their spouse makes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

There is seriously something wrong with a person who demands to physically track every move their spouse makes.

Then there is something seriously wrong with the H because he tracks her.

Our whole family can track each other... if my H is still at the gym, or 20 minutes from home... I know he will/won’t be home for dinner soon. He could tell me the exact time he would be home so I can plan or he can accept my find my friend request. It’s just easier than texting.

[Anonymous]

No one needs this much information

[Anonymous]

I bet the guy is gay and that’s why he’s hiding gay porn and his assignations.

[Anonymous]

Obviously with people breaking into two camps on this ---- some are for, some are against. Not for nefarious reasons. Respect and honor an individuals choice.

That respect is much more important than any tidbit of information you're going to receive that (you think) makes family life easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

There is seriously something wrong with a person who demands to physically track every move their spouse makes.

Then there is something seriously wrong with the H because he tracks her.

Our whole family can track each other... if my H is still at the gym, or 20 minutes from home... I know he will/won’t be home for dinner soon. He could tell me the exact time he would be home so I can plan or he can accept my find my friend request. It’s just easier than texting.

Jesus Christ, can you read? The OP wants to be tracked because she's concerned about "being incapacitated" and no one knowing where she is. That's fine, but it's on her. Her husband does not share her neurotic fears, so he chooses not to be tracked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Agreed. We track each other and not a big deal. If a wife wants to see where you are, it’s a red flag if he objects so much.

[Anonymous]

If a spouse is crazy, we don't encourage that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to be tracked. It’s weird. I also prefer to not know how often my husband gets fast food or stops for smokes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

I don’t worry about it. I trust my husband and know he’s not tracking me. I also have no need to track him. I think you and I are saying the same thing. It’s OP that has the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a good precautionary measure. If either of us loses our phone, or is out and gets injured or incapacitated, we will have the ability to find each other or find the phone. He is paranoid about companies tracking him, and refuses to do it, but he’s fine with him being able to track my phone. Am I asking too much? Or is he being over paranoid?

Does he want to track you? Did he ask to do that, or did you initiate it? If he wants to track you but won’t let you track him, that’s obviously not okay.

I don’t track DH and he doesn’t track me. It seems intrusive.