DH won’t let me track his Phone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, OP. That would make me suspicious. If he cares so much about companies tracking him, why isn't he concerned about the same thing for his spouse?

Right, this

[Anonymous]

Vote for cheating. My husband set it up for me. Its been great. When my car has broken down a few times, he's been able to easily find me especially in places not easy to find. Its also nice as I don't need to call/text him if I go out and know he's busy working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, OP. That would make me suspicious. If he cares so much about companies tracking him, why isn't he concerned about the same thing for his spouse?

Right, this

Yeah, his logic is off.

[Anonymous]

My ex-husband (married nearly 20 years) refused. Yes, he was cheating.

My kids and I track each other - they're teens now, and they are used to it. It helps me know when they are on the bus, home from school, when soccer is done and they are at the ice cream shop, etc etc.

They track me home from work and demand treats as I drive by the supermarket. This is the new world, OP, and your husband sounds really shady. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Totally suspicious. He’s cheating.

For those of you that say you don’t want all these apps tracking you, just turn off the location in the app. You can control that. I have it turned off for everything except the maps. That comes on only when I open the app. And yes, my spouse and I and our kids are all on Find Friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I asking too much? Or is he being over paranoid?

Doesn’t really matter if he’s not gonna do it. I mean I guess it matters if you need a moral high ground to stand on to feel better, but if he’s not gonna do it what difference does it make who’s proverbially “Right”? What difference does it make whether you’re asking too much or he’s being over paranoid if at the end of the day he’s not budging and won’t let you track his phone?

Accept it.
Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman. I would never allow anyone to track me. Completely invasive. I am with your DH.

Same, I would feel like this was a parent-child relationship. Hard no for me, we don't track each other.

[Anonymous]

This raises a good question. When I divorce my wife and finally get with the woman of my dreams will she want to track my phone? She doesn’t share her location with her current husband. Would she allow me to follow her location? I guess I should have a chat with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman. I would never allow anyone to track me. Completely invasive. I am with your DH.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, OP. That would make me suspicious. If he cares so much about companies tracking him, why isn't he concerned about the same thing for his spouse?

Right, this

Yeah, his logic is off.

Disagree completely. He knows his OP is fine with being tracked, but that doesn’t mean he has to be fine with it for himself. What are the chances that OP’s scenario of being incapacitated will happen? He may lose his phone , I guess, but then he’ll have to get another one and he’s willing to take that risk. I don’t like the idea of it either, Tbh, but I don’t care what my DH does, he can be tracked or not, whatever he wants.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I can think of SO many scenarios where it would be useful, especially for us. Neither of us are very good at seeing text messages, or responding.

Neither of us are good at letting each other know where we are. When I’m with the kids, I don’t hear my phone, and when I’m running or biking or driving, I don’t respond to texts. DH doesn’t always see my texts at work and he of course doesn’t text either when he’s driving, biking. He also notoriously NEVER hears his phone when he’s with the kids somewhere.

We’ve lost each other in amusement parks and other public spaces. It drives me nuts. He comes home anywhere from 5-6:30 and I never know exactly when and he doesn’t text to let me know. So when I’m preparing dinner, I like to know whether we should wait for him or go ahead and eat without him. Sometimes I take kids to the park before dinner or take them on an errand, and DH comes home and finds us gone, so he always texts to see where we are, but most of the time, I dont see his text. I have a health condition but I run and bike really long distances and it makes me feel better knowing DH knows where I’m running and biking just in case I collapse for some reason or am jumped by someone. Yes, that’s one of those less likely scenarios, but it’s still a possibility.

I don’t suspect he’s cheating. He’s just very paranoid about privacy stuff and being tracked by companies, the government, etc. He says there are so many ways to track you now that you have zero anonymity. And He doesn’t trust the government at all- doesn’t believe they regulate it AND that they can and do nefariously use that tracking data to keep monitor people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I can think of SO many scenarios where it would be useful, especially for us. Neither of us are very good at seeing text messages, or responding.

Neither of us are good at letting each other know where we are. When I’m with the kids, I don’t hear my phone, and when I’m running or biking or driving, I don’t respond to texts. DH doesn’t always see my texts at work and he of course doesn’t text either when he’s driving, biking. He also notoriously NEVER hears his phone when he’s with the kids somewhere.

We’ve lost each other in amusement parks and other public spaces. It drives me nuts. He comes home anywhere from 5-6:30 and I never know exactly when and he doesn’t text to let me know. So when I’m preparing dinner, I like to know whether we should wait for him or go ahead and eat without him. Sometimes I take kids to the park before dinner or take them on an errand, and DH comes home and finds us gone, so he always texts to see where we are, but most of the time, I dont see his text. I have a health condition but I run and bike really long distances and it makes me feel better knowing DH knows where I’m running and biking just in case I collapse for some reason or am jumped by someone. Yes, that’s one of those less likely scenarios, but it’s still a possibility.

I don’t suspect he’s cheating. He’s just very paranoid about privacy stuff and being tracked by companies, the government, etc. He says there are so many ways to track you now that you have zero anonymity. And He doesn’t trust the government at all- doesn’t believe they regulate it AND that they can and do nefariously use that tracking data to keep monitor people.

You do realize it’s not HIS paranoia that’s the issue here.
It’s YOUR paranoia that is causing you distress about this matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You do realize it’s not HIS paranoia that’s the issue here.
It’s YOUR paranoia that is causing you distress about this matter.

What are you saying I’m paranoid about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I can think of SO many scenarios where it would be useful, especially for us. Neither of us are very good at seeing text messages, or responding.

Neither of us are good at letting each other know where we are. When I’m with the kids, I don’t hear my phone, and when I’m running or biking or driving, I don’t respond to texts. DH doesn’t always see my texts at work and he of course doesn’t text either when he’s driving, biking. He also notoriously NEVER hears his phone when he’s with the kids somewhere.

We’ve lost each other in amusement parks and other public spaces. It drives me nuts. He comes home anywhere from 5-6:30 and I never know exactly when and he doesn’t text to let me know. So when I’m preparing dinner, I like to know whether we should wait for him or go ahead and eat without him. Sometimes I take kids to the park before dinner or take them on an errand, and DH comes home and finds us gone, so he always texts to see where we are, but most of the time, I dont see his text. I have a health condition but I run and bike really long distances and it makes me feel better knowing DH knows where I’m running and biking just in case I collapse for some reason or am jumped by someone. Yes, that’s one of those less likely scenarios, but it’s still a possibility.

I don’t suspect he’s cheating. He’s just very paranoid about privacy stuff and being tracked by companies, the government, etc. He says there are so many ways to track you now that you have zero anonymity. And He doesn’t trust the government at all- doesn’t believe they regulate it AND that they can and do nefariously use that tracking data to keep monitor people.

I don’t think people need to be in such constant touch. I see your point for you given your health condition if you are out jogging or biking but for the rest of it, just carry on without the information. Eat dinner by x time if he’s not there, answer texts/calls when you see them; surely if you are looking for each other at the amusement park you’ll make a point of looking at texts, otherwise it’s fine not to get an immediate answer.

[Anonymous]

It’s a good thing to have for many reasons but if he is that paranoid about security I’d let it go.